1st date nerves

I remember the first date i went on with my boyfriend, i was so nervous i developed a stutter! Just try and relax, after all this person likes you so just talk to them like you would a friend!

Reply 2

winniethepooh88

Just be yourself. If your meant to be, then it will happen. x

Reply 3

HereFishyFishy

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Ok, well firstly don't use text speak/slang.

Secondly, just be yourself. If the conversation dries up/is very awkward, it suggests they might not be the person for you. But give it the best chance of success by being relaxed and friendly.

Reply 4

Hedger

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^lmao, indeed. Don't wanna respond to a joke by her with "haha... like... totally LOL in capital letters."

Reply 5

Celina424

First dates are always nerve wrecking. Just keep on mind that your date is probably nervous as well. My best advice is to not think too much about it, relax and make the best out of the date by being yourself! Have fun and good luck!

Reply 6

i got back from pretty much my first proper one last night. jsut get a bit pissed so you loosen up.

Reply 7

Enchanté

Consie

i got back from pretty much my first proper one last night. jsut get a bit pissed so you loosen up.

What's the point in getting drunk a tiny bit? Surely your date is going to see you in a way you don't normally act like (depending on how much you drink).
Op: You just need to relax yourself around the person you're going on the date with and just be yourself, don't act like someone you're not, hopefully everything will go fine. :smile:

Reply 8

Whats the point in getting drunk a bit? Dont you think it loosens you up a little? I'm generally more chatty after 4 pints than none, even if I'm chatting proportionately more crap. But its not as if a few pints/glasses of wine makes you a different person, if anything it stops your nervouses from getting in the way of what your normal person is.

Every time you go out do you either stay completely sober or get totally legless?

Reply 9

Enchanté

Consie

Whats the point in getting drunk a bit? Dont you think it loosens you up a little? I'm generally more chatty after 4 pints than none, even if I'm chatting proportionately more crap. But its not as if a few pints/glasses of wine makes you a different person, if anything it stops your nervouses from getting in the way of what your normal person is.

Every time you go out do you either stay completely sober or get totally
legless?

Yeah it does loosen you up probably when with friends and stuff it just seems a bit stupid to do before a date that's all, it does make you a different person because if you're usually quiet and a bit louder after a few drinks that's not always how you usually are, Anyway I don't feel the need to get pissed everytime I go out with friends yeah ocassionaly but not every single time I feel I have to get completly legless.

Reply 10

but do you agree that if you're really nervous you're not yourself anyway? So while drinking despite not being nervous in the first place might make you louder than you usually are, having a bit to loosen you up a little when you are nervous is likely to just make you more normal.

Reply 11

*Katie*

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Enchanté

Yeah it does loosen you up probably when with friends and stuff it just seems a bit stupid to do before a date that's all, it does make you a different person because if you're usually quiet and a bit louder after a few drinks that's not always how you usually are, Anyway I don't feel the need to get pissed everytime I go out with friends yeah ocassionaly but not every single time I feel I have to get completly legless.

Yes, but your normal self isn't really quiet and reserved, is it? A person who is nervous isn't as they usually are - and a drop of alcohol can help the person overcome their nerves.

Reply 12

exacly, high five me.

Reply 13

Enchanté

*Katie*

Yes, but your normal self isn't really quiet and reserved, is it? A person who is nervous isn't as they usually are - and a drop of alcohol can help the person overcome their nerves.

True

dutch courage

goes a long way, but its easier to summon after a few bottles of beer/couple of shots.

sometimes a bit of silence is fine, it beats chatting ****. will your date be involving a meal or just some drinks? You can usually just start snogging her when the convo dries up if its the latter.

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