Family Problems

My mum has just run away from home, and I have texted her and she says she is safe but will not be coming home tonight. My dad is not doing anything about it, and it is my sister who has caused the whole situation. For the past two years my sister has been suffering from an eating disorder, and my parents have been unwilling to get professional help until yesterday. However, this has caused many problems for my family. We always argue, and the dinner table is not a place of laughter anymore. My sister is unwilling to change. The worst part of it is that I feel really depressed at the end of the day and sometimes think of suicide. I am not an attention seeker, and to be honest I am happy without the attention, and would much rather have my sister cured and my parents happy, than get the attention, but I still feel like I am lacking something, and gets me really depressed. What should I do?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

i say dont worry too much about it.
my sister also has an eating disorder and there have been too many arguments to count. my mum and my dad have both spent nights away from home and for the next couple of days there has been a tense atmosphere but it always blows over and everything gets sorted out.

PM me if you want some advice or anything :smile:

dont worry, it will sort itself out.

Reply 2

bunthulhu

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Anonymous

i say dont worry too much about it.
my sister also has an eating disorder and there have been too many arguments to count. my mum and my dad have both spent nights away from home and for the next couple of days there has been a tense atmosphere but it always blows over and everything gets sorted out.

PM me if you want some advice or anything :smile:

dont worry, it will sort itself out.

The OP can't PM you if you're anonymous.

OP, I'm not sure what to say as I've never been in a similar situation, but it sounds horrible :frown:

Is there perhaps a counsellor at school or something you could speak to, to get things off your chest? Especially if you're having suicidal thoughts, please get help!

Reply 3

WeasleyNumber10

oh ok...now you can PM me :smile:

Reply 4

AverageGuyOnTheStreet

9

I understand how bad your problems must be as I can partly relate. It is good that your sister has decided to get professional help and your parents should be supporting her. They should also be supporting you.

I think it's quite normal if you are depressed to not want people giving you loads of attention. I hate it when people start worrying about me, though I have always been a private person. Though the right thing to do is talk to someone before it all gets out of control. I really don't want you ending up like me. I didn't even ask for help until some time after my symptoms had first appeared, mainly because I thought I could get better without help and also didn't feel worthy to get the help I needed. You're more than free to PM me if you ever need to rant.

Reply 5

xxSAMMIxx

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I dont think there is anything you can do..other than to try and be there for them....I can understahow this must be rather hard for you...and I have been through a similar situation myself.
I know you must be feeling rather down at the moment, but please try and get suicide out of your mind...Its not the way to go, and its so final. You dont need that, no one does.
Could you try and have a chat with your sister?
PM if you need any advice, I know its hard..but keep going.
xxsammixx

Reply 6

love_mojitos

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Hi, your mother has not run away from home, she just wants to spend a bit of time on her own as things are very stressful at the moment. Sometimes parents and children need a break from each other for rest, recovery and think about the situation.
What has made your parents get help for your sister as you said they buried there head in the sand?

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Firstly, thank you guys for all your support, it really makes me feel much better knowing that there's someone to talk to. Anyway my mum came back in an hour, and then we all went out for dinner and a movie. That was good, but I couldn't help but feel that it was all fake. We didn't talk about the problem we just pretended it didn't exist, and then I got even more depressed. Yesterday, things were 'normal' and then at night my parents got really angry and started shouting, but today when I woke up everything was 'normal' again. It's like all of us are having mood swings simultaneously, and nobody wants to talk.

What has made your parents get help for your sister as you said they buried there head in the sand?

My sister has just come back from a 10 day tour of Eastern Europe, and although my dad had threatened not to send her because her eating disorder, eventually he gave in. But, when she came back she had lost weight, because she found it difficult to eat anything there. So, my parents decided that they had to get help.