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A nagging insecurity problem....
Sorry but long rant 
:
Well I have had this nagging problem actually. The thing is that I have been on medication for various seriuos illnesses from quite a young age of whichs side effects eventually took a toll on me. One of my breast is smaller than the other. I was even mamographed because my mum feared it would be some sort of abnormality but the doctor said that it was due to the medications and he said that a bit of sagging would occur as well and which eventually it did. The medication side effect also affected internally making me vulnerable to harsh weather and other small issues.
He suggested that I could try to "enhance them" later on but I really don't want to take that option as I have seen a realtive go through plastic surgery and it can be very very painful. Plus I tend to think it isn't so bad a situation, but my confidence dimmed quite a lot when I was with this guy and he looked at them and smirked a bit which made me feel horrible inside. I haven't been able to engage in sex after that and had to potentiallty turn down men I like because of this insecurity. That guy was supposed to the first guy I was supposed to have sex with and seeing that incident has potentially left me scarred.
I can't help it you know. I didn't plan on it turn out this way. It just happened. To top it off, there is this guy that I like who I have gone on a couple of dates with and it has the potential to start on something serious. He has been hinting on it for days now and I can't avoid it further and I honestly don't want to either. I know him from a year and he is a really sweet and understanding guy so far as I know, but this insecurity is creeping uo on me and stopping me from letting anything take place which isn't good. I have never spoken about this to a guy before, so I wanted to ask a couple of guys here that if you liked a girl who had a similar problem to mine, would you let it be something of a big issue ???? Please help !!!!!
:Well I have had this nagging problem actually. The thing is that I have been on medication for various seriuos illnesses from quite a young age of whichs side effects eventually took a toll on me. One of my breast is smaller than the other. I was even mamographed because my mum feared it would be some sort of abnormality but the doctor said that it was due to the medications and he said that a bit of sagging would occur as well and which eventually it did. The medication side effect also affected internally making me vulnerable to harsh weather and other small issues.
He suggested that I could try to "enhance them" later on but I really don't want to take that option as I have seen a realtive go through plastic surgery and it can be very very painful. Plus I tend to think it isn't so bad a situation, but my confidence dimmed quite a lot when I was with this guy and he looked at them and smirked a bit which made me feel horrible inside. I haven't been able to engage in sex after that and had to potentiallty turn down men I like because of this insecurity. That guy was supposed to the first guy I was supposed to have sex with and seeing that incident has potentially left me scarred.
I can't help it you know. I didn't plan on it turn out this way. It just happened
. To top it off, there is this guy that I like who I have gone on a couple of dates with and it has the potential to start on something serious. He has been hinting on it for days now and I can't avoid it further and I honestly don't want to either. I know him from a year and he is a really sweet and understanding guy so far as I know, but this insecurity is creeping uo on me and stopping me from letting anything take place which isn't good. I have never spoken about this to a guy before, so I wanted to ask a couple of guys here that if you liked a girl who had a similar problem to mine, would you let it be something of a big issue ???? Please help !!!!! Scroll to see replies
Reply 1
Anonymous
Sorry but long rant :
Well I have had this nagging problem actually. The thing is that I have been on medication for various seriuos illnesses from quite a young age of whichs side effects eventually took a toll on me. One of my breast is smaller than the other. I was even mamographed because my mum feared it would be some sort of abnormality but the doctor said that it was due to the medications and he said that a bit of sagging would occur as well and which eventually it did. The medication side effect also affected internally making me vulnerable to harsh weather and other small issues.
He suggested that I could try to "enhance them" later on but I really don't want to take that option as I have seen a realtive go through plastic surgery and it can be very very painful. Plus I tend to think it isn't so bad a situation, but my confidence dimmed quite a lot when I was with this guy and he looked at them and smirked a bit which made me feel horrible inside. I haven't been able to engage in sex after that and had to potentiallty turn down men I like because of this insecurity. That guy was supposed to the first guy I was supposed to have sex with and seeing that incident has potentially left me scarred.
