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    Firstly apologies for how long this is going to be.
    I'm working in a shop between degrees, and a few weeks ago a woman quite a few years my senior came in and we got talking and immediately seemed to hit it off. It turned out that she's the director of a company, and that she had a friend who runs a company in exactly what I want to do. She offered to meet for coffee so that she could introduce us. I texted her and she sent a friendly text back letting me know that she'd get back in touch about meeting up. The next day, she came into my work with her mum, saying to her mum "this is .... who I was telling you about", also acting nervous and telling me that "I'm surprised that you remember me". Prior to this I hadn't thought of her in a romantic sense, but I got the impression that she was attracted to me from this. The first time I had met her she also commented that my eyes were "lovely" and looked at me wistfully. I'm 99% she's gay from a whole host of factors about her demeanour and appearance.Anyway, after this I didn't hear from her for a while, so sent her a text about the meeting, which she didn't respond to. Eventually I emailed, and received a concise professional email which she forwarded to her secretary asking her to try and arrange a time that would be convenient for her and the guy she wanted to introduce me to. I understand that she is very busy and important, having an organisation to run, but it was a striking contrast from the warmth and openness that she exuded with me in person.Fast forward a couple of weeks and she eventually calls me to say she's sorted out a meeting between us and the guy. I immediately notice how awkward and shy and flustered we are with each other. After introducing us both and chatting for a while, she asks if we would like her to leave so that the guy and I can chat about me potentially working for him. I tell her that I'd like her to stay, that it's nice to see her, and lament the fact that she hasn't been into a shop for a while when I've been there. She shyly replies how good it is to see me too, and that she had been in the shop but that I wasn't there at the time. I notice her taking glances at me. She also told the guy "I met ... and was just incredibly impressed by her, and I walked out thinking that an encounter like that doesn't happen everyday". She also joked to him when I was talking that she "wanted to take me home". It was just how awkward/nervous she seemed around me, and I picked up sexual tension vibes between us. I texted her that evening thanking her for arranging the meeting, and telling her which days I would be in the shop later that week, that she should drop in and say hello if she got the chance. She didn't reply so I just thought I would leave it from then on.Anyway, a couple of days later she did drop into my work specifically to see me (she didn't buy anything). She called my name from the other side of the shop and gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek when she saw me, and seemed genuinely thrilled to see me. We chatted for a few minutes before she said she'd better go because my boss was glaring at her for chatting too me for too long. So she left and I told her to text me. Now it is the evening after this encounter, and I want to text her to ask if she would like to go for a drink or a coffee with me sometime. I really feel something between us and would like to get to know her better. The thing is, I feel that I'm getting mixed signals because she seems to either not reply to texts or reply in a purely professional manner, yet is very open and flirty and attentive with me in person. But I feel that there is a chance of something happening if we meet on our own.I know that she has an incredibly high pressured job, and so I don't want to pester her (and I'm also scared of her ignoring me and perceiving me as some annoying kid) but at the same time I really like her and get the strong impression that it's reciprocated. So do I ask her out or not?Sorry for the essay - thanks for sticking with me for this long if you read all of that!
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    Firstly apologies for how long this is going to be.
    I'm working in a shop between degrees, and a few weeks ago a woman quite a few years my senior came in and we got talking and immediately seemed to hit it off. It turned out that she's the director of a company, and that she had a friend who runs a company in exactly what I want to do. She offered to meet for coffee so that she could introduce us. I texted her and she sent a friendly text back letting me know that she'd get back in touch about meeting up. The next day, she came into my work with her mum, saying to her mum "this is .... who I was telling you about", also acting nervous and telling me that "I'm surprised that you remember me". Prior to this I hadn't thought of her in a romantic sense, but I got the impression that she was attracted to me from this. The first time I had met her she also commented that my eyes were "lovely" and looked at me wistfully. I'm 99% she's gay from a whole host of factors about her demeanour and appearance.Anyway, after this I didn't hear from her for a while, so sent her a text about the meeting, which she didn't respond to. Eventually I emailed, and received a concise professional email which she forwarded to her secretary asking her to try and arrange a time that would be convenient for her and the guy she wanted to introduce me to. I understand that she is very busy and important, having an organisation to run, but it was a striking contrast from the warmth and openness that she exuded with me in person.Fast forward a couple of weeks and she eventually calls me to say she's sorted out a meeting between us and the guy. I immediately notice how awkward and shy and flustered we are with each other. After introducing us both and chatting for a while, she asks if we would like her to leave so that the guy and I can chat about me potentially working for him. I tell her that I'd like her to stay, that it's nice to see her, and lament the fact that she hasn't been into a shop for a while when I've been there. She shyly replies how good it is to see me too, and that she had been in the shop but that I wasn't there at the time. I notice her taking glances at me. She also told the guy "I met ... and was just incredibly impressed by her, and I walked out thinking that an encounter like that doesn't happen everyday". She also joked to him when I was talking that she "wanted to take me home". It was just how awkward/nervous she seemed around me, and I picked up sexual tension vibes between us. I texted her that evening thanking her for arranging the meeting, and telling her which days I would be in the shop later that week, that she should drop in and say hello if she got the chance. She didn't reply so I just thought I would leave it from then on.Anyway, a couple of days later she did drop into my work specifically to see me (she didn't buy anything). She called my name from the other side of the shop and gave me a big hug and kiss on the cheek when she saw me, and seemed genuinely thrilled to see me. We chatted for a few minutes before she said she'd better go because my boss was glaring at her for chatting too me for too long. So she left and I told her to text me. Now it is the evening after this encounter, and I want to text her to ask if she would like to go for a drink or a coffee with me sometime. I really feel something between us and would like to get to know her better. The thing is, I feel that I'm getting mixed signals because she seems to either not reply to texts or reply in a purely professional manner, yet is very open and flirty and attentive with me in person. But I feel that there is a chance of something happening if we meet on our own.I know that she has an incredibly high pressured job, and so I don't want to pester her (and I'm also scared of her ignoring me and perceiving me as some annoying kid) but at the same time I really like her and get the strong impression that it's reciprocated. So do I ask her out or not?Sorry for the essay - thanks for sticking with me for this long if you read all of that!
    What a Para...
    Anyway you should just do it, nothing to lose and potentially a lot to gain. Even if she says no it's not a big deal and let's be honest if half the stuff you said about her is true she'll most likely say yes.
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    What a Para...
    Anyway you should just do it, nothing to lose and potentially a lot to gain. Even if she says no it's not a big deal and let's be honest if half the stuff you said about her is true she'll most likely say yes.
    Sorry about that - I separated it into different paragraphs but for some reason it posted as one huge one.
    Anyway, I'm not sure whether she's just being friendly and I don't want to harass her.
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    Bro no girl gonna like you if you don't paragraph.

