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Scared of man i am working with
I am working with a man quite closely at the moment and i am rather scared of him whilst i am driving around in the van with him.
I have considerable evidence to see that he is in love with another man that is working within the company to which i am now employed.
Whilst i am on site with him i see him looking at me, rather... worryingly. I myself am straight and fear him trying it on with me.
This is scary. He is alot older than me also, 20 odd years older. :
This man, who will remain named in code... Mr O G, is very nice but i am not interested, what should i do!?
I don't know what to do guys, if he does like me, then i don't think i have the heart to tell him that it isn't going to happen.
HELP ME!!!!
I have considerable evidence to see that he is in love with another man that is working within the company to which i am now employed.
Whilst i am on site with him i see him looking at me, rather... worryingly. I myself am straight and fear him trying it on with me.
This is scary. He is alot older than me also, 20 odd years older. :
This man, who will remain named in code... Mr O G, is very nice but i am not interested, what should i do!?
I don't know what to do guys, if he does like me, then i don't think i have the heart to tell him that it isn't going to happen.
HELP ME!!!!
Reply 1
Has he actually hinted that he's interested in a romantic relationship?
Reply 3
This thread is the reason I love H+R.
You work in a van sunshine; complaining about dirty looks and inappropriate behaviour is rather ironic.
You work in a van sunshine; complaining about dirty looks and inappropriate behaviour is rather ironic.
Reply 4
Where is the scary part? I don't see anything remotely scary about someone you're not interested in liking you. I bet the only reason you think he's looking at you strangely is because you've convinced yourself he must be gay and therefore must fancy all men in the world.
If and when he tries something on, you can tell him it's not going to happen (it's not as if it's difficult to say you're not interested), but until then, I don't see where the problem is.
If and when he tries something on, you can tell him it's not going to happen (it's not as if it's difficult to say you're not interested), but until then, I don't see where the problem is.
If the OP was a girl, you wouldn't find the idea of 'her' being enclosed in a van with a man she suspects fancies her all day quite so funny. Honestly. 
OP - if you're that bothered, could you work with someone else? Have a word with somebody who works above you and ask if you can switch work partners or something. Other than that, don't go confronting them about their supposed feelings, but if they try it on with you you need to make it perfectly clear that you're not interested. I wouldn't worry about it though, unless he seems like the violent / possessive type.
OP - if you're that bothered, could you work with someone else? Have a word with somebody who works above you and ask if you can switch work partners or something. Other than that, don't go confronting them about their supposed feelings, but if they try it on with you you need to make it perfectly clear that you're not interested. I wouldn't worry about it though, unless he seems like the violent / possessive type.Reply 6
you could try growing up
I can see why that would be worrying. If I was in your situation I might not feel that comfortable working with the guy either. Thelfo's advice is good. Plus, if you want to make sure he knows your straight you could always tell him about some girl you fancy? Well, maybe... I don't know what kind of things you talk about, but you might be able to slip that in somehow and try to enforce that you're straight and therefore not at all interested. That way you aren't treading wrong if he doesn't fancy you afterall.
you people are a bit insensitive sometimes
if i was working with a lesbian 20 years older than me who gave me 'worrying' looks in our van, i'd be a bit scared too tbh.
op, is he creepy? if he's a nice guy and you genuinely get on, i don't think you telling him you're not interested (if he actually tells you he is) is going to come that much of a shock to him. you do have to look out for yourself you know
if i was working with a lesbian 20 years older than me who gave me 'worrying' looks in our van, i'd be a bit scared too tbh.
op, is he creepy? if he's a nice guy and you genuinely get on, i don't think you telling him you're not interested (if he actually tells you he is) is going to come that much of a shock to him. you do have to look out for yourself you know
Reply 9
kwong
OP
Oh **** guys.
He came out to me today
**** **** ****
this isn't good.
he looked me square in the eye and put his hand on my leg.
He told me "My last boyfriend didn't think he was gay either, but boy was he wrong."
i didn't know what to say so i just looked away.
I don't want to get on his bad side,
he's a big guy and has a reputation for getting a bit rough.
It's **** scary guys, i think i might quit my job, oh my god, it's like he's some sort of disturbed dog looking at a juicy bone.
Help guys, i even think he's thinking about me sexually, i think i saw him looking in, THAT area quite... worryingly.
**** guys, please help!
He came out to me today
**** **** ****
this isn't good.
he looked me square in the eye and put his hand on my leg.
He told me "My last boyfriend didn't think he was gay either, but boy was he wrong."
i didn't know what to say so i just looked away.
I don't want to get on his bad side,
he's a big guy and has a reputation for getting a bit rough.
It's **** scary guys, i think i might quit my job, oh my god, it's like he's some sort of disturbed dog looking at a juicy bone.
Help guys, i even think he's thinking about me sexually, i think i saw him looking in, THAT area quite... worryingly.
**** guys, please help!
Reply 10
Arrrrrgh. The gays are coming to get us! Obv.
Why didn't you just tell him that you weren't interested? Hell, is there no such thing as telling your boss you're being harrassed?
Why didn't you just tell him that you weren't interested? Hell, is there no such thing as telling your boss you're being harrassed?
Reply 11
Tell him you're 100% sure you're straight and you'd prefer it if he didn't come onto you again. Its not hard. Or go with the classic lie of "I already have a girlfriend".
Reply 12
The trolls don't even try any more Reply 13
Pmsl, I was convinced this would be a girl's thread.
Grow up and see that just because he might be gay doesn't mean you can't bend over to pick anything up while he's around, and then grow some balls and if he tries anything just say you're not interested.
Grow up and see that just because he might be gay doesn't mean you can't bend over to pick anything up while he's around, and then grow some balls and if he tries anything just say you're not interested.
Reply 15
kwong
Oh **** guys.
He came out to me today
**** **** ****
this isn't good.
he looked me square in the eye and put his hand on my leg.
He told me "My last boyfriend didn't think he was gay either, but boy was he wrong."
i didn't know what to say so i just looked away.
I don't want to get on his bad side,
he's a big guy and has a reputation for getting a bit rough.
It's **** scary guys, i think i might quit my job, oh my god, it's like he's some sort of disturbed dog looking at a juicy bone.
Help guys, i even think he's thinking about me sexually, i think i saw him looking in, THAT area quite... worryingly.
**** guys, please help!
He came out to me today
**** **** ****
this isn't good.
he looked me square in the eye and put his hand on my leg.
He told me "My last boyfriend didn't think he was gay either, but boy was he wrong."
i didn't know what to say so i just looked away.
I don't want to get on his bad side,
he's a big guy and has a reputation for getting a bit rough.
It's **** scary guys, i think i might quit my job, oh my god, it's like he's some sort of disturbed dog looking at a juicy bone.
Help guys, i even think he's thinking about me sexually, i think i saw him looking in, THAT area quite... worryingly.
**** guys, please help!
Ok, the first post was almost plausible, but I'm calling troll on this now.
Reply 16
rofl, he's gonna force-fellate you. Careful, son.
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