I can't help it you know. I didn't plan on it turn out this way. It just happened. To top it off, there is this guy that I like who I have gone on a couple of dates with and it has the potential to start on something serious. He has been hinting on it for days now and I can't avoid it further and I honestly don't want to either. I know him from a year and he is a really sweet and understanding guy so far as I know, but this insecurity is creeping uo on me and stopping me from letting anything take place which isn't good. I have never spoken about this to a guy before, so I wanted to ask a couple of guys here that if you liked a girl who had a similar problem to mine, would you let it be something of a big issue ???? Please help !!!!!
:Well I have had this nagging problem actually. The thing is that I have been on medication for various seriuos illnesses from quite a young age of whichs side effects eventually took a toll on me. One of my breast is smaller than the other. I was even mamographed because my mum feared it would be some sort of abnormality but the doctor said that it was due to the medications and he said that a bit of sagging would occur as well and which eventually it did. The medication side effect also affected internally making me vulnerable to harsh weather and other small issues.
He suggested that I could try to "enhance them" later on but I really don't want to take that option as I have seen a realtive go through plastic surgery and it can be very very painful. Plus I tend to think it isn't so bad a situation, but my confidence dimmed quite a lot when I was with this guy and he looked at them and smirked a bit which made me feel horrible inside. I haven't been able to engage in sex after that and had to potentiallty turn down men I like because of this insecurity. That guy was supposed to the first guy I was supposed to have sex with and seeing that incident has potentially left me scarred.
I can't help it you know. I didn't plan on it turn out this way. It just happened
. To top it off, there is this guy that I like who I have gone on a couple of dates with and it has the potential to start on something serious. He has been hinting on it for days now and I can't avoid it further and I honestly don't want to either. I know him from a year and he is a really sweet and understanding guy so far as I know, but this insecurity is creeping uo on me and stopping me from letting anything take place which isn't good. I have never spoken about this to a guy before, so I wanted to ask a couple of guys here that if you liked a girl who had a similar problem to mine, would you let it be something of a big issue ???? Please help !!!!! The majority of womens breasts are different sizes, I, myself, my breasts one is larger than the other and can be noticed if viewed carefully and nothing is wrong with me. Sometimes they can be very noticeable and on other occasions only slightly. Can I ask OP if it's noticeable for you and/or others or indeed does no one take notice?
I think that lad smirked because he actually saw a set of breasts
If this new love of yours is to love you for you, then he'll love every part of you and your quirks make you unique and always remember that. 
Reply 2
It's a lot more common than you think, for girls to have one boob a different size than the other. I don't know how big the difference is for you, but it will only be a big deal if you let it. No one is perfectly symmetrical, and as Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, quirks are what make you you. If you're worried, have a bit of a chat about it with him. If he's worth your time, he won't be bothered 
Reply 3
This guy who smirked was a jerk, and it really could have been for any number of reasons that he did, not necessarily to do with any size difference. I'd say that if you really like this new guy and trust him then just go for it. Don't let this hold you back, he's really not going to be bothered if he's a great as you say.
Reply 4
I hope he is as great as I think he is 
. And yes, Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, they are quite noticeable. You don't need a magnifying glass to observe it .
. And yes, Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, they are quite noticeable. You don't need a magnifying glass to observe it .Reply 5
Anonymous
I hope he is as great as I think he is . And yes, Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, they are quite noticeable. You don't need a magnifying glass to observe it .
. And yes, Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, they are quite noticeable. You don't need a magnifying glass to observe it .I think the chances of him beign bothered are slim. I think if you make a big deal out of it, he's more likely to be bothered. And trust me, it's really more common than you think
Try not to worry Reply 6
Anonymous
I hope he is as great as I think he is . And yes, Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, they are quite noticeable. You don't need a magnifying glass to observe it .
. And yes, Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX, they are quite noticeable. You don't need a magnifying glass to observe it . Honestly you aren't on your own, millions of women are affected the same way. One of mine would be at least a half cup - full cup size bigger than the other and my boyfriend hasn't passed judgment on it, but if you find someone genuine enough to love you for you then that's all that matters. If you really like this guy, tell him your insecurities and if he's the right man for you, he'll understand and tell you that you're beautiful no matter what Reply 7
Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX is absolutly right, if this guy is the right guy he'll love you for you no matter what. Plus you have to remember that when we know something its all the more noticeable to us, i mean (i know this isn't comparable to you) but just something like if ive got a big spot or a stain on my shirt or something, because i know its there i'll be totally panicked about it but if i ask someone they cant notice it unless i physically point it out. If you know one of your breasts is smaller than the other you are immediately going to notice it much more than anybody else neccesarily would. So don't worry about it and don't dwell on it. Any decent guy will love you for you, thats a part of you so it wont bother him.
