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Please don't un-anonymise this for my sake.
I'm home for holidays and my parents gave me a well paid job, which i have said i can only do some days (i did it for 3weeks) because the rest i have to study for resit exams in august. On top of that my gf is only here for 3 weeks more and then moves away for a year
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In the beginning I wasn't going to do the resits, but now i've decided it is what i want to do, my parents aren't speaking to me
and saying that i've treated them like crud and never take any of their advice.
They were saying that I should start another course, and that all i want to do is go 'swanning around'.
I'm not throwing their kindness back at them, as i'd be prepared to work for them everyday when my exams are done. What should i do?
I'm home for holidays and my parents gave me a well paid job, which i have said i can only do some days (i did it for 3weeks) because the rest i have to study for resit exams in august. On top of that my gf is only here for 3 weeks more and then moves away for a year
. In the beginning I wasn't going to do the resits, but now i've decided it is what i want to do, my parents aren't speaking to me
and saying that i've treated them like crud and never take any of their advice.They were saying that I should start another course, and that all i want to do is go 'swanning around'.
I'm not throwing their kindness back at them, as i'd be prepared to work for them everyday when my exams are done. What should i do?
Reply 2
They're like: you should have been studying as soon as you knew you had resits. this is true but for 3 weeks they'd been trying to convince me to apply for another course (which i did apply for). so i did waste a month 'swanning around' i know that.
but the essence of it is, i worked for 3 weeks before my gf came home, and even if i had have studied a lot before i would still have wanted to spend the remaining time with her as opposed to working for my parents
but the essence of it is, i worked for 3 weeks before my gf came home, and even if i had have studied a lot before i would still have wanted to spend the remaining time with her as opposed to working for my parents
Reply 3
help! they think i'm an absolute beep. and now i'm afraid they won't pay for me next year at uni (they've already said if i'm stupid enough to do the resits i've to pay for those too, which is about 400 euros including travel)
Reply 4
Ask them why they don't support you in your decision.
Reply 5
Mainly because they think i'm being an idiot and stupid andl because they don't think i'm capable of getting anything more than just a pass at the degree. I think i can pull a rabbit out of my hat this year, but they just have to let me get on with it. And i've said all of this, it just makes them angrier and sadder that i'm not taking their advice and starting from scratch where i can get good marks every year.
it seems like 'youve messed up before, have to do resits, so we're going to make it more difficult for you to pass them by having you working half days'
it seems like 'youve messed up before, have to do resits, so we're going to make it more difficult for you to pass them by having you working half days'
Reply 6
First of all, the fact that you have to take resits doesn't mean that you ****ed up in your course. Bloody hell, I'm taking my exams in September and I'm nearly at the top of my class. It certainly applies that resits doesn't mean you're stupid or that you've been "swanning around".
If you think that this is what you want, by all means you should go for it. You've paid for a year's worth of tuition and you obviously want to carry on so do it!
It is absolutely your decision.
Why do your parents have such an agenda? I mean, do they get something from your changing course and working this part-time job? Whatever the reason or reward, it certainly is not for your sake (unless they think that you would be better suited to this other course).
And as for the financial situation... why do you need their money? I honestly don't get it. If you're in the boat as the rest of us (i.e. you get a grant and loan but have to pay accommodation and living expenses) then you don't need their money. If I am wrong, please say. There may be other ways around the situation.
Anyway, for your own sake, go and think about what you want to do. If you're absolutely sure that you're doing the right course, and that you're happy with it, and that you're capavle to passing it, then there is no other decision to be made.
If you think that this is what you want, by all means you should go for it. You've paid for a year's worth of tuition and you obviously want to carry on so do it!
It is absolutely your decision.
Why do your parents have such an agenda? I mean, do they get something from your changing course and working this part-time job? Whatever the reason or reward, it certainly is not for your sake (unless they think that you would be better suited to this other course).
And as for the financial situation... why do you need their money? I honestly don't get it. If you're in the boat as the rest of us (i.e. you get a grant and loan but have to pay accommodation and living expenses) then you don't need their money. If I am wrong, please say. There may be other ways around the situation.
Anyway, for your own sake, go and think about what you want to do. If you're absolutely sure that you're doing the right course, and that you're happy with it, and that you're capavle to passing it, then there is no other decision to be made.
Reply 7
thank you for your lengthy response. I don't have a loan or grant and don't have much of my own money (basically enough to pay for resits and travel).
The thing is, I believe i am capable of doing the course, just the results have proved otherwise. my parents are saying, that's enough proof and i suppose any other objective person may think the same, however i am sure i can pull it off.
The thing is, I believe i am capable of doing the course, just the results have proved otherwise. my parents are saying, that's enough proof and i suppose any other objective person may think the same, however i am sure i can pull it off.
Reply 8
Anonymous
thank you for your lengthy response. I don't have a loan or grant and don't have much of my own money (basically enough to pay for resits and travel).
The thing is, I believe i am capable of doing the course, just the results have proved otherwise. my parents are saying, that's enough proof and i suppose any other objective person may think the same, however i am sure i can pull it off.
The thing is, I believe i am capable of doing the course, just the results have proved otherwise. my parents are saying, that's enough proof and i suppose any other objective person may think the same, however i am sure i can pull it off.
Sometimes, results means nothing. If you have the potential to pass this course and you know that you didn't do your best this year, then carry on. You can prove them wrong.
By the way, are you an international student or are eligible to apply for the loan and grant?
Reply 9
Anonymous
Please don't un-anonymise this for my sake.
That is only going to get a sick moderator to unanonymise it ASAP.
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