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Hi -this is long!! Sorry so don’t know if anyone will read this for me, rep available

Basically I’m deciding whether to make effort with someone to be their friend or whether it is just best to forget them...or what they’ve even said. It seems like this person is very up themselves and well a manwhore. Also not sure what they are trying to achieve with me. So I need other people’s interpretations of it as I didn’t understand this very much.

Story: Texting guy for few months, think he was texting other girls too (shows facebook-when girls are apologising not replying to his texts). I’ve only ever seen him by himself and not round other people as we jus sat in a lecture room together and went for walks after. Never met him outside this time apart from once before I went home. Here he came over and we kissed and he slept over mind- we didn’t have sex, and basically we weren’t gonna (marriage thing) but still might have been a - I need to relief my urges and have some action. He got a bit-not too much. We cuddled and sorta kissed different points in the night. But I knew he wouldn’t keep in contact over summer and he didn’t-vaguely thru msn and he said -sorry for not keeping in contact I’ve been busy-but how busy can one person be!!! Think he just doesn’t want to say I don’t fancy u-out of sight out of mind. Also there’s a pic of him kissing a random girl on facebook. I don’t mind being mates at all… as didn’t initially fancy him, but i did like him a bit on and off, and now just feel really silly and realised he doesn’t know me at all. Anyways would appreciate feedback, any point trying to be friends and what’s he saying basically.... or is there pride involved here-don’t want to look like a fool. I’m not sure what my feelings for him are...or whether hes just soemone not to waste any time on Thank you

Im in pink hes in green

Convo bits- He says hes been expecting waiting for me to keep him warm in bed n all tha (randomly-after saying he texted me-which he didnt).

well accordin 2 ya facebook pics i have a feeling u shdnt worry about that as a problem, as im sure yal find something (cheap shot?lol?) haha lol yeah defo!! lol
there ya go-problem solved
my private life, terrible that i gets spread all over th tabloids
it happens!!! still at least ya now rested i guess!!
wa
dnt matter!
so hols all good then?

After talking about hols.......

so nefin elseeee?????
well not really, apart from gettin spotted with a million girls in town like
r u one of these boys hu all like- i gta go out n pull 2nite (coz i frt ya mite b-dnt mena that in a bad way-jus asking)
lol
this mite sound big headed but i honestly dont go out with tha intention!!!!
girls just come onto me, am just there to ava good time with me m8s!!!
k k
cant help it lol

I ask if he gets disappointed if he doesnt pull (not sure where im goin with this)-just proding really :p:

- Im a bit annoyed now as well!!

lol but i really dont get disappointed lol i know wa ur sayin, to be honest, i can actually get like tha, but thats not over not pullin, more likely to be over a girl bein funny with ye after meetin up for a while or somethin
lol hope ya aint hintin at me there!!! coz im not bein funny with you!!! ise jus a natural thinker!!
lol noooooo lol
shud i be disappointed of bein with you tha time?

I dont understand that so ask for it to be rephrased again and again and again lol. Im aware im being a bit blunt, but just annoyed-not usually like this. In the gaps im just asking him what he means.
somethin like should i be disppointed of being with you as opposed to me bein disappointed wen bein with other girls - i makin any kinda sense!

i was sayin before aba bein disappointed wen things dont work out between girls, and was tryna hint at u sayin so u shud be disappointed with not seein/bein/snugglin up to with me kinda thing

well am jus disappointed sometimes cos i get me hopes up...maybe thinkin i wish it didnt always happen to me!! loln maybe with you it was different cos i knew u wer goin back to london but of course it wuda been nicer to spend more nights like tha with u
i think it'd be nice tho if i could come round agen... is tha wa u want me to say lol
want u 2 say whatever u wna say!...jus that uve sed-u got ya hopes up with other girls n wished it didnt happen 2 u(u wish u never got ur hopes up- i think u mean coz then ya bin hurt), n that it was differnt with me because u know i was goin back- y was it different -coz that was it? so was that y you was with me....coz ya wouldnt see me for at least 4 months or longer?
well i wasnt "with u
no i know that i meant when u came round
well i cam round hopin to get with u maybe, n hopefully stay in touch over th hols
as in how -get with me?as in what kiss/ sleep with me? meet me? what
kiss
th 'sleepin' in th same bed was a nice added bonus
added bonus!!!!! u serrious
well i was not with th intention at all in sleepin with you!! i enjoyed sleepin with u
i know this aint soundin gr8 is it......but it was gr8 sleepin with u, im not gonna lie!! He asked if he could sleep over before
know this aint soundin gr8 is it......but it was gr8 sleepin with u, im not gonna lie!! (hes taking about sleeping as in snoring and i guess errm some touching on top half)

no its soundin rubbish- im feeling like a ****
well- no its like ya came over n i jus basically sed hey get lets jus sleep 2 gether n- u were like well got nuffin else 2 do n wernt expecting that-gues i jus got lucky with this 1 (type of thing)

its not like tha tho is it!! it was more than tha
was it??? coz that how it feels? what dya think of me..b honest?(lol thats the worst question 2 ask i know that but thought why not)
lol i h8 bein put on th spot
tough! lol
well i think ur a gr8 girl to get along with...gr8 lips, and gr8 tongue.......and nice n warm to snuggle up to!! he had a gap here before he put on the rest-seems bit shallow? but im a girl so we think like that, also sucking up2 me a bit there!!???
not just someone id just spend one nite with either...just think of all them days we did somethin together or how long we'd be txtd bare in mind we never met up outside, hes telling porkies a bit there
am i a real divie??!
ur partial lol
n wot do u think aba th whole our situation almost done!!!! sorryyyy!! just hate it when i dont udnerstand things ive noticed

