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    So im an external student at a new sixth form and i dont know many people and yesterday a boy added me on fb (btw he must have remembered my name as i never spoke to him or his friends in class) so i messaged him like 'hey you're in my form right' and he replied back. at first i put no kisses but then he started to build them up so being polite i went to 'xxx' and then he put a heart but i didnt as i was just being nice. He told me that he finds me 'cute' and 'attractive' -i dont really know what to make of this as we've only been in a room once together and havent even spoken in real life.. he seems nice but i dont really know what he's like so i dont actually like him,,,what does this mean? Thanks
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    (Original post by sophiahello)
    So im an external student at a new sixth form and i dont know many people and yesterday a boy added me on fb (btw he must have remembered my name as i never spoke to him or his friends in class) so i messaged him like 'hey you're in my form right' and he replied back. at first i put no kisses but then he started to build them up so being polite i went to 'xxx' and then he put a heart but i didnt as i was just being nice. He told me that he finds me 'cute' and 'attractive' -i dont really know what to make of this as we've only been in a room once together and havent even spoken in real life.. he seems nice but i dont really know what he's like so i dont actually like him,,,what does this mean? Thanks
    That's pretty forward for someone who you've only met once...he obviously likes you but then again that depends on his personality what his intentions are. I would say there's nothing wrong in getting to know him but make it clear that you haven't known him long to decide for yourself. It will also get complicated being friends with someone who finds you attractive and it's not reciprocated...trust me on that one. But I can empathise as you don't have your own group yet, being an external student. Good luck at sixth form and making friends
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    That's pretty forward for someone who you've only met once...he obviously likes you but then again that depends on his personality what his intentions are. I would say there's nothing wrong in getting to know him but make it clear that you haven't known him long to decide for yourself. It will also get complicated being friends with someone who finds you attractive and it's not reciprocated...trust me on that one. But I can empathise as you don't have your own group yet, being an external student. Good luck at sixth form and making friends
    Thank you! Very useful advice
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    Thank you! Very useful advice
    You're very welcome
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    >OP well, it sounds like this guy was pretty brave (and, yes, forward) and friended you especially since he didn't really know you. I, person from afar who doesn't know either or you (), am going to take him at his word that he thought you are cute and would like to get to know you better. Coming out of left field you certainly weren't expecting this and, as you are new, you don't know his reputation. So next week be friendly, of course, but casually, if possible without his knowledge, watch who and how he interacts with people. How he behaves when he doesn't know he being observed will tell you about his personality. You have to really be covert here because if he catches you watching him it'll send the wrong message that you're interested when you may not be. I would also advise that you don't ask other girls their opinion of him just yet. You don't know the history of the social dynamics of the school yet and that could influence what they would say about him potentially. Continue to be friendly, if you want to be, and watch for a bit before you decide one way or the other what you think about him. If he starts putting pressure on you to go out, etc or starts acting like there is something between you when you know there isn't then those are big red flags! Also, until you know you're feeling interested I would not include X's in your text. Being responsive and friendly is enough for now unless you know you want to be flirty with him. Hopefully he'll just be friendly and casual with you and you can be friendly and be a social observer for a while. Best of luck!
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    >OP well, it sounds like this guy was pretty brave (and, yes, forward) and friended you especially since he didn't really know you. I, person from afar who doesn't know either or you (), am going to take him at his word that he thought you are cute and would like to get to know you better. Coming out of left field you certainly weren't expecting this and, as you are new, you don't know his reputation. So next week be friendly, of course, but casually, if possible without his knowledge, watch who and how he interacts with people. How he behaves when he doesn't know he being observed will tell you about his personality. You have to really be covert here because if he catches you watching him it'll send the wrong message that you're interested when you may not be. I would also advise that you don't ask other girls their opinion of him just yet. You don't know the history of the social dynamics of the school yet and that could influence what they would say about him potentially. Continue to be friendly, if you want to be, and watch for a bit before you decide one way or the other what you think about him. If he starts putting pressure on you to go out, etc or starts acting like there is something between you when you know there isn't then those are big red flags! Also, until you know you're feeling interested I would not include X's in your text. Being responsive and friendly is enough for now unless you know you want to be flirty with him. Hopefully he'll just be friendly and casual with you and you can be friendly and be a social observer for a while. Best of luck!
    Thanks for the advice!
 
 
 
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