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    So my boyfriend is a year older than me and is moving to uni next Saturday. We've said our goodbyes and have decided that we're going to try and make it work, if it doesn't it doesn't etc etc. Anyway, his Facebook was still logged on my laptop and I've seen messages from him and this girl that I've had doubts about before... I'm at a loss of what to do. He's like a best friend and I want to trust him but it's so difficult !!!!!!! I can't talk to him about it because it's going to **** everything up. What do I do?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my boyfriend is a year older than me and is moving to uni next Saturday. We've said our goodbyes and have decided that we're going to try and make it work, if it doesn't it doesn't etc etc. Anyway, his Facebook was still logged on my laptop and I've seen messages from him and this girl that I've had doubts about before... I'm at a loss of what to do. He's like a best friend and I want to trust him but it's so difficult !!!!!!! I can't talk to him about it because it's going to **** everything up. What do I do?
    What kind of messages? If they were dirty or suggested they were having an affair then of course end it. If it was just normal conversation, at least give him a chance to explain before jumping to conclusions. Does he know you had doubts about her? You should really talk to him. If you can't communicate with him when you have a problem, then continuing a relationship is going to be really difficult. At least give him the chance to explain what was going on
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    Long distance relationships don't last long anyway.
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    Sorry to tell you but I think you've got to accept that during freshers week and beyond, he'll forget that he has a girlfriend everytime he hits the bars / clubs.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my boyfriend is a year older than me and is moving to uni next Saturday. We've said our goodbyes and have decided that we're going to try and make it work, if it doesn't it doesn't etc etc. Anyway, his Facebook was still logged on my laptop and I've seen messages from him and this girl that I've had doubts about before... I'm at a loss of what to do. He's like a best friend and I want to trust him but it's so difficult !!!!!!! I can't talk to him about it because it's going to **** everything up. What do I do?
    It's not going to last. You shouldn't have read those messages.
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    It's over now. Trust gone.

    Find a new guy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my boyfriend is a year older than me and is moving to uni next Saturday. We've said our goodbyes and have decided that we're going to try and make it work, if it doesn't it doesn't etc etc. Anyway, his Facebook was still logged on my laptop and I've seen messages from him and this girl that I've had doubts about before... I'm at a loss of what to do. He's like a best friend and I want to trust him but it's so difficult !!!!!!! I can't talk to him about it because it's going to **** everything up. What do I do?
    Deepnds what your relationship is like. You should trust him and if you are close he might be concerned you are distressed. He left it logged on although am not sure you should have gone looking.

    If you cant talk to him about it then you will just have to accept whatever it was or continue to worry yourself about it forever or split. Move on. Npthing might be going on, but you could push him into having second thoughts. It all depends how close you really are. Relationships rarely survive uni.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So my boyfriend is a year older than me and is moving to uni next Saturday. We've said our goodbyes and have decided that we're going to try and make it work, if it doesn't it doesn't etc etc. Anyway, his Facebook was still logged on my laptop and I've seen messages from him and this girl that I've had doubts about before... I'm at a loss of what to do. He's like a best friend and I want to trust him but it's so difficult !!!!!!! I can't talk to him about it because it's going to **** everything up. What do I do?
    Ask him about it and judge for yourself whether you want to date someone who is acting like this.
 
 
 
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