confused about a girl

Hello,

I have this friend, we have been friends for many years and i have recently been getting the strongest feelings for her. like i have never felt before...

we met up the other day and we had a great time.. but i am getting confusing messages from her... like she wanted to pretend we were a couple and we were out shopping for our dinner... (sounds weird, i know, but was funny.)

but i dont no if this is just her joking around or if she is putting in little hints..

we met today and i really wanted to kiss her but i couldnt bring myself to do it.. im scared she doesnt feel the same way and i dont want it to ruin our friendship, and now im feeling pretty low.

never done anything like this before but i really need the advice of a few people.

Thank you very much, its much appriciated.

Reply 1

Varsity

13

Do you usually hang out just you and her, or in a group?
If its a group start asking her out just you and her, she might get the message from that.

Maybe ask her if she wants to go for a meal with you, but make a point of it being a nice meal, in a nice restaurant.

Also complement her alot, tell her she is pretty that sort of thing, again these are things friends don't say much, and that might get a response...

Its always hard with friends. Take it slow imo. BUT NOT 2 SLOW!!

Reply 2

Rutter knows best!

12

i have a similiar anacdote. only i was only friends for a few months.
if you ever get the courege jus go for it don't ask if it really feels right.

i didn't and i regret it adn now we barely speak , mostly as i find it a double edged sword being involved with her in any way.

i think my boat sailed now if you get me but it doesn't sound too late for you , its just findin the right moment.

do what feels right for you at the end of the day.

Reply 3

blank1234

hey,

thanks very much for the advice, the giving her lots of compliments is a really good idea.

and ye, we normal just meet on our own, so ill start slipping the wee compliments in :smile:

and i guess picking the right moment is key, it will be hard but when its there i guess i will know.

thank you very much for your advice, its really helped me :smile:

Reply 4

mudblood

1

I think she's dropping hints - go for it! :biggrin:

I suppose you could directly ask her how she feels but that's always a bit daunting.

Good luck!

Reply 5

theredsox

15

Go for it. Please, just go for it.
You might be worried about losing your friendship, but haven't you found that when you fancy someone and don't do anything, you drift apart anyway?
And then you might end up with her as your girlfriend.
How many times do you find out later that they liked you too, as well?

Reply 6

Hedger

13

theredsox

Go for it. Please, just go for it.
You might be worried about losing your friendship, but haven't you found that when you fancy someone and don't do anything, you drift apart anyway?
And then you might end up with her as your girlfriend.
How many times do you find out later that they liked you too, as well?

Woman speaks the truth.
Don't be foolish and think you could live with yourself knowing you like her that much.

Reply 7

Dionysus

15

Kiss her. When the moment is right obviously. And I mean full-on snog her. Maybe after dinner or something.

Reply 8

angus_mcfisher

I agree with most people above. Go for it whenever you find a moment. I was in a similar situation last year and we were really good friends which made it worse because I didn't want to make a move and she didn't feel the same way and lose the friendship or hinder it somewhat. We had some intimate moments, but I still always doubted and hence nothing happened.

A year on, with hindsight, it was obvious she liked me and now I'm living with the regret which I can guarantee you do not want to live with. As it stands, I've still got strong feelings for her (which is actually quite worrying) yet we've drifted apart and haven't met for a while.

Please, you do not want to follow my footsteps - the path may be easier at the time but the destination is much worse and it's ****ing difficult to return to even where you started!

Reply 9

blank1234

omg, i never thought id get this much advice :smile:

thank you very much everyone!

i guess i no what to do now and ass the saying goes, "time spent wishing is time wasted" so im just going to ggo for it :biggrin:

you guys really make a difference to peoples lives and for that i respect you :smile:

cheers

Reply 10

Princess_777

i say tell her, i mean i know there is a lot at stake but if dont say anything you're probably gonna regret not telling her for the rest of your life. And you never know she might have feelings for you too! Godd Luck!!!

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