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Best Friend?

well...

a few years ago, my family and I moved to this country, and primarily, it was very different to the previous enviroment, however, it was something one could adjust to. For the first while, I was depressed because I had to leave all my friends behind (many of whom I was very close with) and I didn't have many friends in this new country. But then, at school i made many friends etc.. etc.. and there's one guy who I became friends with about 5 years ago and became best friends soonafter; we'd trust each other with everything literally, whether it's talk, or money or objects or anything! I met many of the people who I now know through him and things were much better.

About a year ago, he moved schools and neither of us were worried that it might affect our friendship - we agreed that we're gonna see each other frequently as we live close + we see each other in the weekends. However, no such thing happened! straight after his change of schools, our communication decreased dramatically, and we took it lightly; we assumed we were so close that it wouldn't affect us, and seeing each other in weekends only was enough. He became very popular in the new school and goes out with the old group and a new group which he met at his new school, which is cool, I was always happy for him, but now he's so busy with his 'new friends' that we barely see each other anymore - maybe once every few months =/ He doesnt even talk to me on msn now - if so, very occasionally!

At first I was like it's ok, this is only temporary and he'll realise soon, but it only got worse, and now it's always getting me down, because I'm obviously a bit mad at him for throwing away that friendship and try to avoid him if I can, but he also hangs out with like 3/4 of the people I hang out with, so I had to kind of withdraw from that situation to avoid him and everything is messed up now =/

to avoid complications, I'm an 18 year old guy, it's not a female and male situation... but ye, what do you guys think I should do, I tried to ignore this issue, but now It's affecting my everyday life, and I'm always in a ****ty mood because of this, and it doesn't seem like it bothers him at all!!

Reply 1

well do you try to contact him?
i dont see why you should begin to advoid him or remove yourself from mutal friends to be honest.
try making contact with him and try acting like you were before when you do see one another. maybe it would show him the distance isnt an issue and the two of you can continue as you were.

Reply 2

Anonymous
well...

a few years ago, my family and I moved to this country, and primarily, it was very different to the previous enviroment, however, it was something one could adjust to. For the first while, I was depressed because I had to leave all my friends behind (many of whom I was very close with) and I didn't have many friends in this new country. But then, at school i made many friends etc.. etc.. and there's one guy who I became friends with about 5 years ago and became best friends soonafter; we'd trust each other with everything literally, whether it's talk, or money or objects or anything! I met many of the people who I now know through him and things were much better.

About a year ago, he moved schools and neither of us were worried that it might affect our friendship - we agreed that we're gonna see each other frequently as we live close + we see each other in the weekends. However, no such thing happened! straight after his change of schools, our communication decreased dramatically, and we took it lightly; we assumed we were so close that it wouldn't affect us, and seeing each other in weekends only was enough. He became very popular in the new school and goes out with the old group and a new group which he met at his new school, which is cool, I was always happy for him, but now he's so busy with his 'new friends' that we barely see each other anymore - maybe once every few months =/ He doesnt even talk to me on msn now - if so, very occasionally!

At first I was like it's ok, this is only temporary and he'll realise soon, but it only got worse, and now it's always getting me down, because I'm obviously a bit mad at him for throwing away that friendship and try to avoid him if I can, but he also hangs out with like 3/4 of the people I hang out with, so I had to kind of withdraw from that situation to avoid him and everything is messed up now =/

to avoid complications, I'm an 18 year old guy, it's not a female and male situation... but ye, what do you guys think I should do, I tried to ignore this issue, but now It's affecting my everyday life, and I'm always in a ****ty mood because of this, and it doesn't seem like it bothers him at all!!


Wait till valentine's day and send him a card and box of choccies.

Reply 3

Some boys aren't so hot on communication, I guess maybe he's one of them. If you can really trust him then tell him how you feel about him not being in contact often enough and see what happens. He may not be doing this on purpose.

Reply 4

Snarf
Some boys aren't so hot on communication, I guess maybe he's one of them. If you can really trust him then tell him how you feel about him not being in contact often enough and see what happens. He may not be doing this on purpose.



thing is i'm not sure if we're still as close, and can confide each other as we used to! I would imagine it so, but it isn't certain!