LDR = Definately Cheating? Watch
If nothing else it'll give me armoury against these comments if Im proved right through this i.e. that plenty of people dont.
You could say I'm "technically" conducting a mini LDR cus my bf lives in Germany, so I won't see him til Sep when he comes back for uni. And no, neither of us has ever cheated on the other. He would tell me if he did - I know the guilt would eat him up that he will HAVE to tell me if he ever did cheat on me.
My parents stayed apart for a year, one in England and the other in HK, and neither of them cheated on the other. In fact, I think our neighbour was interested in my mum before dad came to England too, and I still remember, my mum asked me, when I was 9, if I could stay in the lounge with her when the niehgbour visits for a cup of tea. She didn't want to give him any opportunities to attempt anything, and I know she avoided all opportunities to be alone with him.
if you begin to wonder if you are being cheated on and grow paranoid it will eat you up inside, then if you develop trust issues it will **** both you and your relationship up.
really you need to think if you trust this person not to cheat on you, no do you think that will.
(that makes little sense. i know what i mean )
What is LDR?
its strength of mind. Uni is a hard change though. I cant say i know many couples that have stayed together when theyve both gone to uni... Sorry.
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We met at the same University but then in the holidays he lived in Leicester I lived in Plymouth.
Last year after he graduated I went on a Year Abroad and studied in Spain for 9 months.
He now lives in Durham and I live in Plymouth.
Our relationship has survived and we haven't cheated on one another at all, mainly because I know I can trust him and he knows he can trust me. We didn't go into it blindly though, I do remember talking with him before going to Spain and saying "if you or I meet someone better then we shouldn't feel any loyalty to each other" but in both our cases that never happened.
We've always been fairly independent from the start of our 2 3/4 year relationship, given the year difference at University(he was the year above) and the physical distances during the holidays. But at the same time, he's always found time to email me daily or twice a day, write to me when I was in Spain. We also talk daily on the phone now that I'm back in Plymouth.
Therefore for someone to generalise and say all Long Distance Relationships are opportunities to cheat are just doing that-generalising. Every couple is different but if you want it to succeed it will.
I certainly can't imagine him cheating on my sister, considering he stayed in England for her! He's in Wales and my sis is in Scotland.
i would never cheat. never.