Feel like I like my boyfriend way more than he likes me

I'm just feeling a bit down and unwanted at the moment. I'm 19 and have been with my boyfriend nearly 4 months (hes also 19). We met in May at uni and were pretty much inseparable for the whole of the summer term. I havent liked anyone this much in ages and as the time has gone on my feelings have got stronger for him.

At first it seemed to go well - I've met his parents and hes introduced me to all his friends at home etc. But lately I've just been feeling really crap. I get the impression that I like him way more than he likes me. I went to visit him the other weekend (we live about an hour apart when not at uni) and I did enjoy seeing him but he didnt seem that bothered about me going back home (we probs wont see eachother for a few months) whereas I felt really sad about it.

Conversation wise he also doesnt seem to have that much to say to me and its starting to feel awkward. He's very quiet and shy, whereas I'm quite loud and chatty. He never really says anything sweet or romantic to me either, he only ever teases me.

I just dont know what to do. I hate being in this position because its horrible when you really like someone and they dont like you back to the same level (if you get what I mean). I dont know whether its just my insecurities making me feel like this or what, but he just doesnt make me feel special or valued in any way :frown:

Reply 1

username43584

It sounds like he does like you but that he doesn't quite know how to express that feeling. You say yourself that he's quiet and shy. Your chattiness probably intimidates him a little so he'll tend to clam up or revert to teasing (it's easier to tease someone than just say what you really feel for them or make little romantic comments). In fact, he might be thinking similar things to you - "I'm quiet and shy...what does she see in me...how can I keep her interested").

Reply 2

Music_Enthusiast

I feel like this towards my gf except I'm in the position where I feel like I like her less. I don't know how to break up with her because I don't want to hurt her feelings :/

Reply 3

HereFishyFishy

Music_Enthusiast

I feel like this towards my gf except I'm in the position where I feel like I like her less. I don't know how to break up with her because I don't want to hurt her feelings :/

Well that's just cowardly. You'll hurt her feelings a lot less in the long run if you tell her now.

OP: nobody here really knows how your boyfriend feels. The best thing to do is to talk to him about it. Ask him if everything's ok with you both? If he's handling the distance well? Tell him how you're feeling.

Reply 4

Ichamackalooloo

Just do it, it will save her alot of bother@ Music Enthusiast

OP, i'm in the same predicament!! I really want the relationship to work but feel its only one way. So I keep telling myself that I will ask him if he still likes me, and if not, just tell me the truth so we can both get on with our lives. But because I still like him i'm worried that if I do ask him, what the answer will be.

Reply 5

Music_Enthusiast

Laces

Well that's just cowardly. You'll hurt her feelings a lot less in the long run if you tell her now.

Ok yeah thats good advice. Ill tell her how I feel.

Reply 6

HereFishyFishy

Music_Enthusiast

Ok yeah thats good advice. Ill tell her how I feel.

I dunno if you're being sarcastic, but it kind of is (obvious) and good advice.

I'd hate it if a bloke who didn't like me wasted my time pretending he did.

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