I hate being a black female-HELP

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    THIS IS ABOUT ME-NOT ANY OTHER BLACK FEMALE

    Seriously, i hate being a black female.

    I am 18 years old.

    it has occurred to me that being a black female is expensive because, unlike other races, we have to have protective styles, wash and deep condition our hair on a regular basis otherwise it will be hard to manage or break off.

    I just can't take it anymore, including the DONKEY hours i spend in the hair salon EVERY MONTH getting my hair done and paying lots of £££££ to achieve the look/style i want.

    It also hurts badly when my hair dresser tries to comb out my natural hair by yanking it with the hair blow dryer.

    I used to love how i could rock any hair style. From braids to twists out and from twists out to weaves and wigs because it meant that i could hide my natural kinky coiled hair and not worry about having to look like a clown in it.

    But........at this moment in time......

    I am feed up, especially when i don't achieve the natural hair look that i want.

    I am also sick and tired of hiding my natural hair under wigs, hair extensions, braids and twists outs especially when i know, i want to rock out my natural hair and not rely on these so called "protective styles" that meant to grow your hair.

    I feel like white girls have it a lot easier.

    Their hair can grow freely past down their shoulders without having to do all that protective styling etc.

    I wish my hair could grow just as fast without having to do any special regimen.

    I also wish that my parents will let me to completely shave my hair off because its clearly breaking and needs to restart growing from scratch.

    With my natural......its just breaking, like yesterday, i tried to comb it and it was shedding badly.

    I feel ugly right now and just want to shave it al of, so my hair can "start again".

    The problem with that is my parents, they say "you will not only look ugly if you shave it off, but people will mistake you for a male.

    Seriously, even my parents don't understand what i am going through in terms of dealing with my natural hair.



    I am really suffering from all sorts right now.

    I need help

    Anyone?
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    Oh get over it you drama queen. I am black too :hand:
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    wear a wig
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    You're 18. Do whatever you want.
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    just wear your natural hair out..............
    My friend actually shaved off her hair but she wore wigs all the time
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    My friend straightens her natural hair.
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    Miracle gro
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    Bless you i dont know what you are going through but speak to your parents again and say its what you want and maybe wear a wig instead? If i was brave i would do the same as i know it will grow out better but wouldn't do it.
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    You need to embrace it. There isn't anything else you could possibly do.
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    (Original post by serah.exe)
    wear a wig
    Maybe she can draw some hair on with a marker pen
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    "
    This video contains content from Channel 4, who has blocked it in your country on copyright grounds." :emo:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)


    it has occurred to me that being a black female is expensive because, unlike other races, we have to have protective styles, wash and deep condition our hair on a regular basis otherwise it will be hard to manage or break off.
    That's kind of how it is for everyone...
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    (Original post by serah.exe)
    "
    This video contains content from Channel 4, who has blocked it in your country on copyright grounds." :emo:
    I didn't even click on it just linked it lool
    it's the episode of Inbetweeners where Will's pubes fell out so Simon told him to draw some hair on or wear a wig in his pants :yy:
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    Are you basically having a moan about money?
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    I'm a black female and I feel you hun but honestly, there's pros and cons to our textured hair and a massive pro is that you can change your style as often as you like. You can embrace your natural hair, go on YouTube and read blogs about taking care of your hair and products recommended.
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    Ffs, don't relax your hair. And, I have similar hair, so this isn't just me being a b****.
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    Is this all about hair lmao I thought you were full on cutting yourself.
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    There's nothing you can do about it but just to live with it… lool.
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    I'm a black female as well
    No one is forcing you to go to salons or even get extravagant hairstyles. Grow your natural hair cheaply, then no need to spend money and yards of time in salons
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    This was me earlier. I've been really stressed about it, to the point of tears. It's so frustrating! I'm having such a hard time with my hair, I can't manage it. But I want to keep it natural, since I don't think it's fair that I have to put in extensions or chemicals just to have a hairstyle I can go out in public with. I completely feel your pain, but there's not much else to be done except deal with it. I'm trying styling mousse and perm rods again (did it yesterday, it failed) and hoping they'll work out. Apparently it's about practice.
 
 
 
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