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    I'm 17 and I lost my virginity yesterday but it took me a while and I didn't *** until she fore played (like sucking the balls and stuff) afterwards is that wierd. Basically this got me thinking am I gay, yes this question has popped into my head before and I've dealt with it because I only get hard ons and sexually aroused with females, like the fact the question Am I gay has even popped in my head makes me question because whenever I've asked my parents if they were ever confused I get the same reply of No not at all, all the time, also I have a close gay mate who always has "you dunno until you've tried" like is he right? I dunno why this has suddenly bothered me never has until I lost my virginity yesterday just hoping that people can tell me if it's sounds like I could be gay or I'm just overthinking everything as per
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    I agree with your friend, you wont know till you'v tried it out. Take it slow, baby steps, ask your friend to help you. Explore yourself and find out what interests you. Tbh there's nothing to loose
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    I agree with your friend, you wont know till you'v tried it out. Take it slow, baby steps, ask your friend to help you. Explore yourself and find out what interests you. Tbh there's nothing to loose
    No because I'm not attracted in that way like I don't want to be gay, I've spoken to my mum about it she says its all probably because this is my first proper relationship due to it all being quickly I'm just overthinking stuff for it not to be right, I've done it before multiple times I guess it's just me as a person 😊
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    You don't get to choose to be gay unfortunately... Just watch some gay porn and see how you feel. If it does nothing for you then you'll know. Just don't watch any DP or creampies. Ew.
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    Sexuality is confusing, but if all you're basing this on is a not great sexual experience (and no one has a fantastic time when they lose their virginity) then I'd say no. If you feel no attraction to men, and never have, then that pretty much settles it in my book.
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    You don't get to choose to be gay unfortunately... Just watch some gay porn and see how you feel. If it does nothing for you then you'll know. Just don't watch any DP or creampies. Ew.
    I went to watch some gay porn but it just made me feel so weird I couldn't watch it like it made me feel sick in the stomach like none of it interested me but nowadays not much porn does 😂
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    Go to a gay bar in Soho and see how you feel
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    "you dunno until you've tried" - WRONG
    While it is odd that it took so much for you to reach an orgasm, it was still your first time and you may have been stressed. You sound like you're attracted to girls from what you say, do you even have any interest in guys?

    In general, it's best to just not worry about it and be patient. Eventually it will stop being confusing and overthinking will not help you get there.
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    Why on earth would you think you are gay if you have never been attracted to men...there is no need to try anything. If you want to, that's another story, but it doesn't sound like you do..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 17 and I lost my virginity yesterday but it took me a while and I didn't *** until she fore played (like sucking the balls and stuff) afterwards is that wierd. Basically this got me thinking am I gay, yes this question has popped into my head before and I've dealt with it because I only get hard ons and sexually aroused with females, like the fact the question Am I gay has even popped in my head makes me question because whenever I've asked my parents if they were ever confused I get the same reply of No not at all, all the time, also I have a close gay mate who always has "you dunno until you've tried" like is he right? I dunno why this has suddenly bothered me never has until I lost my virginity yesterday just hoping that people can tell me if it's sounds like I could be gay or I'm just overthinking everything as per
    Your gay mate has been working on you! 'Never know until you've tried it [with me]' is what he meant. Lol. Stop worrying ffs! You're clearly not gay you just have an enquiring mind.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 17 and I lost my virginity yesterday but it took me a while and I didn't *** until she fore played (like sucking the balls and stuff) afterwards is that wierd. Basically this got me thinking am I gay, yes this question has popped into my head before and I've dealt with it because I only get hard ons and sexually aroused with females, like the fact the question Am I gay has even popped in my head makes me question because whenever I've asked my parents if they were ever confused I get the same reply of No not at all, all the time, also I have a close gay mate who always has "you dunno until you've tried" like is he right? I dunno why this has suddenly bothered me never has until I lost my virginity yesterday just hoping that people can tell me if it's sounds like I could be gay or I'm just overthinking everything as per
    Do a Kinsley Scale test
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    Chill! You're 17 and it's not that big of a deal. From what you've said it sounds very unlikely that you're gay, but one day that might change and that's not a problem either.
    Don't do anything if you don't feel comfortable doing it - if gay porn is making you feel uncomfortable, I don't think you'll feel much better doing it yourself. If you do decide to experiment make sure you're with someone who will stop if you need to.
    It sounds to me like you were a bit nervous and I don't think you can make any major decisions without giving it some time.
    If you are questioning your sexuality a lot, it might be that you're a little bit attracted to guys and a lot attracted to girls? I'm not suggesting you should take that as truth or act on it if you don't want to, but maybe doing some soul-searching and coming to terms with who you're attracted to might stop you from worrying so much. Sexuality isn't as black and white as 'gay or straight', and it's a personal thing only you can decide. You don't have to share it with anyone else.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 17 and I lost my virginity yesterday but it took me a while and I didn't *** until she fore played (like sucking the balls and stuff) afterwards is that wierd. Basically this got me thinking am I gay, yes this question has popped into my head before and I've dealt with it because I only get hard ons and sexually aroused with females, like the fact the question Am I gay has even popped in my head makes me question because whenever I've asked my parents if they were ever confused I get the same reply of No not at all, all the time, also I have a close gay mate who always has "you dunno until you've tried" like is he right? I dunno why this has suddenly bothered me never has until I lost my virginity yesterday just hoping that people can tell me if it's sounds like I could be gay or I'm just overthinking everything as per
    If you watch a lot of porn/masturbate excessively you can become desensitised to normal sex.
 
 
 
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