just a quick question as im not really sure what options are available to her, but my girlfriends seems to have a stalker from her place of work. Not a stalker in the traditional sense that he follows her around (wel not obviously follows her anyway..) It is not like he has approached her out of work either, yet, yet seems to no everythin about her. He has it in his diary what days she is working and tries to work the same days, and he knew that we (my gf and i) were going away for a week, and he asked her at work if we stil went cos he knew my home town was flooded, and he knows she is going on holiday with her friend this week, he also seems to know what both her parents cars are, colours and everythin.
I no my gf has tried to talk to ppl at work, but the bosses approch is that she just goes home early, which doesnt seem right to me. Because he has not yet approached her or similar, i assume a restraining order is out of the question, and police involvement, it is just because no one else is doin anythin for her.
I no some of u may say just dont get involved in her life, but it seems to be affecting her quite a lot and just wondered if there is anythin that could be done...
Have a word? Assuming your girlfriend is as worried as you of course, otherwise she might see it as interfering.
I think she could possibly get the police to "chat" to him. He's not done anything so they couldn't take any action, but I have a feeling they can go round and warn him off so to speak.
I don't think he sounds like a stalker. People use that word far too much these days. Maybe he just looked at her Facebook and found out this stuff, or happened to see her in a car with her parents? It's not like he knows what colour knickers she's wearing. It's a little unusual, but he sounds like he just has a bit of a crush on her.
Either talk to him and explain that he's making your gf uncomfortable at work (is he??), or get her to let him down gently. Do NOT get the police involved! How old is the man, OP?
He likes like one of those archetypal gay friends who has to know what they're doing.
If not... just chill out. So he's a bit intense and informed... who cares?
I guess every time he presents her with a fact he knows about her, she could ask him how he found it out. If he's honest about it, say, by telling her he found her Facebook/MySpace, then she can make it private and so problem solved. If he's found out some other unsavoury way, it'll make him feel uncomfortable and he may well back off.
The guy in question is 9 years older than my gf (he is 26 or a bit older, she is 17) and i no that is affecting her and making her feel uncomfortable at work.. i got a few texts yesterday sayin "why me??", hwy is it happening to me, i h8 it!?" and she says she has spoken to him about how uncomfortable she feels but he doesnt listen and carries on..
i just worry about my gf mainly cos i dont want her to feel uncomfotable or anythin - am i lookin into it too much..?
fair enough, wel i hope whta happened with your friend doesnt apply in this case but we will have to see.. she doesnt seem tolike him ans always moans that he does wierd dances behind her, and when she asks him how he knows so much bout her an how he found out he just laughs..
she has tried talkin to personnel about it but they decide its best to send her home early.. i dunno, just wanna help...
Beat the crap out of him, that'd probably do the trick
You just can't win can you
Stalking is not even that bad and when a man stalks a women its dead right because men have more power. I am only 17 and have be warned off the police for stalking and I was like yeh mate like I will listen to you in the future!
and anyone who ever contacts the police in anyway shape or form for help are basically scum. The police are the biggest bunch of scum around