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Bullied (sort of) for being a gypsy!

Ok, yeah im a gypsy but not the normal sort. I dont go out steeling or coning people. I was a prefect at school. Top in most of my classes, i want to be a maths teacher. I want to do good not bad like some people in my family.

The problem is i kept my family secret all of my life and some of my cousons have now blown it. They are all going around saying stuff like "im a gypsy who wants to fight " and stuff like that. Now, because they know that they are my cousons people now know my family history and i get things like "pikey" and Gypo" and "go back to your caravan" and "oi, did you nik my bike".

Ive kind of had enough though. Good thing is that people only found out towards my last days of school and im starting college in september but some people in college wil know and i dont want this to happen again.

I cant tell my parents or cousons or any family member because they will probably beat the **** out of them which would be worse.

My best friends knew but didnt say anything.

Also, im not like normal gypsies. I speak properly, i have a good education, i have been bought up with the best of everything and i live in a nice big house (no caravan... i dont even own one)

I have loads of friends who have stuck by me but they arnt going to the same college.

What do you think i should do. Do you think it will go away? Most of these people dont even know me and some of the people who did know me like people in my maths class or english class are now scared of me because of who my family are.

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"Ok, yeah im a gypsy but not the normal sort. I dont go out steeling or coning people."

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Reply 2
its i come from a gypsy family. but i dont fit in.
i get what your saying here but isn't being a gypsy more of a lifestyle and culturel thing.
by definition are you even a gypsy?


there is always a few ***** who will find something to pick on you about.

its like one of my asian mates once said after an incident" its not the fact that the that the racist bastard called me a paki that gets to me its the fact i'm *****in indian"

with the general generalizations about gypsies most poeple would stay clear of picking a fight with one where i come from.
Reply 4
Coning people?

I wouldn't worry about it. People get picked on for being short, for being weak, for being poor etc, but at least when you get picked on, people know you have a restless band of amateur gypsy fighters backing you up. Besides, incidences of bullying in college, compared to secondary schools, are far less common.
Reply 5
I wouldn't take any notice of anyone who makes judgements based on a generalisation like that.
Reply 6
These threads are sounding more fake by the day. "Ok, yeah im a gypsy but not the normal sort. I dont go out steeling or coning people."
i think guy ritchie's portrayal of gypsy's in snatch , was quite unresponsible.
Reply 8
Those idiots who bully you aren't worth the time of day. Try not to stress, try to maybe act confident about it. So if one of them approaches and calls your family 'gypsies', look at them and say, "so? Better that than being an [insert swear word] like you." These people are idiotic low-lifes and don't let them have the satisfaction of getting to you. Believe it or not, amongst the horrible juveniles out there, there are some genuinely nice people (like your best friends, who never said anything) out there so try to befriend them, and just show the bullies that you don't care.
Good luck. :smile:
Reply 9
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These threads are sounding more fake by the day. "Ok, yeah im a gypsy but not the normal sort. I dont go out steeling or coning people."


First of all this isnt fake. and isnt that how people generally see us? Lowest of the low and scum. Well im not like that and just because i have a back ground where my family follow that culture that people have now found out about.
Anonymous
First of all this isnt fake. and isnt that how people generally see us? Lowest of the low and scum. Well im not like that and just because i have a back ground where my family follow that culture that people have now found out about.

Tell 'em to **** off?

Gawd, allowing yourself to be defined by how your family acts is pretty low in itself. Confront these people. Ask them if they've ever seen you in a caravan, stealing stuff or conning people, or any of the silly bull**** stereotypes. Stand up to them.
Anonymous
Ok, yeah im a gypsy but not the normal sort. I dont go out steeling or coning people. I was a prefect at school. Top in most of my classes, i want to be a maths teacher. I want to do good not bad like some people in my family.

