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    Anon for obvious reasons...So, I turned 16 in August but my Facebook says I'm 19 so I still use Tinder... anyway, I met this guy who told me he was 21 and we ended up talking for weeks, but I feel like I've made a really stupid mistake.Yesterday, we agreed to meet (I stupidly went alone) and I was extremely nervous, but he showed up and he was the real deal. We got talking and... (I'm really not proud of this, hence why I'm on anon) by the end of the night we had sex in his car before he drove me back to my house. I don't know what to do now - he messaged me today saying last night was amazing and he would love to see me again soon. I'm very conflicted because I had a lot of fun (we used protection and I wasn't a virgin, if that makes a difference) and if I'm being perfectly honest I would probably happily continue meeting up with this guy. However, he still thinks I'm 19 and I feel like I should tell him my real age - but I'm scared if I do, it will ruin my chances with him. Any advice?
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    Month earlier and it would have been classed as statutory rape , funny that. Well you need to tell him before he finds out.
    Prolly will be the end.
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    You should tell him. I don't think it'll exactly ruin your chances, you're the legal age of consent, and plus honesty is best.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon for obvious reasons...So, I turned 16 in August but my Facebook says I'm 19 so I still use Tinder... anyway, I met this guy who told me he was 21 and we ended up talking for weeks, but I feel like I've made a really stupid mistake.Yesterday, we agreed to meet (I stupidly went alone) and I was extremely nervous, but he showed up and he was the real deal. We got talking and... (I'm really not proud of this, hence why I'm on anon) by the end of the night we had sex in his car before he drove me back to my house. I don't know what to do now - he messaged me today saying last night was amazing and he would love to see me again soon. I'm very conflicted because I had a lot of fun (we used protection and I wasn't a virgin, if that makes a difference) and if I'm being perfectly honest I would probably happily continue meeting up with this guy. However, he still thinks I'm 19 and I feel like I should tell him my real age - but I'm scared if I do, it will ruin my chances with him. Any advice?
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    Well, you're at the age of consent, I don't think it would matter... but it could go either way.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Anon for obvious reasons...So, I turned 16 in August but my Facebook says I'm 19 so I still use Tinder... anyway, I met this guy who told me he was 21 and we ended up talking for weeks, but I feel like I've made a really stupid mistake.Yesterday, we agreed to meet (I stupidly went alone) and I was extremely nervous, but he showed up and he was the real deal. We got talking and... (I'm really not proud of this, hence why I'm on anon) by the end of the night we had sex in his car before he drove me back to my house. I don't know what to do now - he messaged me today saying last night was amazing and he would love to see me again soon. I'm very conflicted because I had a lot of fun (we used protection and I wasn't a virgin, if that makes a difference) and if I'm being perfectly honest I would probably happily continue meeting up with this guy. However, he still thinks I'm 19 and I feel like I should tell him my real age - but I'm scared if I do, it will ruin my chances with him. Any advice?
    You're both so lucky. I'm sat here, at 16, thinking I'm cool ******* to Kim Kardashian.
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    You absolutely need to tell him. Just be honest send a message. It's about trust!

    The sex was consensual and you are legal. If you want to keep seeing this guy be honest. Whatever the outcome it's better to to not let this lie carry on anymore.
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    I'm 21 and would be so grossed out about that. I feel a bit weird going for 18 year olds now lol.
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    This is why under 18s shouldn't use Tinder. :erm:

    Just be straight up and tell him. Imagine over time you both go deeper with your feelings, then it would be quite hurtful to tell him after so long.

    Also time to change your Facebook age to your real one and stop using Tinder.
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    Also if the guy is angry hurt or any emotion he is definitely allowed to feel that because you lied to him. I know you are legal but he will see differently. You will be younger than him and he might not like that...

    Also you put him in a difficult situation without his knowing. I'm taking hardline here but imagine if rumours swirled around if you were seen.. about rape and it would ruin his reputation.. police court etc
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    Depends if the sex was good. :ahee:
 
 
 
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