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    Before I go on, I'll just clarify that I'm not at all scared of it, I'm simply curious.

    I am not attracted to breasts. I think vaginas are disgusting. I would so much rather have sex with a guy than with a girl, because I much prefer the feel of muscles.

    When I watch porn, it's of girls blowing guys. Gay porn does nothing for me, but neither does lesbian.

    When I think of a partner, I think of a girl. But I think that's mostly to do with the fact that my family is very homophobic, and that I'd love to have children. I had a date with a girl yesterday, but I was more attracted to her asian guy friend who asked me to buy cider for him. I even asked him if he was into dudes. But he wasn't. I had sex with the girl after at her house (lost my virginity), but it felt so disgusting and wrong, i even faked the orgasm. and afterwards I sat in my room for hours crying and feeling so dirty and... used, I guess.

    You know it's weird to think about this. I don't know why but I'm now crying.

    The thing that confuses me the most? When I see a beautiful girl, I feel attraction. But the urges I get aren't sexual, it's more of a love for a baby sister, you know? I want to go over and hug her and tell her she's beautiful.

    When I see a good looking guy I get no sexual urges either. I just want to touch his chest and arms.

    I don't think I'd mind being gay, but I think I'd feel guilty if I was. I wouldn't be able to date a guy, because I'd be so scared of going out in public with him.

    This is so confusing and depressing, I don't know what to think about it. It's like my entire world is changing.
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    How in hell do you expect us to figure out if you're gay or not ?!
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    How old are you, for reference?

    The thing is, you might be gay, you might be straight, you might be anywhere in between and not find out about it for another couple of years. It's good that you can accept to yourself that you might be gay, but I don't think there's any immediate need to label yourself while you're clearly not sure, is there? You know yourself better than anyone else on here, and I think you're genuinely just about open-minded enough to know that if you were definitely gay, you'd admit it to yourself. Hypothetically, though: do you think you could accept it if you somehow knew for certain that you were gay?

    Some people just don't like porn. I'm gay, but I find most porn disgusting anyway, and the rest does nothing for me. We're a rare breed, but we exist.

    Most important thing is not to worry about whatever feelings you have and to make yourself happy. If being gay is how that's gonna happen, then that's not your choice - you have a choice as to whether you act on those gay feelings or not, but you can't change the feelings themselves. You shouldn't have slept with this girl if you didn't want to, no one was forcing you to.

    Hmm. This is a bit of a fragmented reply. If you can answer my questions above I might be able to give a better answer. Alternatively, feel free to PM me in confidence.
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    Well, you're obviously a little bit confused. If there's no sexual attraction toward either sex, then perhaps you just aren't interested in sex at this time? It sounds to me that when you "see a beautiful girl", you're simply recognising the fact that she is good-looking. That's what happens with me anyway.

    Seeing that you would prefer to touch a guy, albeit not sexually, definitely hints at some sort of gay intent.

    I'd just see how you feel later with this girl, if you still feel repulsed, etc, then perhaps you should experiment with a guy and see how you feel about that?
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    sounds a bit asexual
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    (Original post by Mernard)
    Well, you're obviously a little bit confused. If there's no sexual attraction toward either sex, then perhaps you just aren't interested in sex at this time? It sounds to me that when you "see a beautiful girl", you're simply recognising the fact that she is good-looking. That's what happens with me anyway.

    Seeing that you would prefer to touch a guy, albeit not sexually, definitely hints at some sort of gay intent.

    I'd just see how you feel later with this girl, if you still feel repulsed, etc, then perhaps you should experiment with a guy and see how you feel about that?
    Oof. There's a slight problem here. Just because he finds porn disgusting and was repulsed when he slept with this girl and finds beautiful women admirable but not sexually appealing, that doesn't necessarily mean he isn't attracted to women; it simply means he isn't attracted to porn stars or stereotypically beautiful ones or the girl he had sex with. Equally, he might experiment with a guy and find himself repulsed simply because of the individual guy, or because the OP himself isn't sexually mature enough yet.

