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Scared

Have u ever felt scared like really scared??
Im so petrified of returning to uni in october im beginning to think i dont even wanna go. Ive worked so hard for my place but ive been forced out of uni for a yr because of medical reasons. Then followed the anxiety and depression at uni because of my other illness. I think ive just got over all that cause my other illness is nearly under control. But not really i fell down a mountain the other week because i was so ill - so if i cant even go for a walk on my own how the hell am i gonna go live on my own again in a couple of months time?
Im scared the depression and anxiety is also going to follow again as soon as i return to uni - oh and the silly doctor who made me feel like a hypochondriac how about if she takes me tablets off me that the consultant and specialist nurse gave me?? and i get really ill again?
Yeah, I always feel scared/nervous/anxious it's just what I do.
I think the wait to go to uni probably isn't helping you either, it gives more time for you to think too much about stuff and think the worst. Living by yourself/with heaps of people you don't know is a bloody scary thought and the fact that you have to try hard to be all socialble and stuff could be tough. Not much I can advise, just talk it through.
Reply 2
i get scared,anxious soemtimes its usaul :smile: im going to uni this year to in september im a little nervous ( ok loads) about results day but i cant wait for uni if i get there . dont wrory about it its the start of a new life everyone is in the same postion youll have a mint time. what uni are you going to ?
OP, that sounds a lot like my situation right now.

I recently dropped out of uni for health reasons, and I reapplied for another course starting this year. I've only just decided that I want to go (but I'm still not completely certain, because I'm scared of dropping out again and people seeing me as a failure). But a change of scenery can be a really good thing.

If you ever want to talk, then I am always on the end of a PM.

:hugs:
Reply 4
No offence, but you seem to be really neurotic, to be honest i would so love to do a case-study on one you. :frown:
I think you should just take life as it comes, if you keep thinking like that you will live your life in pointless miserey. I mean you're scared of being scared about getting depression and anxiety....... If i was you i would just try and relax or something.
Reply 5
Kastro9 - i wish u had a day in my life and if u would like to do a case study then be my guest - may help me to sort my head out a bit. Ive already had clinical depression i guess cause i was really poorley and its such a nasty and crippling thing. But im training to be a doctor what happens if im ill with the other thing infront of someone.

When i lived on my own last time in the same house i broke down completely and im really scared of this happening again - even though i shouldnt let this beat me. Oh and my parents keep threating to come get me out of uni if i even so much as get one tenth as bad as i was last time. Oh and all my friends are in the year above - not so much of a problem because if im well i tend to make friends easily.
Anonymous
Kastro9 - i wish u had a day in my life and if u would like to do a case study then be my guest - may help me to sort my head out a bit. Ive already had clinical depression i guess cause i was really poorley and its such a nasty and crippling thing. But im training to be a doctor what happens if im ill with the other thing infront of someone.

When i lived on my own last time in the same house i broke down completely and im really scared of this happening again - even though i shouldnt let this beat me. Oh and my parents keep threating to come get me out of uni if i even so much as get one tenth as bad as i was last time. Oh and all my friends are in the year above - not so much of a problem because if im well i tend to make friends easily.

:hugs: I hate when people belittle depression. They don't understand what it is like and how much we can be affected. But I hope you're feeling better now.

And I can understand being scared of having another breakdown. I'm terrified all the time. As for your parents, that is horrible. Mine said that if I don't get over my depression before I'm due to return to uni then I might as well just give up on the whole thing.

And it's not a problem at uni having friends in other years. When I was in first year (first time around), most of my friends were in 3rd year. A lot of them have graduated now (though there were some on 4 year courses).

I really hope all goes well for you.
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i got 2 point warning for posting a picture of bungle from rainbow on this thread.
and it got deleted , who's fault is this?mod? op?
negated enigma
i got 2 point warning for posting a picture of bungle from rainbow on this thread.
and it got deleted , who's fault is this?mod? op?


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cheers.

they delete loads of my posts:mad: , its like living in 1940's nazi germany.
Reply 11
Why is everyone taking the micky out of me i dont even understand why i ask for a genuine opinion and i knew i wasnt going to like some of them and u have turning me into a laughing stock well thanks everyone.
Yeah, guys. The OP has a genuine problem that they want sorted. I really do hate when people use H&R to joke and make fun of people's problems.
Anonymous
Why is everyone taking the micky out of me i dont even understand why i ask for a genuine opinion and i knew i wasnt going to like some of them and u have turning me into a laughing stock well thanks everyone.


your Anonymous how can you be alaughing stock.

i was merely mocking kastro9 if anyone.

i suffer from depression aswell as panic/anxiety problems and there is nothing some randomer could sasy to really help in all honesty.

can't knock ya for tryin.
AverageGuyOnTheStreet
Yeah, guys. The OP has a genuine problem that they want sorted. I really do hate when people use H&R to joke and make fun of people's problems.


I genuinely answered their question :confused:
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I genuinely answered their question :confused:

My post was actually aimed at the people making fun of the OP.
AverageGuyOnTheStreet
My post was actually aimed at the people making fun of the OP.


I only see kastro9's post, and hence was confused by the pluralisation. Neverthematter.
I know how you feel. I suffer from anxiety and depression. If I manage to get into uni this year I'm scared that I'll still be ill by the time I get there. I think the best thing to do is have a stab at it. I told myself that I'm going and if I need help then I'll seek it out there. Doctors shouldn't be able to deny you anything if you really need it.
umm no offence, but have you thought of going to a uviversity close to home so that you dont have all the added stress of living alone?
I know how you feel, I turned down a place at a good uni doing a good but slightly unconventional course for English at this crap uni because my Nanny (who died a while ago) said she was proud that I was doing it and she loved my writing but now I just feel so lost. I break down and cry every day yet I have to pull myself together for other people. I feel like **** and you aren't alone.

People like me and you just have to take every day at a time, like for instance I had a terrible day...came home, got drunk and had a knife against my wrists but I stopped myself because I know that even if it doesn't seem like it tomorrow will be different. I would say you could PM me but I think I'm going to be anon for this as it's a bit out of my 'tsr' character... sorry.