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    hey
    so a bit of background, I'm 18 and my bf is 22. we live 2 hour drive apart.
    last night, he snap chatted me saying 'you know it' with the smirk emoji at the end. we were having a snapchat convo already. then he sent another saying ' sorry that was for sam' (his friend). and because of the emoji, i asked what they were talking about. he said 'girls with big bums', then i said why? and he said because sam sent him a snapchat of a girl with a big bum and captioned it 'your type of girl'. this really annoyed me because why is he admiring a girl like that? so i just texted him goodnight very bluntly. then he was asking why i was being like that and i just said i was annoyed. he apologised and said he will tell sam not to talk about other girls with him. i said not to do that because its weird. he said it wasn't worth being annoyed about too. but i just feel annoyed that he did that? like did i over react? my friends said i did he isn't a f***boy or anything like that, he is a great boyfriend and i feel lucky to have him. this was kind of our first dispute and i just didn't like it, we are fine now and i know it wasn't a huge argument or anything but i always get worried about this stuff and over think haha. thank you
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    you did, it’s natural to admire bodies, as long as he didn’t cheat.
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    girls, would you be annoyed? or was i just being stupid?
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    I'm a girl and personally it would piss me off a bit but tbh it's not his fault or a big deal ... at the time you might feel territorial/hurt etc but it wasn't his fault he was just having a joke with his mate dw tho it's not bad for overreacting slightly it just means u care about him xx
    Good luck with the relationship
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    If you're expecting a guy (or a girl fyi) to just stop looking at or thinking about other girls because he's in a relationship with you - prepare yourself for a life of sadness.

    Also, it clearly wasn't even a specific girl. It was a bum. He was thinking about a big bum.
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    Hmmm yeah I think I'd be annoyed too haha. I know it's normal for your boyfriend to still find other people attractive but it's never nice to know about it.


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    Ngl I'd be slightly annoyed. If I had a boyfriend that was admiring other girls in that way I'd feel like my body wasn't good enough, that's a *****y feeling
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    As long as they're looking but not touching then what's the big deal?

    Jesus christ, you know he probably watches porn right?

    Yeah, you were over-reacting. Big time.
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    Do you have a pancake butt? Is that why you're behaving so melodramatically here?
 
 
 
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