Is Living with your Landlord always a bad idea?

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    I've lived with friends and strangers before and also in the landlord's house a couple of times. I've experienced (and read online) that living with the landlord is always usually a bad idea. I have not usually had trouble living with a non landlord, and pay my rent and am tidy, but if you're a lodger the landlord ALWAYS acts weirdly in my experience. They get nosy, very dodgy and controlling/gossiping about you and fussy. Basically they start taking the piss. I've had to leave a couple of houses early bc of this :lol:

    Do you think it's always the case that if you live with your landlord they start acting crazy unless you're very strict? I'm moving again soon and saw a nice place with a live in landlord.. its hard to judge till you have moved though!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've lived with friends and strangers before and also in the landlord's house a couple of times. I've experienced (and read online) that living with the landlord is always usually a bad idea. I have not usually had trouble living with a non landlord, and pay my rent and am tidy, but if you're a lodger the landlord ALWAYS acts weirdly in my experience. They get nosy, very dodgy and controlling/gossiping about you and fussy. Basically they start taking the piss. I've had to leave a couple of houses early bc of this :lol:

    Do you think it's always the case that if you live with your landlord they start acting crazy unless you're very strict? I'm moving again soon and saw a nice place with a live in landlord.. its hard to judge till you have moved though!
    I was just lodging with a landlrod because I needed a place to stay for two months before I started uni and it was EXACTLY AS YOU HAVE DESCRIBED - she got nosy, dodgy, fussy and gossiped to her daughter!

    If you are living with a landlord, you are basically a guest in someone else's house. You have to sort of live by their rules - they will keep track of when you clean your room and you have to keep the communal areas as they wish, different people have different standards of cleanliness and for example some people do not clean the shower daily etc...having guests over / parties in the house is different as well... of course, it could turn out well but you would have to get extremely lucky and be completely on the same wavelength as the landlord in my opinion, otherwise its just a bit awkward. I would NOT want to be a guest in someone's house again.
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    (Original post by arcenciel21)
    I was just lodging with a landlrod because I needed a place to stay for two months before I started uni and it was EXACTLY AS YOU HAVE DESCRIBED - she got nosy, dodgy, fussy and gossiped to her daughter!

    If you are living with a landlord, you are basically a guest in someone else's house. You have to sort of live by their rules - they will keep track of when you clean your room and you have to keep the communal areas as they wish, different people have different standards of cleanliness and for example some people do not clean the shower daily etc...having guests over / parties in the house is different as well... of course, it could turn out well but you would have to get extremely lucky and be completely on the same wavelength as the landlord in my opinion, otherwise its just a bit awkward. I would NOT want to be a guest in someone's house again.
    Yes this was my experience! Glad to hear ur at uni now! Live in landlords always want to know your business, gossiping about what you're doing, when you go out etc. They forget you are paying them and think its free money!! Rearranged my thingsin even though Im tidy and moaning about stuff constantly. I have lived several house shares, live in landlords are a serious outlier in terms of how psycho they can get. Very controlling and weird. Also I'm not racist, I'm not "English" myself but foreign live in landlords can be double trouble.. Saying stuff in a language they don't think you understand. :rolleyes:

    The law on lodgers is also in the landlords favour.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've lived with friends and strangers before and also in the landlord's house a couple of times. I've experienced (and read online) that living with the landlord is always usually a bad idea. I have not usually had trouble living with a non landlord, and pay my rent and am tidy, but if you're a lodger the landlord ALWAYS acts weirdly in my experience. They get nosy, very dodgy and controlling/gossiping about you and fussy. Basically they start taking the piss. I've had to leave a couple of houses early bc of this :lol:

    Do you think it's always the case that if you live with your landlord they start acting crazy unless you're very strict? I'm moving again soon and saw a nice place with a live in landlord.. its hard to judge till you have moved though!
    Not always (real life good friends where you dont have any issues saying it as it is), but I would say its not a good one.

