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    I'm seeing this girl for a few weeks now. I really like her and she probably likes me too. The problem is that I don't want to scare her away with my body. I lost a huge amount of weight a few years ago and I have loose skin on my chest, stomach and upper thighs. She knows I lost weight of course, she's on my gym but I don't think she realises how messed up my skin is underneath. The visible parts - my arms, my calves, my shoulders look good (I've been exercising for 3 years now) and it gives a very misleading image of what I must look like underneath (you expect ripped and if the skin wasn't there, my abs would definitely show).

    I think she is pushing me to get more intimate in a subtle way. She plans movie nights and invites me for dinner over at her house almost every other day. I haven't tried to touch her 'cos it will definitely lead to more and I don't want her to be repulsed by what she sees.

    How or when should I tell her? I want her so bad but I also wouldn't want to scare her away.
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    Just be honest tbh when I went through a stage of putting on loads of weight I was worried about the stretch marks from my sudden weight gain and no one even batted an eyelid and they went when I lost weight
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    Just be honest tbh when I went through a stage of putting on loads of weight I was worried about the stretch marks from my sudden weight gain and no one even batted an eyelid and they went when I lost weight
    I want to be honest but when? should I like tell her at a random time or when we get intimate? and what do I say? "Hey, you know I used to weigh as much as a wild ox? I still have some of that oxen skin on me"

    I don't know how or when should I bring it up.
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    I think I would wait until a moment you're alone and can talk, perhaps a movie night, and maybe just stop and explain that you're worried about what she'll think of your body. Just be honest that because you lost so much weight your skin is quite loose and that you're worried it'll put her off.

    I'm sure that if she likes you she won't care honesty is always the best policy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't know how or when should I bring it up.
    Well you either bring it up awkwardly and she apprecitates you honesty or you'll

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    scare her away
    by not telling her sooner...
 
 
 
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