Join in on our 'Guess the Rep' Competition! >>

Pathological liar worming her way back in.

I was frends with a girl for around 2-3 years whilst at school and college.

She was always apparantly ill and dashing in and out of hospital for things that were never related. Like one month, she has appendictis, a few months later a back issue and then a few weeks later viral meningitis. Despite having these problems she was never in hospital for more than a couple of days, so I only go by what she told me. She claimed to have had so many abortions and miscarragies.

She would tell these to my friends and I individually and eventually we conferred and found out how many tragedies she has had apparantly. Privately we all though her a liar and didn't confront her about it. It also mainly happened around exam times too, giving her special considerations and such.

Myself and couple of the girls paid alot less attention to her when these things were mentione dand they only increased. I understand why she does it, her mum isn;t very nice and the only way to get attention is to always have something wrong, but she was at the age where she should know better.

Then towards the end of our time in college, she started ignoring our calls and always having an excuse when we made plans. It got to the point where we stopped calling, and slowly ceased contact.

The four of us that remained in our group, still acknowledged that she was a liar.

One of the girls from our group has drifted away and we have some sparse internet contact. Let's call her POSH.

Now this girl, I shall call her LIAR for ease (lol) has started contacting us. Myself, Posh and one other girl. The other two she didn't really speak to.

Liar has started messaging me on MSN and Myspace, asking stuff about how I am and things. My attitude is that fine, I'll be civil, reasonably friendly, but I have no attention of being anything other an acquaintance, and although I didn't say it, I made this plainly obvious in our conversations.

Now Posh, I have found out has started hanging out with this girl again and judging by her Facebook comments, they are already quite close, talking about Liar's problems. Posh knows Liar is a liar, yet is still getting sucked in.

So, to get to my point, should I say anything to Posh? I don't really talk to her all that much, as she has changed, I think, but we do see each other in group situations. She is easily susceptible to Liar's lies and was the last out of us all to acknowledge how wrong Liar was.

Now Liar has also started messaging my sister! it's really getting on my swede, but do I say anything?

Part of me is jealous, as Liar looks a lot better than she used to and is successfully muscling in on a lot of people she ceased contact with and is spinning her crap again! But do I ignore it?

HELP!

Sorry it;'s so long winded.

Reply 1

Chewwy

um, yeah, ignore it. what's it got to do with you?

Reply 2

SepticLovebite

Well it's people I know she's doing it too! I dunno, I know it's a bit stupid, but she's only taking notice of my little sister to get at me, I can just tell.

I supposeI am just a bit outraged at how she kjeeps getting away with it and people just don't stop her!

Reply 3

yellow96

I've had problems with a pathological liar too. I say problems, I mean that she's gone completely ****ing insane and is intentionally following my friends and I to university to continue her campaign of being a horrible little bitch.

Moving on.. if 'Posh' knows that this girl is a liar, then she's obviously making her own decision to talk to her. You could remind her of Liar's many lies, but I think it's far more likely that Liar is being a bit more forceful in her friendship with Posh, and Posh is finding it hard to remain distant. With regards to your sister, make sure she knows what Liar's like, and keep a listen out for any lies she may start spreading about your sister. In my experience, pathological liars don't just lie about themselves.

Reply 4

Eubacterium

I had a similar experience where an ex so called friend pretended to have “ME” at the cost of our friendship (like leaving me to do projects alone when she was fine). She had special considerations but at the time would go on about how she didn't really need it. Another friend I was closer to than the girl with "ME" was to her would gossip with me on how this person is a liar and does it to attention seek. But this other friend kept making such an effort to see the girl who pretended to be ill when it suited her and kept talking about everything little thing she said although she knew I wasn't interested. Then I stopped hearing from the other friend. I decided I was better off without them.

I think you should only say something to POSH if you're close to her. In the end it’s her life, even if she’s making a mistake. She may have her own reasons to being friends with LIER. As for other friends, well you could try talking to them. I don't know why some people are so susceptible, I mean the reasons she gave are so unbelievable. You're better off without people who are so soft in the head.

Reply 5

SepticLovebite

Thanks guys.

It's really difficult to bite my tongue. I know if I go spouting off, she'll turn on the tears and I will be branded cruel and spiteful.

When we initially stopped talking and people asked how Liar was doing hwne I saw them, I used to say I didn't see her anymore and when people asked why I didn't know what to say. I started with "She's not really the kind of person I want to be friends with anymore" but that didn't go down too well. :s-smilie:

Reply 6

yellow96

When people ask me why I'm not friends with Little-Miss-Russian-Millionnaire anymore, I tell them it's because she's a pathological liar. You shouldn't feel like you have to keep quiet about her lies to other people, let alone to her. If I was in your position, I'd have it all out with this Liar girl, but I know you weren't asking for advice about that. :P