should i be upset?

I'm posting as anonymous beacuse my boyfriend's been known to come on here.
Basically, my boyfriend never seems to make any effort anymore. It's just little things really..e.g.

If we're on msn he hardly talks at all..and it's always me that initiates conversation.

He has NO money and therefore we cant go anywhere. When he does get money he spends it almost imediately on silly things like videogames, dvd's etc, despite me asking him if he'll save a bit so we can go out somewhere. I often pay his bus fare for him just so we can actually go somewhere, and he's never once paid me back.

If i go to his house he ends up playing x-box so I just sit there bored. If i complain he gets all annoyed and says i'm moaning at him. If i suggest going for a walk he refuses or very reluctantly agrees and is then in a bad mood for ages.

Before the holidays began we planned on going away for the weekend, just as a little break. Obviously we cant now seeing as he has no money, yet he's making no effort to get a job or anything (I work 4 hours EVERYday to earn a bit of money).

It just really bugs me that we never go anywhere and that he doesnt seem to be making an effort. We might not see eachother much from september onwards, depending on whether or not he gets the grades to go to university (we're going to the same one). I helped him so much during a-levels to try and esure he gets in..e.g. studying with him, even for exams that I wasn't doing! I pretty much got him thrugh his a-levels. He just doesnt seem to appreciate this and it really gets to me. I don't know what I'll do if he doesnt get in.

However, after saying all this he does say that he loves me. If I ever question this he's really offended..

I sometimes feel like my life would be much easier if we had never got together. The thing is I love him to bits..he's myfirst boyfriend..I lost my virginity to him. I miss him so much when I'm not with him, but I really wish he'd show me that he appreciates me a bit more.
It doesn't have to be much..Little things would mean so much to me..like.if he occasionally suggested we go out for a meal or to the cinema..or even just a walk to somewhere nice..it doesnt have to cost anything..

I'm sorry that this has been such a long post, but i just feel so down.. I'm talking to him on msn right now..he's not saying much back..apparently he's playing guitar. I wish he's talk..

I'm posting as anonymous beacuse my boyfriend's been known to come on here.
Basically, my boyfriend never seems to make any effort anymore. It's just little things really..e.g.

If we're on msn he hardly talks at all..and it's always me that initiates conversation.

He has NO money and therefore we cant go anywhere. When he does get money he spends it almost imediately on silly things like videogames, dvd's etc, despite me asking him if he'll save a bit so we can go out somewhere. I often pay his bus fare for him just so we can actually go somewhere, and he's never once paid me back.

If i go to his house he ends up playing x-box so I just sit there bored. If i complain he gets all annoyed and says i'm moaning at him. If i suggest going for a walk he refuses or very reluctantly agrees and is then in a bad mood for ages.

Before the holidays began we planned on going away for the weekend, just as a little break. Obviously we cant now seeing as he has no money, yet he's making no effort to get a job or anything (I work 4 hours EVERYday to earn a bit of money).

It just really bugs me that we never go anywhere and that he doesnt seem to be making an effort. We might not see eachother much from september onwards, depending on whether or not he gets the grades to go to university (we're going to the same one). I helped him so much during a-levels to try and esure he gets in..e.g. studying with him, even for exams that I wasn't doing! I pretty much got him thrugh his a-levels. He just doesnt seem to appreciate this and it really gets to me. I don't know what I'll do if he doesnt get in.

However, after saying all this he does say that he loves me. If I ever question this he's really offended..

I sometimes feel like my life would be much easier if we had never got together. The thing is I love him to bits..he's myfirst boyfriend..I lost my virginity to him. I miss him so much when I'm not with him, but I really wish he'd show me that he appreciates me a bit more.
It doesn't have to be much..Little things would mean so much to me..like.if he occasionally suggested we go out for a meal or to the cinema..or even just a walk to somewhere nice..it doesnt have to cost anything..

I'm sorry that this has been such a long post, but i just feel so down.. I'm talking to him on msn right now..he's not saying much back..apparently he's playing guitar. I wish he's talk..

Im guessing everyone else will suggest this too, but just tell him how you feel.

I have tried. If I ask him about money or tell him that I think he spends it too easily he gets annoyed. The last time i told him this, it resulted in us having an argument, in which he told me how he's sick of people always telling him this. He then slammed his bedroom door and went downstairs, leaving me sitting their crying and feeling completely crap

I have tried. If I ask him about money or tell him that I think he spends it too easily he gets annoyed. The last time i told him this, it resulted in us having an argument, in which he told me how he's sick of people always telling him this. He then slammed his bedroom door and went downstairs, leaving me sitting their crying and feeling completely crap

He saw his dad a while back, and was given 100quid (pound sign doesn't work -stupid computer!) He phoned me up and said we could go away for the weekend and was being really nice, which made me feel a lot better. A few days after, and he'd spent most of the money which he was supposedly saving..so now it looks like we wont be going anywhere..

I see all my friends going places with their boyfriends and it really gets to me

Thanks for the replies..I know that he's being really unfair recently. We've been together for 9 months and things were never like this to begin with.

Before we started going out we were close friends..we'd talk everyday about anything and everything. If i didnt see him that day we'd be on msn at night talking til the early hours of the morning..not flirting or anything..just chatting about random pointless things. I miss that so much. We dont talk much anymore..not like we used to..

If i ended things it would mean we'd never get back to that.. but at the moment I get so upset..i dont know what to do..maybe I'm being irrational..

Don't play games and don't issue an ultimatum.. both of these thing will just irritate your other half into making an angry decision and if you really do love him then you owe him better than that!! I agree he should make some time for you and you should talk to him about it, if he isn't willing to talk about it then you need to decide if you want to carry on like this or make a break.

I don't think its fair to tell him what he can and can't spend his money on, why don't you take a different tack and try to find him some really good deals on games so he is spending less on them and will be more likely to have cash left over (unless he just uses it on more games) and he might appreciate your support.

If he can't afford to go out, why don't you recreate a night out at home? Romantic dinner? Cinema with popcorn/ice cream etc? If you can get some quality time together, he might realise what he is missing out on by not taking you out and get his act together for you.