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    sorry to barge in, since I'm not exactly UK student ( erasmus student, who came to UK - I hope I still count ). Anyway, one of the biggest reason for coming here ( besides liking the country and language ) is that I wanted to change myself. I'm not so shy person, but I'm not really good with big group of people. The problem is that all the events of the university is designed to be like group events. Like today I had the cake&tea party and we were sitting in like 8 students tables and I got really overwhelmed. At the end I was afraid of just getting panic attack there, because I got so stressed. ( its not like I dont like crowds, but sitting and being ignored, because i'm not the loud and really out-going person is kind of depressing. Everyone is having fun, but not you. ) Later I even got suicide thoughts, but its okay now, since I talked some to my housemates. Now I wonder if I should just skip all events, but I heard that they're essential to be international student, although I dont want to feel like that anymore. I had 'friend' from my country, but she ignored me there, because she made new friends, so maybe that was the other reason I felt really down. I checked the university page, but mostly their advice is that if I dont feel good I just should talk to them or wellbeing staff, but its both embarassing and impossible to me.
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    Hello,
    sorry to barge in, since I'm not exactly UK student ( erasmus student, who came to UK - I hope I still count ). Anyway, one of the biggest reason for coming here ( besides liking the country and language ) is that I wanted to change myself. I'm not so shy person, but I'm not really good with big group of people. The problem is that all the events of the university is designed to be like group events. Like today I had the cake&tea party and we were sitting in like 8 students tables and I got really overwhelmed. At the end I was afraid of just getting panic attack there, because I got so stressed. ( its not like I dont like crowds, but sitting and being ignored, because i'm not the loud and really out-going person is kind of depressing. Everyone is having fun, but not you. ) Later I even got suicide thoughts, but its okay now, since I talked some to my housemates. Now I wonder if I should just skip all events, but I heard that they're essentials to be international student, although I dont want to feel like that anymore. I had 'friend' from my country, but she ignored me there, because she made new friends, so maybe that was the other reason I felt really down. I checked the university page, but mostly their advice is that if I dont feel good I just should talk to them or wellbeing staff, but its both embarassing and impossible to me.
    You're not barging in at all! Welcome! There's plenty of people that don't actually go to the events, so don't feel bad if that's what you decide to do. Maybe you could hang out with your housemates and catch up when they're around. Making friends with them would be a great place to start. Are you sure it's impossible to talk to the wellbeing staff? They might be able to help you a lot. It could be worth seeing your local GP about how you're feeling as they would be able to help you. Remember that there are plenty of services that you can access if you need to. Depending on your age, there's Childline (childline.org.uk, 0800 1111). There's also the Samaritans (samaritans.org, 116 123) to talk to if you need help.

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    Hello,

    It might be easier to meet some people if you focus on doing things that you enjoy rather than going to erasmus groups. Doing sports is a good way to meet people and can improve your mood too or if you're not into sports you could join some societies. It can be quite difficult to go to things if you're having negative thoughts but sometimes its best to go out and do something interesting even if you don't meet people. Getting to know one person at a time can be easier. Other people might not understand how you feel or that you find big crowds difficult but if you try to be open, friendly and supportive of others often people will be friendly back.
 
 
 
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