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    So I met this guy on a a dating app, began talking to him, I didn't think anything was going to happen of it, just to pass time out of boredom...
    We've been talking a couple of weeks and he asked for my number so I stupidly gave it, then he asked me out on a date which I agreed to... So we decided to go out this week, but now I'm getting cold feet...
    The thing is I can't actually see myself dating this guy for real, his looks aren't a problem but I'm just not 100% into him like I initially was. Don't get me started on how embarrassing it would be as well to tell people we met on this dating app..
    Shall I block him on the app and block his phone number and not turn up to the date?
    I feel too nervous to go on this date but part of me wants to go just to see what it's like, I feel like hell expect me to kiss him, which I don't think I want to...
    I just think ill probably be able to get a better boyfriend from one of the guys in my own year at uni, not this guy who's 3 years older I met online..
    What do I do
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    try it out
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    Just tell him, you've changed your mind. Other than that, tell him you contracted the Bubonic Plague.
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    It sounds like you aren't interested, so don't go?
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    I thought I was interested... I used to go crazy inside when he'd reply late and could imagine dating him, but now it's actually come down to it I think I'm in deep water and can't actually bring myself to date him.
    But then if I block him I feel like I'll always think what if but I feel nauseous when I think about going on a date with him
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    It sounds like you aren't interested, so don't go?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I thought I was interested... I used to go crazy inside when he'd reply late and could imagine dating him, but now it's actually come down to it I think I'm in deep water and can't actually bring myself to date him.
    But then if I block him I feel like I'll always think what if but I feel nauseous when I think about going on a date with him
    Then go, however do not feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. If you're still not feeling it, then be honest with him
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    (Original post by Seamus123)
    Just tell him, you've changed your mind. Other than that, tell him you contracted the Bubonic Plague.
    What if he starts questioning why? I feel like if I just block him it'll make everything go away peacefully.
    I agreed to the date yesterday and if I say I've changed my mind today hell think I'm odd...
    The thing is I really liked him before but now I'm having doubts and can't actually see him being my boyfriend. But I'm scared if I block him I'll regret it
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    I vomitted earlier when I thought about the date it was like a mixture of nerves, anxiety and when we matched and I got talking to him I didn't think it would actually get to the dating stage...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    try it out
    I'm too nervous and I didn't actually expect a date to come out of this
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    So I met this guy on a a dating app, began talking to him, I didn't think anything was going to happen of it, just to pass time out of boredom...
    We've been talking a couple of weeks and he asked for my number so I stupidly gave it, then he asked me out on a date which I agreed to... So we decided to go out this week, but now I'm getting cold feet...
    The thing is I can't actually see myself dating this guy for real, his looks aren't a problem but I'm just not 100% into him like I initially was. Don't get me started on how embarrassing it would be as well to tell people we met on this dating app..
    Shall I block him on the app and block his phone number and not turn up to the date?
    I feel too nervous to go on this date but part of me wants to go just to see what it's like, I feels like hell expect me to kiss him, which I don't think I want to...
    I just think ill probably be able to get a better boyfriend from one of the guys in my own year at uni, not this guy who's 3 years older I met online..
    What do I do
    you made plans with this person.you should grow up act your age and go out. You might actually have fun.
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    (Original post by emobambam)
    you made plans with this person.you should grow up act your age and go out. You might actually have fun.
    I don't want to, I feel too nervous and can't stop feeling sick, I didn't realise we were actually going to go on a date, he was so distant before
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    dont just not turn up, atleast cancel it
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    (Original post by z33)
    dont just not turn up, atleast cancel it
    Idk what to say though, I agreed yesterday and was like yeah sounds good! (idk why I said that I should've just said no but again I stupidly didn't realise an actual date was going to come off it)
    This is the third time I'm getting cold feet after a guy online asks me out on a date. The other two times I unmatched the guys and blocked them on all forms of media
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Idk what to say though, I agreed yesterday and was like yeah sounds good! (idk why I said that I should've just said no but again I stupidly didn't realise an actual date was going to come off it)
    This is the third time I'm getting cold feet after a guy online asks me out on a date. The other two times I unmatched the guys and blocked them on all forms of media
    just be like "hey sorry something came up and i cant go anymore "
    if he wants to reschedule be like "ill check and get back to you"
    and then block
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    It's a dating app - what did you expect would happen?

    For the sake of other guys on the app you should take yourself off it. Stop messing guys around.
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    I just found out he's an unemployed graduate, I definitely can't go on a date with him. I am not dating someone who's unemployed, if my mum knew as well, she'd make me dump him
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    (Original post by adesola15)
    Say you've got food poisoning


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    No I don't want him to envisage me having diahorrhea and puking
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    (Original post by Duncan2012)
    It's a dating app - what did you expect would happen?

    For the sake of other guys on the app you should take yourself off it. Stop messing guys around.
    I don't know!! I got bored and went on it and initially I was just talking to pass the time then I'd get giddy when he replied and I think I liked the idea of him... I just didn't really expect a date and relationship to happen from it I thought things would just float around in the same place..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't want to, I feel too nervous and can't stop feeling sick, I didn't realise we were actually going to go on a date, he was so distant before
    he probably is as nervous as you are.
 
 
 
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