It isn't that big a deal if you come to think of it. I know that it is giving you a hard time but to be honest I don't think that a guy who cares about your breasts not being absolutely perfectly sized or shaped is someone not worth your time. Don't worry, if this is the right guy then I am sure he won't be at all bothered by it.
One of my breasts is slightly larger than the other, too. I know it can be very hard to get over such insecurities, but I'm sure this guy you are seeing right now is very understanding, most of them are. Guys often have some kind of issues with their own bodies and know what it's like to feel selfconscious about something like that. *hug*
Reply 11
Besides, many women blow this problem out of proportion. From their perspective the problem is usually less pronounced as you may feel. For example if i have a whole bunch of spots on the back of my arm I'll feel it to be awful, but after discussion with others they really don't notice them. A lot of these problems are extremely common and it's important to take heed of other peoples advice and remember than you are not the only individual with such problems. I hope my babble has helped you somehow
Reply 12
i would like to meet the boobs in question. i mean i heard so much about them its like we've known each other forever.
is it wrong between us all to mass debate over some ones breasts?
is it wrong between us all to mass debate over some ones breasts?
Reply 13
The Anthropologist
Having one breast larger than the other occurs in something like 1 in 4 women.
I think it's alot more common than that. As sTeVo said, people are rarely 'symmetrical'.
OP: I think Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX is right; that **** probably smirked because he actually got to gawp at a pair of breasts. He really does sound incredibly immature, like he has no idea what the human body is all about.
As for your new guy, perhaps you could talk to him about this nagging insecurity that you have. Say that you're slightly anxious about revealing yourself, having experienced a bad reaction in the past. He sounds like he has alot more going for him than the last guy (sorry, I meant '****').
I have some phsycial 'disfigurements' that my fiancee rather adores because they're 'flaws'. Namely, I have about 1100 scars (that's another story altogether) and it's a point of interest as far as he is concerned.
Just try it again, but talk to this guy first. He may surprise you
Reply 14
i think a very important thing to remember is that us blokes have our own insecurities about our own bodies, we all do, members of both sexes.
Reply 16
Well I have finally made up mind to give him a call tonight about this "special date" he has been insisting on for quite some time. I trust him a bit more than other men because we have known each other for a while before actually dating so there is a bit of security . So I was wondering do I bring it up to him and tell him beforehand or just let him find out for himself??
. So I was wondering do I bring it up to him and tell him beforehand or just let him find out for himself??Reply 17
Anonymous
Well I have finally made up mind to give him a call tonight about this "special date" he has been insisting on for quite some time. I trust him a bit more than other men because we have known each other for a while before actually dating so there is a bit of security . So I was wondering do I bring it up to him and tell him beforehand or just let him find out for himself??
. So I was wondering do I bring it up to him and tell him beforehand or just let him find out for himself??I can't say for definite what you should do. If it were me in the same situation, I would tell him first. I would do so with the intention of securing a 'good' reaction, as a look of surprise might be equally as crushing as the previous guy's reaction. It might also alert the guy to the fact that you're taking a big step which he may take a compliment.
Reply 18
yeah that guy was a dick, if he was interested in more than the sex he wouldn't have behaved like that. i think you should actually wait it out, make sure this guy really likes you, if he does, he will be prepared to wait anyway, then you could be a little more certain he wouldn't react like the other guy.
i don't personally feel you should have to tell anyone before, it isn't something you should be made to feel ashamed about, it's part of who you are and if they like you they'll like all of you.
i don't personally feel you should have to tell anyone before, it isn't something you should be made to feel ashamed about, it's part of who you are and if they like you they'll like all of you.
Reply 19
You've been on a few dates and the guy is hinting at having sex? Erm, how bizarre? Sex just happens surely?
You need a more grown up relationship, it really won't matter.
You need a more grown up relationship, it really won't matter.
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