I'm worried me and my bf are drifting apart...

What the title says really, we have been through a lot together and there are just things starting to sow doubts in my mind and get me down, like just lately he doesn't seem as eager to see me and he's never been the most cuddly person in the world, but he don't even do them now or kiss me hardly it's always me who has to do it and he don't even seem to like it or respond that much, and like he makes excuses not to, he does other affectionate things like tickle me and stuff...Also, at times he seems very snappy with me and seems to get kind of snotty with me over things, like today for example I suggested we went the park or something and he went 'No I'm not up for that, no it's too hot ffs' it's always stuff like that I know it sounds small when I type it out here but it's the tone of voice like it's some kind of terrible idea like I want him to dress as a woman or something...I dunno I'm probably making something from nothing but it just feels really saddening to me I wish he was more 'huggy' and stuff, and didn't make me feel so stupid for saying things sometimes...I know he is going through a hard time as his dad died in March and he is trying to pack in smoking but it's still really weird.

Reply 1

suek

he is trying to pack in smoking

This. Remember he is trying to break an addiction here and it will be tough on both of you! All you can do is be there for him and try to ride it out, and when he is in a bit more of a .. sensitive mood (it'll get easier as time goes on with him quitting smoking) try and explain how you feel. He'll probably just apologise and put it down to what he's going through at the moment.

Try not to worry too much and just be there for him, it's all you can do. :smile:

Reply 2

JaneThePain

Just give him a little time. What with his father's death, and trying to kick smoking, he's probably not going to be in the most affectionate mood for a while.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Thank you both for your advice, I guess you're right, I just feel like maybe things are changing a bit and I'm gonna have to get used to it, I am trying my best to be there for him, I will keep on with it. I hope things get better.

Reply 4

randomgirl

It's not a coincidence that he's acting like this and he's just given up smoking and lost his dad.

Things might not seem like it now, but they'll get better with time. :smile: