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    I've recently got really close to this guy, we tell each other everything and he's helped me through some tough times... but it's not like that. I always have this feeling that I want to let him know I love him, because I really do love him very much, but more like a brother. I'm worried I'll say it by accident and it'll seem really weird.. but I think I would say it in a pretty casual way so it might not be an issue? I don't know, is it weird to tell a guy you love him when you're not in a relationship/don't want to be in one with him? Can a guy and a girl really be best friends? I'm also worried for when I do eventually meet someone as I'm not sure if he has feelings for me or not, but I don't want to ruin our relationship/hurt his feelings.
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    wait until the bit where he says "I love you like a brother" to be honest it is only as weird as you make it
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've recently got really close to this guy, we tell each other everything and he's helped me through some tough times... but it's not like that. I always have this feeling that I want to let him know I love him, because I really do love him very much, but more like a brother. I'm worried I'll say it by accident and it'll seem really weird.. but I think I would say it in a pretty casual way so it might not be an issue? I don't know, is it weird to tell a guy you love him when you're not in a relationship/don't want to be in one with him? Can a guy and a girl really be best friends? I'm also worried for when I do eventually meet someone as I'm not sure if he has feelings for me or not, but I don't want to ruin our relationship/hurt his feelings.
    Not an issue if you know he doesnt fancy you. If he gets you like a sister then dont see it as a problem. just say 'man, i love you - you are always there for me, like the brother I always wanted'

    done
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    i tell my guy best friend I love him now and then and he says the same... we've been friends for 5 years now so its not weird. and in those 5 years, we've both been with other people.

    going to different unis now so its a bit sad
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    Is it weird to cuddle with a best guy friend? Sometimes I really want to but I don't know how he'd react.
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    Depends what your relationship is like.
    He will know what you are like.
    Presumably you mean you love him as a friend rather than being in love with him?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    is it weird to tell a guy you love him when you're not in a relationship/don't want to be in one with him?
    No, so long as you make it clear it's "like a brother"

    Can a guy and a girl really be best friends?
    Sure, albeit that there's usually some measure of sexual tension involved unless both are butt-ugly

    I'm not sure if he has feelings for me or not, but I don't want to ruin our relationship/hurt his feelings
    That's not very sensible honey. You don't owe any friend sexual abstinence, you have needs. If you ever sense someone is pining you need to help them address that, but understand it is their problem
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've recently got really close to this guy, we tell each other everything and he's helped me through some tough times... but it's not like that. I always have this feeling that I want to let him know I love him, because I really do love him very much, but more like a brother. I'm worried I'll say it by accident and it'll seem really weird.. but I think I would say it in a pretty casual way so it might not be an issue? I don't know, is it weird to tell a guy you love him when you're not in a relationship/don't want to be in one with him? Can a guy and a girl really be best friends? I'm also worried for when I do eventually meet someone as I'm not sure if he has feelings for me or not, but I don't want to ruin our relationship/hurt his feelings.
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    I say it to my friends but they girls and it's kinda different ❤️
    But for a guy, na... 😁
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    I get the feeling that women are a lot more emotional than men, so he would probably find it weird. Unless he's in touch with his sensitive side.
 
 
 
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