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    Throughout my whole life I've never had much luck with friendships and relationships.
    I've been bullied a large amount which led me to a large amount of antisocia moments, I have anxiety and I am quite depressed at this moment in time, but I met a friend who became my best friend in literal days. We had everything in common and she was so friendly and helped me to get over so many obstacles in my life and I love her a very large amount.
    Earlier this year in June she moved to California which is the other side of the world to me because I live in England. I don't know how to deal with it because I isolated myself so much before and relied on my best friend for everything, every weekend we met up, every lesson we were partnered and sat together. I don't know what to do and I am heading back down a spiral which my best friend helped build to boost me up. I don't know what to do I just miss her so much
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    Throughout my whole life I've never had much luck with friendships and relationships.
    I've been bullied a large amount which led me to a large amount of antisocia moments, I have anxiety and I am quite depressed at this moment in time, but I met a friend who became my best friend in literal days. We had everything in common and she was so friendly and helped me to get over so many obstacles in my life and I love her a very large amount.
    Earlier this year in June she moved to California which is the other side of the world to me because I live in England. I don't know how to deal with it because I isolated myself so much before and relied on my best friend for everything, every weekend we met up, every lesson we were partnered and sat together. I don't know what to do and I am heading back down a spiral which my best friend helped build to boost me up. I don't know what to do I just miss her so much
    Have you considered cognitive behavioral therapy? I have social anxiety as well, and I was referred about five months ago. It really does help. Your best friend is what my therapist would call a 'safety behaviour' - she made you feel safe and helped you get over your anxieties, but when she's taken away, you start to panic.

    Most of the treatment in CBT is behavioral experiments, controlled exposure. It seems terrifying before you do it - forcing yourself into a situation that scares you - but you feel good after you've done it. Talk to your GP and see if you can get a referral.

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