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    Hi everyone.

    I feel really daft for posting this, but I can't stop worrying about it. I'm a 21-year-old woman, and I'm seeing a new partner (he's male and a bit older than me). I don't know his HIV status. We had sex with a condom, and I gave him oral with a condom. All fine. He gave me oral without protection twice (I know that I'm HIV negative, and told him so). I recently read online that a woman receiving oral sex from a HIV-positive partner could be at risk of contracting HIV, especially if the person performing oral has bleeding gums. This really panicked me, as my partner mentioned that his gums bleed sometimes when he brushes (during an unrelated conversation, obviously). Could I be at risk of having contracted HIV?
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    Only if he has HIV.
    Ask him to get tested.

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    (Original post by Moonstruck16)
    Only if he has HIV.
    Ask him to get tested.

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    Thanks for your reply. I'm going to ask him later if he'll get tested. In the meantime, do you know whether or not the risk of my having contracted HIV from an exposure like this is significant/realistic even if he does have HIV? I'm a huge hypochondriac so I struggle to ascertain how rational my health-related worries are.
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    As far as HIV is concerned, you didn't have any risk of getting it from what you've done.

    He probably doesn't have HIV, but even if he did and wasn't receiving treatment, you'd be fine receiving oral: when people do decent studies, it simply doesn't show up as a risk.

    I do think you're going to be happier if you test together though.
 
 
 
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