Feeling so down

I've been feeling generally down recently and right now I just can't seem to shake myself out of this depressed state. I saw my ex last night at a group gathering (I broke up with him two months ago) and I don't want him back or anything but I just feel kind of sad that he didn't seem interested in talking to me at all, even though it was a good breakup and we're still friends. I keep thinking about how this time last year we were on holiday and it was truly amazing and I had so many hopes for the year to come in terms of uni and stuff and one year later nothing seems to be going right - I just don't feel valuable in any way :frown:

Reply 1

LinMolko321

I know you feel really down now, but remember its just temporary. Lifes full of ups and downs, i've been in a similar situation, you just need to remember if they arent interested in talking to you, why should you be interested in talking to them?

From your post i've gathered you're going to uni in Sept? You'll have a fantastic time once you get there, try and keep positive for now :smile:

Hope this helps x

Reply 2

I_am_the_mob

You will find someone you want to be with, don't worry, so stop worrying about the people you don't want to be with anymore
Our dreams don't work out a lot of the time I'm afraid, that's why we get new ones all the time
I hope you feel better soon

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

LinMolko321

Hope this helps x

No I've just finished my first year at uni and it didn't exactly meet all the "best time of your life" expectations

Reply 4

samba

Anonymous

No I've just finished my first year at uni and it didn't exactly meet all the "best time of your life" expectations

It's what you make it for the most part!

Reply 5

singforme

i think maybe you need to introduce new things to your life, maybe this will stop you dwelling on the past and probably other worries. as someone who easily falls into depressive states, i find them least affecting when i'm doing other things especially physical activities such as swimming which makes me feel good and then better about other things.
it's sad that your ex wasn't interested in you. but don't think about the great times you had when he's acting like that, remember that you don't like him! and why you broke up. try making some plans with other friends, something to look forward to.
chin up!

Reply 6

paperclip

i cant help on the depressive states but your ex might seem distant because he doesnt wanna give the impression he still likes you. Im like this with my exs i still talk to; if they talk to me i'll respond but i'll try not to seem too close otherwise it might give the impression i still like her. Its usually up to the person that dumps the person to decide on the level of contact they keep