If you got worse than you were expecting, how are you going to tell your parents? Watch

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That's actually my biggest worry; I've already told myself that I won't be doing very well and I've almost accepted it. I just don't want to let my parents down, however.

What's the best way to tell them?
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out right. dont beat around the bush just tell them. and tell them how you feel about it so hopefully they wont go on and on about it
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out right. dont beat around the bush just tell them. and tell them how you feel about it so hopefully they wont go on and on about it
OK. I really did try my best, and all the way through the year, I was making As! So should I also say that I buckled under pressure? That sounds like such an excuse!
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nah you dont need to try and justify it. its just one of those things. im sure you will have done fine
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I wish my parents would use the conditional at least once when talking about university instead of constantly going "So when you go to university in september, you need to..."

Urgh.
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(Original post by Karvel)
I wish my parents would use the conditional at least once when talking about university instead of constantly going "So when you go to university in september, you need to..."

Urgh.
I know what you mean, my dad was all, "When you get into LSE..." LSE???!!!!!!!! No way am I going to be able to make it into there!!!
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Well, my mum will be there with me when I open my results, and it's always been like that. My dad will get told via text as he'll be working probably, and I always just tell him the grades and leave it at that. It's not like he knows what any of it means! Honestly, if I miss my firm choice (Durham), I'm just gonna text him and say 'Wahey I got into Leeds!' Leeds is my insurance but he'll assume it's good and it was my firm because I put 'wahey'. :p:

My parents have always been fine with it really.
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If I don't get the grades for my first choice my Mum will make out like I did it just to spite her!
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Wow, you guys don't have very forgiving parents...surely if you've worked as hard as you can then they'll be happy for you?
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I know exactly what you mean!!! I'm predicted all As and frankly I should get them...because my work in the year has proved that...
But as far as I'm concerned...I know/am pretty sure that I've slipped up on a few exams meaning that I'm likely to get a B in 2 of my subjects...
and it's really scary because they expect me to do well...and everyone expects me to do well...even worse...I expect myself to do well and I know it'll be harsh if I don't get my predicted grades.
It's quite funny, I'm thinking of applying to the LSE and my parents...without realising what they are doing tell all their friends that I hoping to get into the LSE and they all think that my parents are slightly crazy because the LSE is so good (especially for economics)!

@crankycaz: my parents are forgiving, it's just that they know that I can get all As...and if I don't it'll mean that I have slacked and not achieved what I can...(I don't mean to sound completely obssessive/crazy:p:)
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i just keep preparing my dad for the worst, then if i actually do well he will be happy and if not i can say 'don't say i didn't warn you' hehe
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If you do terribly, reseal the envelope and send it to yourself (telling your parents they sent them in the post this year). That gives you a good 2 days to bring their expectations down
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My Mum and Dad always say as long as you've tried your best we can't ask for anything more and are always proud even if i do really badly. The only thing is I'm more harsh on myself and ask more so i get disappointed in myself if i don't get what i wanted.

(Original post by Karvel)
I wish my parents would use the conditional at least once when talking about university instead of constantly going "So when you go to university in september, you need to..."

Urgh.
thing is though if your parents said ' if you get into university in september' you'd probably be like 'what do you mean if' and think they didn't believe in you.

i think parents say 'when you go to uni' to try and boost your confidence especially in august when your stressed about results
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Yeah I know what you mean ergo...I'm kind of in the same situation with Physics I reckon. I could have gotten an A I think, but I really bombed in the synoptic paper, so I think it'll be a B. But I'd already told my parents after the exam that it might have cost me the A. If my dad makes the 'Why did you get a B?' 'joke' about physics if I do get a B, I'll whack him one because it'll really annoy me, lol.
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I'd jump off a cliff...im sure they'll guess why

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ok now seriously...i'd just tell them...sure they'd keep going on about it for ages, but you cant exactly hide these things lol
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The only way is to tell them right out that you didn’t do as well as you could have. Sure, they will be upset and disappointed (for you), but so will you; and it’s more letting yourself down than letting them down.

I think you’re thinking about it too much and looking at it from the wrong angle; your parents only want the best for you and want you to be happy, so while they will be disappointed for you, they will be fine as long as you’re happy with your Insurance choice.
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I won't find it difficult telling them, and they won't hate me for it, but I'd be so disappointed afterwards that I'd let them down. I'd let myself down etc.
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Just. Tell. Them.

I actually want to disappoint my parents in a sense; sucks to them for putting so much pressure on me by saying 'You'll get 4 As' on every exam mention.
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Jesus, you all have harsh parents.

My parents wouldn't particularly care...well, I guess they'd care, but they would never try and make me feel guilty or make out that I'd disappointed them. It's my choice to put the effort in or not, it's not really anything to do with them...
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My parents can **** off. They're not allowed to be disappointed; it is my future after all.
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