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How do I desensitise myself from this feeling?? watch

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    So I am friends with someone and I am also having sex with them. I have a LOT of feelings for them and they "claim" they have feelings for me as well but I call ******** because if you know someone has feelings for you and you do too then you'll want to get into a relationship with them. And he does not want a relationship with me yet for various reasons.

    Anyway every time we finish having sex, I always get this feeling of being used, insecure, sad etc because all these things come through my mind like what if he's doing this with other people, what if he's just using me etc I've talked about this to him and he says he does not mind at all with us being friends without the sex part but I'm a horny ass ***** clearly who keeps going back despite how it makes me feel afterwards and I'm not planning to change that. He even tells me before we do it that he doesn't want to hurt me or lead me on so we don't have to continue.

    This "feeling" normally lasts for a day or so and then it goes away. But how do I stop myself from feeling like **** after we finish in the first place?
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    You're doing this to yourself by having sex with him. So.... don't have sex with him. He clearly is only in it for a quick bang.
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    You can't. It's because you want more and you're pretending to be ok with a situation that you're not. I have been there myself recently. We stopped sleeping together and continued as friends but the feelings are still there. You need to stop sleeping with him and seeing him as much. If he cared about your feelings that much he would do the decent thing and not sleep with you.

    He's not that into you, understand that. You'll never be able to desensitise yourself because you have feelings for him, going back to him again and again for more sex won't help you either
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