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i know that it has been said about age gaps before..sorry..

well the thing is i did work experience not so long ago at a vets and there was this really nice guy that works there. I dont know whether or not it would be ok for me to try get to know him better, get his number etc because hes alot older he's about 30 and i'm 18 nearly 19.

should i go for it? or is it to big an age gap for anything to happen and he'd just see me as a really young girl as i was doing work experience? is it abit weird to ask him for contact details when you have just been doing work experience :confused:

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I think that... you're over eighteen, and it matters less now. A lot of people in their late teens/early twenties aren't as silly, stupid, immature, etc. as people like to make out, so it would be unfair for people to say you're "still just a kid".
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foxi_lady
i know that it has been said about age gaps before..sorry..

well the thing is i did work experience not so long ago at a vets and there was this really nice guy that works there. I dont know whether or not it would be ok for me to try get to know him better, get his number etc because hes alot older he's about 30 and i'm 18 nearly 19.

should i go for it? or is it to big an age gap for anything to happen and he'd just see me as a really young girl as i was doing work experience? is it abit weird to ask him for contact details when you have just been doing work experience :confused:


You should be ashamed of yourself woman!!! He is old enough to be you father (almost)!!! :eek:
RN450
You should be ashamed of yourself woman!!! He is old enough to be you father (almost)!!! :eek:


I hope this is a joke.

It depends on you; it depends on him.

If you both like each other, go for it.
Laces
I hope this is a joke.


I wondered also...
Reply 5
Laces ftw!
Did you check out whether he was wearing a wedding ring?
Reply 7
hmm yes and he wasn't :redface:
Was it in his pocket?

No seriously I don't think theres anything wrong with giving it a go.
RN450
You should be ashamed of yourself woman!!! He is old enough to be you father (almost)!!! :eek:


ok thats two seperate threads where ive seen comments of your in a similar stupidity concept, grow up or get lost. Your not funny your a muppet.

OP no its not a huge difference - go for it
Shreerac27
Did you check out whether he was wearing a wedding ring?


Not everybody 'older' is married, you know.
Laces
Not everybody 'older' is married, you know.


Fascinating, maybe you should write a book on the subject.
Shreerac27
Fascinating, maybe you should write a book on the subject.


Well if you weren't so stupid/bad at sarcasm I wouldn't have to point out the obvious.
If he generally cares and isn't chasing you just to get into your underwear it can work, only other issue is that he is 30, you are both at different stages in life. he may want to settle down etc, where as you probably like going out and socialising a lot. Up to you though on how you feel.
Go for it. My boyfriend is 30 and I'm 18. Neither of us are bothered by the age gap because we both love each other.
Reply 15
same, my boyfriend is 33, i turn 19 on friday.
It can work, just be aware it can be a lot of hard work, and is that what you're willing to put up with now

good luck in whatever you do :smile:
Reply 16
Go for it! Your over 18 - a woman now.. ha that must sound so patronising.. what I mean is, there would be a bit of concern if you were any younger but at your age you should be free to date whoever you like.. I don't think the age gap should be a problem.. personally i'd stretch to late 40's, so aslong as you feel mature enough that the gap wouldn't be a problem then, yeah..
Did you notice/feel anything between you or is it just an attraction thing?
Reply 17
I think it's too big an age gap to be honest. As, said, totally different stages in life.

He'll have done the parties, uni, first jobs, travelling, buying a house etc already. If he wants kids at all, he probably wants them soonish.
If you got with him, I think he'd want a more serious relationship than someone more your own age and you might end up sacrificing some of your own life or becoming too dependent on him to provide for you.

Also, if you're going to be a vet and he already is one, although you have that in common, he's always going to be ahead in the field, it's like you're not going to be equal if you know what I mean. :cool:
Reply 18
i dont think relationships like these last, but its fine for a short term thing.
too much.