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    Okay so I start uni in two weeks and I'm super terrified that I won't fit in or make friends. I feel like I made a mistake by staying at home whilst studying at uni as I've heard its alot harder to make friends if you live outside uni. I'm super shy and quiet so I find it difficult to talk to people. So I feel like I've pretty much messed up already can anyone give me some advice or experiences you've had living outside or at uni thanks
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    Damaged? Yes, probably.

    The extent of the damage depends on you. Hide away at home all day except for lectures where you don't make effort to speak to people and you will struggle to make friends, sorry.

    But you can still be social and live at home.

    I appreciate you might find it difficult but think of uni as a fresh start, go in there, try your best to speak to people etc and it could be what you need to find some confidence.
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    Probably if you join a lot of different societies that you're interested in and get to know people that way, it won't make an awful lot of difference.
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    Not at all, I know people who go to uni and commute from home and still have a great time. Just make sure you get involved with other students and general uni life.
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    I live at home and still go to universiy and I must admit I havent really got any friends jsut my bf but thats only cos i keep myself to myself if u talk to people then you'll make friends
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    That's a load of rubbish.
    As long as you make the effort yourself you'll be fine.

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    (Original post by TatlTael)
    Okay so I start uni in two weeks and I'm super terrified that I won't fit in or make friends. I feel like I made a mistake by staying at home whilst studying at uni as I've heard its alot harder to make friends if you live outside uni. I'm super shy and quiet so I find it difficult to talk to people. So I feel like I've pretty much messed up already can anyone give me some advice or experiences you've had living outside or at uni thanks
    Theres lots of threads on this. Its a different experience because you arent living with other students or having meals etc.

    The key is to be sociable, make friends. Joining societies is a good way and you cna also bond with course mates or people you get to know by going to the var or cafeteria. for a drink Try and find clubs or societies that you will enjoy and as you will ahve a common interest then you should find it easier to socialise.

    You might have had a similar challenge even if youd stayed in halls if you are naturally shy. You just have to try and make the effort in the first month and the thing is most freshers will be very open to making friends at the beginning, so take advantage of it. There will be other shy people with the same concerns.

    The questions stay the same in the beginning anyway- Name? where are you from? what are you studying? what were your grades? where are you living?

    It cna be done fairly easily if you make an effort. Just smile and be sociable or at least be a bit chatty if ppeople speak to you. Plenty of people are nervous so you wont be alone.
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    You havent 'damaged' your chances, ignore that stupid first comment. There's people who live in halls and still have no friends, it's nothing to do with where you live and all to do with how you involve yourself and put yourself out there.
    Just join loads of societies and attend social eventsI live at home alone (by myself with my dog) i'm 20 and in med school and i'v not had any issues with my social life. I'm not a massive extrovert but i am outgoing so i like to go to social events. your subject/class will usually host events during freshers week and throughout the year, but there will be many other societies across your university too. i joined over 7 societies that i'm legitimately involved in and have met loads of people from attending events and going out. find societies that you're interested in, as many as possible, and i guarantee you'll meet loads of people.
    i also use meetup.com to find fun social events outside of uni.
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    Thank you everyone for your advice I'm going to make a fresh start and try talking to people
 
 
 
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