Just come home early from a party with family

make more of an effort to get out of the house, even by yourself.

I'm embarassed. I went with my family (mum, dad, bro and sis) and they were all like "just be sociable" and all this. I've given them the impression that I hate being around people, when I'm actually quite confident when talking to people, it's just so awkward having them around. I can't be comfortable around my family. My dad is so quiet and laughs at everything, my sister is always teasing me about how much of a loner I am, my brother is alright, and my mum is off around talking to everyone. It was a hall party, and I just got up and came home because I was uncomfortable. I was just sitting at a table watching the time go by, and my sister was just looking at me with pity. I don't know why I'm like this when I'm out with them. And this whole summer holiday I've stayed cooped up in my room and I just wonder what the **** is wrong with me. (i'm male btw). I can't talk to anyone without feeling as if someone is above my shoulder monitoring me and I hated it. My cousins were criticising my hair, facial hair, how skinny and pale I've gotten, and I brushed it off, but it's so ****ing irritating that there's always something to criticise.

Any advice? I just wanna run away right now and find some friends to ease my temper but I can't call anyone at 10.30 on a Saturday night because they're probably out with their friends. How did I become such a loner...

where would you go yourself if it was you? I mean I'm 17, so no pubs, no clubs for me.

i wouldnt worry about it, if youre comfortable with yourself, then it doesnt matter tbh.

the only person who ever sees the real me is my mum, and she says whenever i talk to someone in front of her i get this really snooty arrogant attitude.. i dont mean to, but most of the time i cant be arsed to talk to people, cos i dont give a ****. Surprisingly i have quite a lot of friends, but i mean none of them are close, and i usually blow thm out and dont goclubbing etc with them cos im not interested. BUt i like my own company i dont piss me off like other people do, so i prefer to be a loner and talk o my mates when im in the mood etc.. they know what im like now so it doesnt bother them, but if they didnt i wouldn care. I wouldnt let it get to you tbh, just be yourself and **** everyone else

Good post, maybe because it mirrors me in some aspects.

With the onset of summer and the oncoming university, living far away from my friends meant my only real point of contact was at college. Even towards the end i realised how much i'm not like any of them, didn't fit in with that group and was only hanging around with them because at the time college started i lacked the self confidence to go make new friends.

Now its summer, they dont keep in touch with me and thats the way i like it tbh..they are selfish, bitchy and not worth the time. The upside of it is I learnt how to cope being a 'loner' and entertain myself without getting clingy to friends i don;t even want to be with for the sake of it.

I've got better things and better people to look forward to. Besides, its the new 'acquainatnces' i made who are the ones keeping in contact with me now.

i think being slightly lonerish is good for you, it makes you independent and you dont need to rely on anyone. I cant stand clingy people cos i would never dream of doing it myself! If i wanted to i could go out with my mates, but my mates sound similar to yours bitchy pains in the arses etc, and i cant be bothered wasting time talking to them or being with them sometimes. I think if you can separate yourself so that youre comfortable being you then thats fab, but if you wanna be with your mates, then come out of your shell thats what i do. Best of both worlds..

Exactly, i've always had the ability to move on with my life, even if it meant cutting myself off from people around me. may sound harsh, but theres good reason to it if i'm not happy with who i'm around, i've got more self respect to get out than condition myself to being 'one of them'.

well said. When i was at secondary school from year 7 to 11 i had friends and they tried to mold me, and i never did mold myself to what they wanted so i was always a slight outcast with them y'know i went to my new school and i just thought **** it ill do it my way. So i just did what i wanted, my mates knew the score, cos i started of the way i meant to be y'know, i refuse to change myself for a bunch of ***** that dont think im cool enough to start of with

I had something similiar. I new the people i hung round with at college from secondary school, half of them mixed in with random people we met at parties. Some of these people were the stereotypical 'emos' and it affected the rest of the group.
My old schoolmates started to become 'emo' (something i perceieve as fake and covering up other issues such as lack of self confidence without a mahusive black fringe) however despite all the talk of how fit dyed black hair and fringes were I went completely the other way and dressed what suited me.

It made me stick out like a sore thumb, often they mentioned why i 'was so damn 'preppy'. But i woulda looked a right muppet with a massive fringe , and woulda obscured my vision whilst playing hockey. So it was a no no

In the end they got rid of that fad and then i got comments like 'afterall, you really were the 'fittest' guy in the group' after hungering over big fringes and unintentianlly applying peer pressure to try to condition me.

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sometimes i really hate people, hence the loner part of me, i cant be doing with all the bull****

Yeah, i'm exactly the same, my brother always calls me shy, anti-social, and my mum just goes slagging about everywhere, when the truth is, i just can't talk to people around them in case HE makes a stupid joke about me and... i dunno, lol. just put up with it i suppose, you won't have to live with them for much longer; then go, and be free!

Well, people get on my nerves because i'ld say im too good a judge of character, and some people are just so transparent in why they do what they do but try to cover it up. Acting jealous, bitchy and doing things for attention because of an inferiority complex annoys me the most

Some people are real jems tho, and those people i'ld gladly keep in contact with.

get a room you two

cheeky