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like him more as a friend. help
i have finally realised that i dont like me boyfriend in that way, i like him as a friend which is why i think i havent had sex with him and am not keen on kissing him.however he does but i dont know what to do because i really want him as a friend. his like my best friend. we spend every day together.i dont wanna lose him becuase he proper likes me and i dont wanna tel him.
Reply 2
dh00001
well if you dont tell him youre just fooling yourself and could be pressured into doing something you dont want to. it will also be far worse for him knowing hes been strung along when he does find out
yea i agree, i'd tell him that how feel and you never know he might feel the same way.
Reply 3
So you're proposing lying to him? Great way to treat your best friend and boyfriend who, by the sounds of things, is madly in love with you...
Just tell him. If for nothing other than your own sake when you want an actual boyfriend.
Just tell him. If for nothing other than your own sake when you want an actual boyfriend.
Reply 4
the thing is it has take me 9 moths to realise this, i dont know how im gonna tell him
Reply 5
Anonymous
the thing is it has take me 9 moths to realise this, i dont know how im gonna tell him
People realise this kinda thing years after, nevermind months. You shouldn't feel like you can't tell him something; if you think you mean a lot to him, he'll understand. It might be hard but he'll want what's best for you. Also like others have said, it's not fair to lead him, or yourself, along.
Well, you have to be sure that's how you feel about him...
My boyfriend broke up with me after quite a long time saying he just wanted us to be best friends and that he didn't like me quite in the right way... then not long after that he decided he'd made a big mistake and came back to me. Things are a lot better between us now.
I'm not sure what to suggest, except to warn you that you might regret breaking up with him if you only realise what you had when it's gone. People can become very familiar to you even if you do love them and it can some times take a huge argument, or even a break-up to realise how you really feel about someone.
If you really are sure that this isn't working for you then you definitely need to tell him though and I think you should tell him exactly what you've told us. That he is your best friend and you would like to stay that way, but that you just don't think there's anything more there... it will be hard on him of course, but the others are right, better that, than being strung along.
And if he doesn't want to see you for a while you should also respect that. Imagine being in his situation? How would you like your boyfriend to break up with you if the situation was reversed? What would you need to hear and what would just add to the pain (in the long run too)?
Hope that helped!
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My boyfriend broke up with me after quite a long time saying he just wanted us to be best friends and that he didn't like me quite in the right way... then not long after that he decided he'd made a big mistake and came back to me. Things are a lot better between us now.
I'm not sure what to suggest, except to warn you that you might regret breaking up with him if you only realise what you had when it's gone. People can become very familiar to you even if you do love them and it can some times take a huge argument, or even a break-up to realise how you really feel about someone.
If you really are sure that this isn't working for you then you definitely need to tell him though and I think you should tell him exactly what you've told us. That he is your best friend and you would like to stay that way, but that you just don't think there's anything more there... it will be hard on him of course, but the others are right, better that, than being strung along.
And if he doesn't want to see you for a while you should also respect that. Imagine being in his situation? How would you like your boyfriend to break up with you if the situation was reversed? What would you need to hear and what would just add to the pain (in the long run too)?
Hope that helped!
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Reply 7
reading that was so incredibly strange...ive just come to realise the exact same thing...i think, but its been a year and a half, i dont know how to say anything as if i lost him it would be the worst thing in the world, i suppose its everything all mixed in one, like not being single for 2 solid years seeing my friends be able to live uncomplicated lives, me being a changed person now ive turned 18 going out most nights whereas hes more of an in person, going off to uni soon and not wanted to be held back from enjoying myself to the full as such, and just generally feeling things have become too 'comfortable' if that makes sense, as if he was my brother, which just isnt good...anyway i really should stop babbling, but i just felt like saying something as its quite odd being in the exact same situation
Reply 8
wow that is strange im glad there is someone who feels the same as me.i think mabey we need to find the courage to tell them
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