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    sounds a bit asexual
    No, it doesn't at all.
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    (Original post by internet dating superstud)

    When I watch porn, it's of girls blowing guys. Gay porn does nothing for me, but neither does lesbian.
    maybe find a sex therapist to help work this one out, but it does sound like you are gay.
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    (Original post by psycho-bunny)
    maybe find a sex therapist to help work this one out, but it does sound like you are gay.
    What?

    Why do so many people on here give crap advice? Some people just don't like porn. Jesus.
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    (Original post by generalebriety)
    No, it doesn't at all.
    well, it does a bit. he appreciates the beauty of each sex but doesn't get any sexual urges?
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    (Original post by generalebriety)
    What?

    Why do so many people on here give crap advice? Some people just don't like porn. Jesus.
    how can you use our lords name in such a negative manner :mad:

    my advice was not crap, a sex therapist might help :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by internet dating superstud)
    When I think of a partner, I think of a girl. But I think that's mostly to do with the fact that my family is very homophobic, and that I'd love to have children. I had a date with a girl yesterday, but I was more attracted to her asian guy friend who asked me to buy cider for him. I even asked him if he was into dudes. But he wasn't. I had sex with the girl after at her house (lost my virginity), but it felt so disgusting and wrong, i even faked the orgasm. and afterwards I sat in my room for hours crying and feeling so dirty and... used, I guess.

    You know it's weird to think about this. I don't know why but I'm now crying.
    Thats such a girl thing to do. Must be gay.
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    (Original post by supernova2)
    Thats such a girl thing to do. Must be gay.
    Since when were men incapable of strong emotion?
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    www.therapistfinder.com

    If you're looking for a therapist... or maybe a rapist.



    man what a great link.
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    (Original post by ph9)
    well, it does a bit. he appreciates the beauty of each sex but doesn't get any sexual urges?
    He said he'd rather have sex with a guy than a girl, which doesn't sound asexual to me. I don't remember him saying he didn't get any sexual urges. Just not from porn.

    (Original post by psycho-bunny)
    my advice was not crap, a sex therapist might help
    It might help if there was a problem. But there isn't. Not liking porn is perfectly normal, even if it's not "the norm".
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    (Original post by bunthulhu)
    Since when were men incapable of strong emotion?
    We're all the same primitive creature, didn't you know? :p:
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    (Original post by generalebriety)
    He said he'd rather have sex with a guy than a girl, which doesn't sound asexual to me. I don't remember him saying he didn't get any sexual urges. Just not from porn.
    fair enough he did say that at the beginning but he also said:

    The thing that confuses me the most? When I see a beautiful girl, I feel attraction. But the urges I get aren't sexual, it's more of a love for a baby sister, you know? I want to go over and hug her and tell her she's beautiful.

    When I see a good looking guy I get no sexual urges either. I just want to touch his chest and arms.


    c'mon op, make your mind up. sex or no sex
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    Well, he's already had sex with a girl, I say he grabs a guy and dives in. Who knows, eh?

    Probably not good advice, but that's what I'd go for.
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    (Original post by ph9)
    fair enough he did say that at the beginning but he also said:

    The thing that confuses me the most? When I see a beautiful girl, I feel attraction. But the urges I get aren't sexual, it's more of a love for a baby sister, you know? I want to go over and hug her and tell her she's beautiful.

    When I see a good looking guy I get no sexual urges either. I just want to touch his chest and arms.


    c'mon op, make your mind up. sex or no sex
    Hmm. Looks like we're gonna have to wait for confirmation on that one.
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    why do you have to be straight or gay, there's no box we have to fit into embrace your sexuality and have a good long think.

    I'm thinking Bi but leaning more towards males than females, but thats just from an outsiders view
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    (Original post by generalebriety)
    Hmm. Looks like we're gonna have to wait for confirmation on that one.
    then again, he's from 'sexeter'

    he's tricking us
 
 
 
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