    The reason its not good is because they are your landlord hence its unbalanced because they have more power (ability to evict you) and its always their house which you cna be very conscious of. Unless its an amazing bargain or very temporary then I would look elsewhere.
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    Yes this was my experience! Glad to hear ur at uni now! Live in landlords always want to know your business, gossiping about what you're doing, when you go out etc. They forget you are paying them and think its free money!! Rearranged my thingsin even though Im tidy and moaning about stuff constantly. I have lived several house shares, live in landlords are a serious outlier in terms of how psycho they can get. Very controlling and weird. Also I'm not racist, I'm not "English" myself but foreign live in landlords can be double trouble.. Saying stuff in a language they don't think you understand. :rolleyes:

    The law on lodgers is also in the landlords favour.
    Oh God my landlord rearranged my stuff as well, she told me the day I moved in that she will give me a key to my room. She never gave me the key. There were 2 chairs in my room and one day I come home and suddenly theres another chair. She never asked me if she could keep her chair in my room!! She also opened my wardrobe when I wasnt there without asking because she needed to see something that needed fixing....

    As you said, they completely forget that you are PAYING to occupy the room / house and as long as you are paying, they should have no right to step foot in you room unless they think you are snorting coke in there or something.

    By the way, this was a really nice and 'normal' lady that I was living with, so I can imagine that most live in landlors are even more trouble.
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    The reason its not good is because they are your landlord hence its unbalanced because they have more power
    This says all basically.

    And my landlord was a complete clean freak, she is that housewife sort of woman who is at home cooking and cleaning all day. So she would literally put the hoover in front of our doors (there were other lodgers) and leave us notes to clean our room, even though all of us hoovered, cleaned etc on a weekly basis, we were all tidy but it needed to be done whenever SHE wanted. She literaly hoovered the house like every other day, it was so annoying. You had to clean the shower with distilled vinegar after every use, not allowed to keep toiletries in the bathroom and so on... as I said, people have different standards of cleanliness and if your standards dont match up then you are going to have problems.
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    (Original post by arcenciel21)
    Oh God my landlord rearranged my stuff as well, she told me the day I moved in that she will give me a key to my room. She never gave me the key. There were 2 chairs in my room and one day I come home and suddenly theres another chair. She never asked me if she could keep her chair in my room!! She also opened my wardrobe when I wasnt there without asking because she needed to see something that needed fixing....

    As you said, they completely forget that you are PAYING to occupy the room / house and as long as you are paying, they should have no right to step foot in you room unless they think you are snorting coke in there or something.

    By the way, this was a really nice and 'normal' lady that I was living with, so I can imagine that most live in landlors are even more trouble.
    And my landlord was a complete clean freak, she is that housewife sort of woman who is at home cooking and cleaning all day. So she would literally put the hoover in front of our doors (there were other lodgers) and leave us notes to clean our room, even though all of us hoovered, cleaned etc on a weekly basis, we were all tidy but it needed to be done whenever SHE wanted. She literaly hoovered the house like every other day, it was so annoying. You had to clean the shower with distilled vinegar after every use, not allowed to keep toiletries in the bathroom and so on... as I said, people have different standards of cleanliness and if your standards dont match up then you are going to have problems.
    WTF lol. How did she even know the wardrobe need fixing?! :nope: Yes they think its still their space! Free money for being a whiny ***** and a room they go in, no thank you!!

    I was also living with two "housewife" women while I was studying, so I wasnt out all day either :lol: One of them obviously resented me, when she and her kids were in the dining room and I walked through they would stare and shed start whispering ****. Both also were rude gossips although I knew one of em before and she seemed like a nice normal lady like you say. They definitely overstep personal boundaries and think you are like a kid and they can control u. One of them said she didnt think I could get in for a Masters and was really sulky when I mentioned it though I got a First :rolleyes:

    Constantly overheard them on the phone or to their husbands like "where is OP from, whats he doing, etc." Or gossiping to me about other lodgers! (who also disliked them). They also like to be nosy and ask questions like "are your parents here" but I lied and said they lived in a city close by cuz I knew they were hoping to exploit me :rolleyes:

    The clean freak thing is also definitely true. One would moan about everything (even knock on the door when my stuff was in the oven and not burning!!) and rearrange my stuff in the bathroom etc tho it was tidy. Eventually I told her I was moving out and you should have seen her face :rolleyes:

    999tigger I agree completely. How many of your friends have been with live in landlords? Cuz mine have all been ****, but (no racist) they have mostl been from different cultures, not English, so maybe thought it OK to act like that to a young perso
 
 
 
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