    And yeah do it.
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    I've not finished reading it… just wait for my answer in a few more hours.

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    No but in all seriousness i think you should just wait a little longer.
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    Bro no girl gonna like you if you don't paragraph.

    And yeah do it.
    I'm a girl...
    and I did but it just posted as one huge paragraph for some reason.
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    I reposted it with paragraphs
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    No but in all seriousness i think you should just wait a little longer.
    I'm not going to be in the shop much anymore so little chance of bumping into her, if I don't ask to meet her (I don't have to specify that it's in a romantic sense), there's every chance I won't see her again.
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    I'm not going to be in the shop much anymore so little chance of bumping into her, if I don't ask to meet her (I don't have to specify that it's in a romantic sense), there's every chance I won't see her again.
    Oh right so if thats the case then go for it. You don't want to regret not asking whatever the answer maybe . Good luck! x
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    Even before reading your paragraph I'm going to tell you to ask her out because if you don't you're just going to regret it and wish you had and keep thinking what if. Life is literally too short and girls will rarely make the first move on you unless she's confident to the max, but even so girls will often not make the first one, it's usually up to the guy. So ask her out
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    (Original post by Magical_lyrical)
    Even before reading your paragraph I'm going to tell you to ask her out because if you don't you're just going to regret it and wish you had and keep thinking what if. Life is literally too short and girls will rarely make the first move on you unless she's confident to the max, but even so girls will often not make the first one, it's usually up to the guy. So ask her out
    Thanks, but I'm a girl.
 
 
 
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