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    Hello everyone,

    I will be moving to university in a few days. And I am so nervous. I think my flatmates don't like me. I have talked to them through our room flat through facebook. With today it's the second time they ignore me, when I write a message. Well I think this time is also my fault. Today I asked them how they are afther one of them told us her boyfriend left her. And I feeling so bad , cause they will think I am insensitive. I didn't really think about it when I wrote it. Just wanted to talk to them after the last time(they ignored my message) as we are going to see each order in a while. Plus I am an a eu student and I still don't speak english properly, and it will be difficult to communicate with them. I am also very shy so I always find it hard to talk to new people. Many times my shyness is seen as *****ness. I don't really know what to do now. Anyway I 'm just writing to hear opinions or advices .

    They should reply but being ignored on Facebook isn't the end of the world. Some people just aren't that active on Facebook groups.

    My advice is to just let it go and wait until you see them in person to see if they are being off with you or not. If they do act strange then maybe ask them about it?


    I just read the post again and realised you haven't even met these people yet. I think you're letting your nerves get to you and you're reading into things waaaay too much. Relax and keep an open mind. Good luck at uni

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    Hey dude, I'm starting uni in a couple of weeks too, though I'm a UK student. I'd say it's pretty difficult to properly get your personality across over text, so try not to worry too much. Chances are your flatmates are also really nervous about what you think of them. I'm also quite shy but try to be smiley and friendly when you first meet everybody and give them time. It helps not to go in with any preconceptions about what they think of you, otherwise it may become a self fulfilling prophecy.

    Don't fret about it, how you interact with someone on messenger has no bearing on how well you'll click in person. When you do meet them, be friendly and open minded
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