Playing hard to get?

I met this guy at a party and thought he was fit, but I thought he was toooo fit and out of my league, so I didn't really think much of it. Then a few days later my friends told me that he liked me and wanted my number.
He phoned me yesterday asking if he could take me out, so obviously I said yes. Then I said "So what time are you picking me up?" and he said "Is 8 o clock ok? Where abouts do you live?" and I said "That's fine. I'm sure you'll find it" and he was like "but I don't your address" so I just said "Well you'll have to get your homework done then, won't you?" and he was like "Oooh keeping me on my toes are we?" and then I said I'd see him Wednesday at 8.

Now i'm thinking maybe that was a bad idea because what if he doesn't come? I've heard he's a bit of a player though and I know he's been around a bit, so I don't want to seem too easy.
Do you think I should carry on playing hard to get or let on that I think he is SO FIT? :wink:

Reply 1

ph9

10

sounds a bit cheesy to me.

you don't need to play extremely hard to get if you're (understandably) not going to dribble all over him.

if he's a player and you just want to keep him interested and find you different/whatever, i'd just be aloof rather than suggest things that might quickly bore him away (i.e. making him find out where you live without you telling him, bit ott imo)

Reply 2

Dionysus

15

I'm sure he'll turn up. And don't play hard to get, it's bloody annoying and he'll probably lose interest. Actually don't wait any longer to make it obvious - go for it on Wednesday.

Reply 3

ph9

10

Dionysus

I'm sure he'll turn up. And don't play hard to get, it's bloody annoying and he'll probably lose interest. Actually don't wait any longer to make it obvious - go for it on Wednesday.

thing is though, she's said she doesn't want to come on too easy. i think going for it would kind of piss on that bonfire

Reply 4

Crystaltears

OP

12

Yeah, when I hung up the phone I was like "hmmm....maybe I shouldn't have done that!". It was just all the way through the phone call it was like he was saying "Can I take you out?" and I was like "YES" and he was like "Do you like Chinese?" and I was like "YES".

I suppose if he actually goes through the bother of finding out then he must like me. I wouldn't have bothered finding his lol.

Reply 5

Crystaltears

OP

12

Dionysus

I'm sure he'll turn up. And don't play hard to get, it's bloody annoying and he'll probably lose interest. Actually don't wait any longer to make it obvious - go for it on Wednesday.

Haha, I probably wont play games and stuff because I know it gets all confusing, but apparently he's been known to shag you and then not call back, so I don't want him to think he can treat me like ****.
I'll see what he's like on Wednesday.

Reply 6

ph9

10

if he's like that then i think you should prepare yourself and be rational here. don't delude yourself into thinking he might be different with you, you might be the 'one' who'll change him. that only happens in films and perhaps somewhere in fiji. you know this is how he treats girls so you're putting yourself into this. If you're ok with it, fine. If not, watch out.

well that's my motherly talk of the year.

Reply 7

Crystaltears

OP

12

Awww haha thanks :smile:

I'll see how it goes with him, but i'm not going to throw myself in head first. I'll kind of hold back a bit and see what his intentions are. But thanks for the "Motherly advice!"

Reply 8

*Katie*

1

It depends what you are looking for. Personally, I find this kind of thing enjoyable - establishing the power balance, and seeing how far the other person will go. But it all depends on what the other person is looking for - if he's crazy about you an insecure I think it'll be taken in a different way than someone who is also just out for a bit of fun.
It doesn't sound like you particularly want to change him, and you have your wits about you, so I'd conclude that it wasn't a bad move! Let us know if he finds your address :biggrin:

!

Reply 9

samba

6

I'd so not turn up to that :p:

It'd be call to tell you to meet me at the restaurant a coupla hours later :biggrin:

Reply 10

Music_Enthusiast

Crystaltears

Haha, I probably wont play games and stuff because I know it gets all confusing, but apparently he's been known to shag you and then not call back, so I don't want him to think he can treat me like ****.
I'll see what he's like on Wednesday.

LOL goodluck.

Reply 11

cutandpasteandtwisty

11

Crystaltears

I met this guy at a party and thought he was fit, but I thought he was toooo fit and out of my league, so I didn't really think much of it. Then a few days later my friends told me that he liked me and wanted my number.
He phoned me yesterday asking if he could take me out, so obviously I said yes. Then I said "So what time are you picking me up?" and he said "Is 8 o clock ok? Where abouts do you live?" and I said "That's fine. I'm sure you'll find it" and he was like "but I don't your address" so I just said "Well you'll have to get your homework done then, won't you?" and he was like "Oooh keeping me on my toes are we?" and then I said I'd see him Wednesday at 8.

That was a terrible move. What on earth were you thinking?! He's gone to the trouble of calling you up and asking you out and you won't give him your address?! This would really piss me off.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

yer totaly agree with the above post! Girls that play hard to get means too things to me, either they are inexperienced and are clueless about what to do, or just someone whos pissing about... im sure your not one of those! but hopefully you see my point! If i were you, when or if you go out with him, find a way to make it up a little....

Reply 13

Carrie1

Meh, just tell him congrats when he turns up... :P:

I wholeheartedly support what you did. End of the day it won't be too difficult to find out the answer, but it keeps him on his toes.

Reply 14

Nally

10

cutandpasteandtwisty

That was a terrible move. What on earth were you thinking?! He's gone to the trouble of calling you up and asking you out and you won't give him your address?! This would really piss me off.