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Apologies for the long post.

Basically I like a guy who is in a relationship with a control freak who he is not happy with and he nearly left a few times, he and I were extrememly close for a short while, both admitted to liking each other etc then his girlfriend found out, he didn't treat me very well then so I had a go at him and we stopped talking

After that I realised that I wanted to be around this guy that much that I would put up with the pain of being friends with him but he ignored me

I assumed he now hated me and said so to a mutual friend

The guy then text me to say he didn't hate me, I said that the way he talked to all of our friends in school except me and him ignoring me gave me that impression, he didn't reply

Why did he bother telling me he didn't hate me if he's just going to act like he does some more??? I know he's not suppose to talk to me so he risked his relationship to tell me that (she checks messages etc)

When he broke up with his girlfriend and said that he needed a certain period of time to think (I have my sources) and coincidentally exactly the time i was leaving for holiday

So before I left I realised that I liked him but we couldn't be friends anymore, I kind of explained how I felt and said "goodbye" to him... he didn't reply again. So I thought that after all we've been through I mean nothing to him and things he said were lies but then why couldn't he just say "goodbye"? Is it because in his eyes I don't merit one?

Also apparently everyone thinks I am about to get with my male friend which I don't know what to do about

He is honestly a decent guy it's just an extrememly bad situation

I feel extremely insulted and confused, please help
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Ok... er...

1. Are you about to get with this other male friend?
2. Do you want to get with "the guy"?

Why dont you try PHONING him if you want definat answers. Much harder to avoid than text messages.
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you either grab the bull by the horns and do something of substance or accept he has probly moved on from what it sounds.

post him this thread .
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1.) No I have absolutely no intention of getting with my guy friend not now and probably not ever
2.) Yes, I really do want that guy. I mean if I didn't I definitely wouldn't be in this mess

And that is a very good idea that I'm surprised I hadn't thought of. It's major draw back is, I have no bravery whatsoever when it comes to this stuff and phone calls require that. Also what do I say, I said "goodbye" so I would be like "Why didn't you say goodbye back?"
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I like the thread idea more and I accept that he seems to have moved on in most respects... but the last day I saw him he was still looking at me in a very intense "I like you" way. Things like that are throwing me off
Thanks so far
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Phone him?

Seriously, or meet up with him for a proper conversation.
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If he has feelings for you then its a total waste to just let him go without trying. Perhaps he didnt reply because he was upset that you didnt want to seem to try?

The only solution here is to talk to him. You dont need bravery - seems like you've known him a while anyway. Dont think too much about it, phone him up, and make it up as you go along.
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*although i'd suggest waiting til tomorrow before phoning as midnight possibly isnt the best time!!
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Why is this guy with that girl if she makes him unhappy? I'd say a good thing to do would be to get someone you trust to ask him if he likes you or what does he thing of you, indirectly. You'd know much better where to go from there once you have that information.

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might jus have to bide your time and hope things don't work out for them then.

he mite jus be keeping his options open , the fact is if he really wanted to be with atm he could find away. he can't be on lock and key from his mrs 12/7 .

i would'nt give up hope , baring in mind its not like you get to see him alot anyway so if you confront him them what the worse that can happen. you see him just a little.

and if there's a physical attraction he will always throw you a smile.

you've got use what influence you have over the outcome and the rest is beyond your control.

"cos it takes two baby , it takes two baby ...it takes two"
as the song goes.
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That was very nice singing
Well, from when we were close I know that he does love her but there are other reasons why he won't leave her, one of them being he's too nice to dump her for no reason
You have all helped a lot thanks
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