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    I have virtually no friends. I have one bff who I text a lot but we only meet once or twice a month. I also have another friend that I text a lot but we only meet about 2-3 times a year. And then there's one more friend who I made online so we've never actually met..... I'm a 19 year old student..... Shouldn't I have more friends than this??

    I have such a great self esteem like I seriously think I'm one of the greatest people there is but one problem is I just can't seem to make friends?! Does anyone have advice on this? I just don't seem to have anything in common with most people...

    This sort of thing is normal. It's that period where everyone is finding themselves, paradigms are shifting and people are unsurprisingly volatile. Pick up a hobby you've always wanted to do, and be a sociable as you can. Ask people deeper questions than just small talk.

    I don't have friends either so don't worry about it. I'm the loner who is always by himself
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    Get involved in things. Its not a numbers thing, just have good quality friends rather than fairweather ones.
    If you think you are the greatest, then maybe you are fine on your own. Make sure it doesnt spill out so people have to deal with your high opinion of yourself.

    to make friends you just have to be open minded and take some risk.

    It won't hurt for you to go up to people and engage in conversations.

    Maybe you come across as obnoxious? There's absolutely nothing wrong with having great self esteem, it's rare for young people to have a very positive view on themselves and it's genuinely great that you do- but there can sometimes be a fine line between coming across as confident and coming across as obnoxious. You clearly find yourself interesting, but are you conveying to other people that you find them interesting too? You can both take an interest in other people and at the same time showcase your strengths and what makes you interesting.
    I think it's fairly common for young people to go through a period where they don't have a lot of friends because they have matured and therefore outgrown old friends, or because they have experienced a change of environment (college/work/uni), so there's nothing wrong with just having a handful of friends! But if you'd like more then join a class/club for something you're interested in, as that way you'll meet people with mutual interests.
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