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    How many of you meet new people and get to keep them as friends or people to hang out with?

    Ever since I left elementary school up to now, even in work situations, I have been having a hard time finding new friends or maintaining existing ones.
    It's always the same: you meet someone new, maybe you two click or not and even if it clicks, you end up alone because somehow you are not interesting enough. The other person doesn't feel the need to ask you for your phone number, to hang out, or anything. No, you say "hi", you say your name and maybe if you're lucky, you get to have a conversation. After that, it's "bye" and you don't see that person ever again and your life stays the same friendship rut you are in; things don't move on, and so on.
    Not even my hobby and sports clubs I have been going a decade to care about me. All they do is hang out with each other and I remain Mr. invisible.

    If this is reality for the coming years, I might just get depressed.
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    How many of you meet new people and get to keep them as friends or people to hang out with?

    Ever since I left elementary school up to now, even in work situations, I have been having a hard time finding new friends or maintaining existing ones.
    It's always the same: you meet someone new, maybe you two click or not and even if it clicks, you end up alone because somehow you are not interesting enough. The other person doesn't feel the need to ask you for your phone number, to hang out, or anything. No, you say "hi", you say your name and maybe if you're lucky, you get to have a conversation. After that, it's "bye" and you don't see that person ever again and your life stays the same friendship rut you are in; things don't move on, and so on.
    Not even my hobby and sports clubs I have been going a decade to care about me. All they do is hang out with each other and I remain Mr. invisible.

    If this is reality for the coming years, I might just get depressed.
    how old r u?
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    I have issues with being shy and feeling as if I'm boring so other people won't like me- as a result, I tend to hesitate before talking to people and can panic on what to say. I think we both have an issue in common. You said, "The other person doesn't feel the need to ask you for your phone number, to hang out, or anything" as if you expect the other person to initiate everything. I wait for other people to ask me to do things too (unless I'm close with them) because I'm scared of rejection. But, honestly? You should initiate meeting up or exchanging numbers if the other person doesn't. Maybe they didn't ask because they aren't interested, but it could also be because like you, they think you are not interested and are scared that you may reject a request to hang out. Take the plunge. The worst thing that can happen is they say no. You know what happens then? You feel a bit embarrassed, brush it off, and try with someone else.
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    how old r u?
    Older than 30, which is exactly the age at which (new) friendships start failing or become non-existing because everyone is so damn busy with their own lives and wives.
 
 
 
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