The problem is i kept my family secret all of my life and some of my cousons have now blown it. They are all going around saying stuff like "im a gypsy who wants to fight " and stuff like that. Now, because they know that they are my cousons people now know my family history and i get things like "pikey" and Gypo" and "go back to your caravan" and "oi, did you nik my bike".

Ive kind of had enough though. Good thing is that people only found out towards my last days of school and im starting college in september but some people in college wil know and i dont want this to happen again.

I cant tell my parents or cousons or any family member because they will probably beat the **** out of them which would be worse.

My best friends knew but didnt say anything.

Also, im not like normal gypsies. I speak properly, i have a good education, i have been bought up with the best of everything and i live in a nice big house (no caravan... i dont even own one)

I have loads of friends who have stuck by me but they arnt going to the same college.

What do you think i should do. Do you think it will go away? Most of these people dont even know me and some of the people who did know me like people in my maths class or english class are now scared of me because of who my family are.


I'm sorry, I thought they were to be known as the Travelling community than gypsies? They detest being called gypsies. We'll that's what I've encountered when I've met some of them :s-smilie:
Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX
I'm sorry, I thought they were to be known as the Travelling community than gypsies? They detest being called gypsies. We'll that's what I've encountered when I've met some of them :s-smilie:

"Go back to your caravan, travelling community member" never was a good insult, though.
generalebriety
"Go back to your caravan, travelling community member" never was a good insult, though.


I just don't see the authencity of the OP, I just can't. Fine they may be being bullied because of their family. But for her to call herself and her family gypsies, is she not doing the same to her family - since they do hate being called that and find it highly insulting? :s-smilie:
Reply 14
Or "tinker" :ninja:

OP, what characteristics make you a gypsy if you live in a house and go to school?

Think you should just ignore anyone calling you, and try and distance yourself from the "gypsy" label
Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX
I just don't see the authencity of the OP, I just can't. Fine they may be being bullied because of their family. But for her to call herself and her family gypsies, is she not doing the same to her family - since they do hate being called that and find it highly insulting? :s-smilie:

That's possibly true, but the OP seems to be making it quite clear that she (she?) wants nothing to do with her family's "gypsiness" and all its stereotypes. Meh, I dunno. If she doesn't identify as one of these people then I suppose it's no great insult to herself to call them gypsies, and she did say she didn't want her parents to find out about all this.
negated enigma
i get what your saying here but isn't being a gypsy more of a lifestyle and culturel thing.
by definition are you even a gypsy?



there is always a few ***** who will find something to pick on you about.

its like one of my asian mates once said after an incident" its not the fact that the that the racist bastard called me a paki that gets to me its the fact i'm *****in indian"

with the general generalizations about gypsies most poeple would stay clear of picking a fight with one where i come from.


No, Gypsies are a race of people. Romani Gypsies and other smaller groups of people.
Reply 17
dddd
These threads are sounding more fake by the day. "Ok, yeah im a gypsy but not the normal sort. I dont go out steeling or coning people."

Not really, gypsies have a big reputation for that sort of stuff.


My advice is to move away somewhere for university if you dont like the reputation and say nowt about "what" you are, its unfortunate that you have to go through that ****e.
Cromulent
No, Gypsies are a race of people. Romani Gypsies and other smaller groups of people.


i know what you mean but u get gypsy's all across europe, that are born in different countries ,exist in completely different cultures, speak different langueges and have different roles in society's.

in spain when i was there they woulg genereally mean like a morrocan or arab looking individuels incomparisent to a pale ginger heard person with an irish sounding accent.

also when i was in spain they were renownd for bringing in a knife culture , where as the gypsy's over here are known for bare knuckle boxing/ boxing.

its a bit confusing to me . a bit like how if you mums jewish u therefore are jewish.
Reply 19
He/she is probably referring to irish gypsies, there are plenty in ireland and england. Not roma.

Theres a gypsie camp 2 minutes away from me and we use to have problems with them stealing washing untill the older members of their community stepped in and told the younger ones to knock it on the head. no problems since. there is a lot of intolerance against them still.