what should i do?

One of my boyfriend's friends (a girl) came onto him a few months ago. He didnt tell me about it but i later found out and he promised not to see her again. However, i found out yesterday that he was going to be seeing her at the weekend when he was going out with her and a group of friends. I asked him who was going and he said just the boys. I then asked him if he was hiding anything and he promised he wasnt and then got angry at me for not trusting him. I then told him that i knew she would be there and he admitted he had lied and had hoped he could be friends with her behind my back. I feel really betrayed by him and shocked that he could so easily lie to my face. Im completely sure there is nothing between him and this girl but im just so angry that he was so deceitful about the whole thing. I dont trust him to be honest with me now and dont know how to move on from here. We wont break up over it but he wants to know what to do to put things right and i dont know what to say! help!!!

Reply 1

Viridis

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Well did you ask him why he lied?

Reply 2

HereFishyFishy

13

That's not really on IMO. The fact he got angry for you at not trusting him - after he lied about the meet and didn't tell you about her move in the first place - is really crap.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

He said he lied because he didnt want to lose a friend he'd had for so long. But then he should never have promised me that he wouldnt see her again if he didnt mean it. I know its completely out of order what he did, but i dont know what to do about it! what would you do in my situation?

Reply 4

MoOoOn light

do with him as he did withe you go with other boys and see what will he do??

Reply 5

Rutter knows best!

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Anonymous

He said he lied because he didnt want to lose a friend he'd had for so long. But then he should never have promised me that he wouldnt see her again if he didnt mean it. I know its completely out of order what he did, but i dont know what to do about it! what would you do in my situation?

eat cake!

Reply 6

Viridis

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anonymous

He said he lied because he didnt want to lose a friend he'd had for so long. But then he should never have promised me that he wouldnt see her again if he didnt mean it. I know its completely out of order what he did, but i dont know what to do about it! what would you do in my situation?

The fact that he had to lie just makes me wonder, how good is this 'friend' that he has to lie to his girlfriend about just to meet her. I'd leave him :smile:

Plus i wouldn't want to be with anybody i can't trust, it would be too much of a headache.

Reply 7

HereFishyFishy

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Anonymous

He said he lied because he didnt want to lose a friend he'd had for so long. But then he should never have promised me that he wouldnt see her again if he didnt mean it. I know its completely out of order what he did, but i dont know what to do about it! what would you do in my situation?

I would definitely have a hefty chat with him. Do they have history?

He has withheld information from you and lied, which is a fairly dumpable offence really. But I'd give him the chance to explain. It may be that he gets on with her/likes her as a mate and wants to continue the friendship without upsetting you. Hence, he didn't tell you. However, he's gone about it in an incredibly stupid way.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

no theres no history between them. He's not the first one in the friendship group she's tried it on with!

what should i do?

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