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what about inter-year friendships? do years on the whole tend not to mix with other years?
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Well... we don't like to brag..
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what about inter-year friendships? do years on the whole tend not to mix with other years?
i personally only mix with other years through sports! But joining a college or uni club will certainly leave you with friends in other years which you then do stuff with outside of that sport!
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I'd guess that inter-year mixing depends on college a lot. Very small colleges like Corpus mix between years an awful lot, because there's so few people. On top of that, if the second years live off-site then I'd guess there'll be far less inter-year mixing. At Queens', everybody lives on-site, and I'm guessing that it increases the amount of inter-year mixing a lot.
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Clubs and societies are great for inter-year mixing - you will find that it's the older people in the club who you will look to for advice and who will teach you things, so you will get to spend a lot of time with them. You're likely to meet PhD students, post-docs and even people who left the university long before you did.

As for friends, most of them are people in my college - the people in my college doing my course are also good friends. I speak to some other people on my course in lectures but don't tend to socialise with them outside of work. I'm not sure what I think about people in societies - I like them, and they seem a little cliquey, but I'm not sure whether I will spend less time with people from college to spend more time with them.
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(Original post by pipsipops)
what about inter-year friendships? do years on the whole tend not to mix with other years?
I would think that this depended on the college and each year that came in. At Jesus there was quite alot of inter-year friendships... in fact i saw most of my friends graduate at the beginning of the summer. I think that happens through clubs and societies... but Jesus also have a very popular bar and you meet most of the college there.

I made my friends in the other years because i was up a week early for 'geek week' and my college mum and her friends were about and i spent a week going to clubs with them.
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Hi, just wondered whether your MAIN friendship group tends to be the people in close proximity in your halls, or whether you tend to be the most friendly with people doing your subject? At other universities people say their strongest friends are usually those they live with.
Very definitely the people you live with. And even within a college, although most people doing a course will be on friendly terms with each other, in my experience the more intense friendships and actual relationships tend to be with people doing other courses (or if doing the same course, in other years).

This is partly just the statistics (even if you're a NatSci, there are at least twice as many people doing other courses), but I think it's partly a (subconscious?) desire for your friends to not be the same people you take lectures with, study with, and in the end, be competing against in the exams.
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Very definitely the people you live with. And even within a college, although most people doing a course will be on friendly terms with each other, in my experience the more intense friendships and actual relationships tend to be with people doing other courses (or if doing the same course, in other years).

This is partly just the statistics (even if you're a NatSci, there are at least twice as many people doing other courses), but I think it's partly a (subconscious?) desire for your friends to not be the same people you take lectures with, study with, and in the end, be competing against in the exams.
Ah see, with me it's the other way round- all of my close friends are NatScis like me, and from Sidney too. I think a lot of that is down to being totally different personality-wise to the people in my flat in first year, and spending most of my time with fellow NatScis. We all work on the same timetable, ie we have to get up in the morning, Saturday is the only night off we can have without having to get up for lectures etc etc. Plus we can all moan together about our courses, supervisors and stuff, and help each other revise for exams. Of course, that's not to say I don't speak to people doing other subjects...I do, they just aren't my closest friends.

Hopefully next year, I'll make some friends from other colleges, especially since I don't think anyone from my college is doing the modules that I'm doing. There are a lot of inter-year friendships at Sidney. I think that's down to relationships (often between parents and children), sports and suject societies and things. I'm really gonna miss the people from the year above me now they've graduated
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going against the grain here but only because i do an obscure subject (architecture) in that i didnt really have many friends in college. i've graduated now but i'll only be keeping in touch with a very few people from college, notably my boyfriend of coming up for 3 years and a couple of others. the vast majority of my close friends are architects and they are all from other colleges since i was the only architect in my year at Selwyn. the other way i've got to know people from different colleges is through our very own TSR! I would never have met two of my very closest friends had it not been for teh interweb.
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Bizarrely, my main friends in the 1st term were all from other colleges (because of my involvement in societies, etc.) and from all different years - freshers through to PhDers & graduates (working but not studying in Cambridge).
It was only once 2nd term hit that I began to really get to know people in College. Now my friendships are pretty evenly split between different years, different colleges & different subjects. The more extra-curricular stuff you do, the more people you will meet - it's the best way! Bit of a baptism by fire, but it works.
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And what about "keeping term"? I've read somewhere on Queens' website that in the first term you can spend only 10 nights away from college. Is that true? Are they checking it anyhow? Is the same rule for all terms and all years? It would be terrible, I guess!
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And what about "keeping term"? I've read somewhere on Queens' website that in the first term you can spend only 10 nights away from college. Is that true? Are they checking it anyhow? Is the same rule for all terms and all years? It would be terrible, I guess!
They don't check it, but you're expected to sign a form saying you've kept term by not doing anything silly. It's pretty unpoliceable, they just rely on people being honest about it. You won't reallyhave the time to go home every weekend or anything, so that doesn't matter, and as long as you're sleeping within 3 miles of Great St. Mary's church you've kept term- so a boyfriend's bed at a different college still coutns as keeping term!

Basically, it's not something that yo'll need to worry about. Most people come up and go down a bit early and late, so you've got extradays in hand.
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Thanks for your answer. I was just wondering if I would be able to visit Poland (rather: my boyfriend ), say, once in a month. Or go for a party to another college...
And what about visitors? Are they really so strict about the rule that a visitor can stay only for three nights?
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Thanks for your answer. I was just wondering if I would be able to visit Poland (rather: my boyfriend ), say, once in a month. Or go for a party to another college...
And what about visitors? Are they really so strict about the rule that a visitor can stay only for three nights?
the question is... can you actually make it back in time lectures? Can you make it so that you don't hand in your supervision work late?
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Well... I don't know how many lectures I will have. I applied for Chinese.
I thought of flying on Friday evening and coming back Sunday night. Do you think it could be possible? Or will I be so overloaded with work that I'll have to spend every night in the library?
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Well... I don't know how many lectures I will have. I applied for Chinese.
I thought of flying on Friday evening and coming back Sunday night. Do you think it could be possible? Or will I be so overloaded with work that I'll have to spend every night in the library?
I go home every 4 weeks while I was there. Then I realised that Cambridge was much better than Leicester and decided I don't really want to go home, not even it was once every 4 weeks.

But that's a different story.

So you applied for Chinese... I don't know how many lectures you have, or how much supervision work you need to do. You'll find out after you get here.
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The "keeping term" business: You officially need to spend the equivalent of what they call "full term" sleeping within three miles of Great St. Mary's Church. Since our accommodation at Queens' runs for a week before and a week after Full Term you'd have to spend about two weeks of the term outside of Cambridge to not keep it. And even then, college would have to both know and care that this was taking place. It's not something you need to worry about.

I'm sure you'd be able to get away with the occasional weekend away, so long as you were disciplined during the week.
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Is Girton within the 3 miles? I was told it's so far away that most students don't even consider it as an official college, hah.
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Is Girton within the 3 miles? I was told it's so far away that most students don't even consider it as an official college, hah.
Yes, it's on the edge of the 3 mile radius. Keeps all the innocent Victorian girls safe from those nasty men, innit?
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I heard that Cambridge define the MIT campus and surroundings in Boston in America to be within 3 miles of the church, so anything is possible it seems!
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