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    It was my first day at Uni yesterday and I was quite surprised at how confident everyone was to meet new people. I'm way too shy to go into a crowd of people and introduce myself. I really do want to make friends but I don't know how to come out of my shell. The lack of diversity is also a huge change. Please suggest tips to get rid of all this anxiety and tips on how to build confidence? I would really appreciate that. Thank you so much for your help.
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    HI! I'm in the same boat as you. I moved in today (I'm over at Waverley) and just feel really anxious about trying to meet new people. Although I'm struggling too, I'd aim to find other people like you, as lots of people are also shy and introverted, and are possibly struggling to do the same as you. Maybe start by trying to go up to someone who's on their own and looks a little shy too, and maybe that would help, rather than going up to a large group on your first attempt.

    Anyway, I wish you all the best! If you need anymore help from a fellow shy person, or a friend, feel free to inbox message me.
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    Societies, Societies, Societies.You don't choose who you live with, but you do decide which societies you join. Take advantage of the freshers fair on the downs on Friday. Being a member of a society (and eventual president of said society) gave me the reason to stick at University when everything else seemed so doom and gloom. That being said, do make an effort to interact with the people you live with as it's sooooooo much easier to get along with people in your residence than elsewhere.
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    (Original post by veganing)
    It was my first day at Uni yesterday and I was quite surprised at how confident everyone was to meet new people. I'm way too shy to go into a crowd of people and introduce myself. I really do want to make friends but I don't know how to come out of my shell. The lack of diversity is also a huge change. Please suggest tips to get rid of all this anxiety and tips on how to build confidence? I would really appreciate that. Thank you so much for your help.
    I'm having the same issue, everyone is talking about getting drunk and clubbing and i really dont want to. So i sit in my room feeling sad and lonely, or talking to people when they are in the kitchen, however soon the talk goes to clubbing so i feel left out and go back to my room. I am at Hiatt Baker self catered
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    Don't worry about it too much. A lot of people including myself don't find people they really click with till much later in the term. I'd definitely recommend societies, I went to Anime/Sci Fi and found a girl on my course there and from there made really good friends with her and her friends through shared interests.
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    Most people during freshers are faking the confidence thing, so don't be put off by it or wonder why everyone around you is so confident. The only thing I can say about socialising is treat it like ripping off a plaster.

    Don't put any thought into it, go up to someone and just start talking to them literally about anything.
    You'll make yourself more anxious if you over think it and ponder over the what if scenarios.
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    (Original post by Nick Wills)
    I'm having the same issue, everyone is talking about getting drunk and clubbing and i really dont want to. So i sit in my room feeling sad and lonely, or talking to people when they are in the kitchen, however soon the talk goes to clubbing so i feel left out and go back to my room. I am at Hiatt Baker self catered
    I'm in Hiatt Baker too (though catered), and am in much the same situation. Pretty much everyone on my floor goes out clubbing every night. Of course, this won't be the case when term starts, but it's still disappointing. So far, my best solution is to join a society. I went along to COGS' (Computer Games Society) taster and had a blast with some people who are definitely more my crowd.
 
 
 
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