well i get confused with u alot!! lol!!! but that dont bother me 2 much4 some reason! hmmmm i think ya funny (like ya made me laugh so much on that first lecture i had a pain in my stomach!! n i think i get on reallly well with ya n did so v quckly, n i did like bein with ya that nite-that y i sent ya that text incase ya wernt sure-
then talk bout him sayin once he thought i was angry at him for not texting

lol oo i probly thort u wer angry wiv me for not stayin in touch, cos of me bein too busy!
nah i wasnt -theres nuffin 4 me to get angry over
fair enuf!

There all done!! Many thanks for reading it!! Im not sure how to take this as not sure whats being said! Was 2 am when this finished!! xxxxx I know I sound harsh but thats because I think hes being rude?? and basically it doesn't seem like he wants a relationship or even friendship-but maybe a guy can fill the gaps in there as I havent got the faintest clue....many many thanks

Reply 1

pumpkin7

why is he in the tabloids?

Reply 2

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

I think that's all he really wanted in the first place. A little fumble under the sheets. But truthfully I think you'd be better off without someone like that, and find someone who you, importantly, fancy for a start off and vice versa.

I wouldn't dream of wanting a relationship with someone like that. But personally, I'd play him at his game and relinquish contact and see how much he messages you on msn and texts you...just for a little giggle.

Reply 3

Misogynist

He seems like an alright guy. I don't see what the problem is. He doesn't seem overly interested in you anymore because your questions could be answered with much more tact if he were. It's obvious that you like him - I think you're trying to hide that fact from yourself because you're consistently bombarding him with questions which allude to the question of 'Do you like me?' 'What do you think of me?' etc. I'd say make the effort, He's slightly arrogant but seems like an honest enough person, even though he may beat around the bush sometimes.

Reply 4

m00

How confusing!

I think he's after a quick fumble. Anyone who claims that girls throw themselves at him isn't in it for the long run.

I'm also not sure what you're playing at. You say 'I’m deciding whether to make effort with someone to be their friend or whether it is just best to forget them' Do you sleep/fumble with all of your friends? Seems to me you're hoping for more.

You mention these other girls on his Facebook, which says to me you're a bit jealous otherwise you wouldn't mention them - this also leads me to believe you want more than a friendship.

I honestly couldn't understand much of what he said and I think you were fishing for some kind of answer; without asking the question your not going to get the answer.

Don't be a fool.

Reply 5

00-0830-NADINE

honestly it seems like it was a one night kinda thing...sorry...just forget about him, i think the only reason for him saying some of the things he said was he'd like to keep his options open for maybe another sleepover, but not a real friendship or relationship

Reply 6

Nudlz

if you wnat to br friends with him just say i dont think he'd mind from what you said and it sounds like you would prefer to be freinds as well. mayeb thats thebest option, tell him how you feel tis the best option

Reply 7

Fleece

That was quite hard to read.

I've come across guys like that before and it's blatant he's not really into you (sorry if this is harsh). When you asked what he thought of you he just said great lips and great tongue. Stuff of romantic dreams that.

Reply 8

Rei

That took like 30% of my brain to decode! lol..yes 30%! :P (to the next geek: save your breath, i know we cant use that much - im exaggerating :smile:

)

Do all guys from your area talk like this..??? lol this guy sounds so bigheaded its not even funny lol

haha fleece, yeah romantic fantasies lol

Reply 9

I can't believe i actually just read all the way through that. I think i've just lost the will to live. Though i am left with one overwhelming urge to say something: Every time you use **** grammar and abbreviate words, somewhere in the world a puppy gets strangled. Please don't do it. Think of the innocent puppies.

Reply 10

yazoo

why is he in the tabloids?

no hes just pretending facebooks like newspapers as a joke

Reply 11

yazoo

Do you sleep/fumble with all of your friends? Seems to me you're hoping for more.

Lol! I have no idea ,I had a bad year at uni so he was a bit of relief, not in my circle of current freinds there at the time. So I think I definitely valued his company more as hes from the area and settled with his own friends. Maybe I do want more, but the year was just so bad-I wasnt sure of much. I think im his first asian friend by the way-just thought Id mention that! Pretty sure i am!

Not jealous of the other girls at all, dont know them, just aware that there is others and trying to see where I stand.

Do all guys from your area talk like this..??? lol this guy sounds so bigheaded its not even funny lol

Sorry its hard to understand, I always have to re-read everything- I didnt get any of that-(communication problem)-hes from north west of England (lol). Funny, but a week ago on msn he offered to pay for me to go on a holiday!! I said I wanted to go and see my friend but cant-my mums having trouble walking-he said if it was a money issue he'd of paid! But think thats all talk!!!! Hes got a p/t job. Also he said to me that - I should be bigheaded-such a random thing to say! And i said but I wouldnt want to be and am not. He said hes not neither but he may come across it. I have no idea why he said that! Thanks for all the replies so far! Really appreciate it!! I was suprised by the arrogance but I did want him to be honest, so made me wonder whether Im anything to him or just an ego boost of some sort.

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