getting antidepressants at 16

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    hi everyone i'm certain im depressed and i've run away from it long enough and due to a lot of things I've decided to face it and try to get better. There's no question about whether I'm depressed or not (I've been like this for as long as I can remember, it's not a phase or anything, plus i have a family history of this)

    I'm 16 and I dont want the doctors to tell my parents I want to tell them myself later on because im just not ready for them to know. It's not that they wouldnt be supportive, i just dont want all my family to know yet.

    Two people know about this and I trust them a lot with it and i feel comfortable talking about it with them. So first of all, can i just make sure they tell NOBODY??? like thats all i want, i dont want them to tell anyone at all?!!?! theres no risk of me killing myself or anything so like they CANT tell my parents or family right?

    secondly, can i go straight to antidepressants my depression is quite severe but i know theyll be reluctant, my parents on antidepressants too and theres been a real real big impact for him so i know it will work so what do i even say to the doctor?! i know it will seem weird to say this but i think it will actually make me better, so how do ilike get antidepressants lol?!?!?!?!

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hi everyone i'm certain im depressed and i've run away from it long enough and due to a lot of things I've decided to face it and try to get better. There's no question about whether I'm depressed or not (I've been like this for as long as I can remember, it's not a phase or anything, plus i have a family history of this)

    I'm 16 and I dont want the doctors to tell my parents I want to tell them myself later on because im just not ready for them to know. It's not that they wouldnt be supportive, i just dont want all my family to know yet.

    Two people know about this and I trust them a lot with it and i feel comfortable talking about it with them. So first of all, can i just make sure they tell NOBODY??? like thats all i want, i dont want them to tell anyone at all?!!?! theres no risk of me killing myself or anything so like they CANT tell my parents or family right?

    secondly, can i go straight to antidepressants my depression is quite severe but i know theyll be reluctant, my parents on antidepressants too and theres been a real real big impact for him so i know it will work so what do i even say to the doctor?! i know it will seem weird to say this but i think it will actually make me better, so how do ilike get antidepressants lol?!?!?!?!

    thanks
    If you go to your doctor, they will not and cannot tell your parents, or anyone, without your permission unless you're in immediate danger. Even then, it wouldn't be your family they'd be contacting. They'll likely encourage you to do so, but it's completely up to you in the end. It's up to your doctor as to your treatment. You may be given medication, you may not. You may be referred to someone else. You can mention the family history, and enquire about medication, but doctors often don't like to hand them out when they feel there are other options or that medication isn't the right answer. It depends on your circumstances, your medical history, what happens in the appointment, and the doctor, among other things. It's really good that you've decided to get help for what you're going through. It's very brave. Good luck!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    hi everyone i'm certain im depressed and i've run away from it long enough and due to a lot of things I've decided to face it and try to get better. There's no question about whether I'm depressed or not (I've been like this for as long as I can remember, it's not a phase or anything, plus i have a family history of this)

    I'm 16 and I dont want the doctors to tell my parents I want to tell them myself later on because im just not ready for them to know. It's not that they wouldnt be supportive, i just dont want all my family to know yet.

    Two people know about this and I trust them a lot with it and i feel comfortable talking about it with them. So first of all, can i just make sure they tell NOBODY??? like thats all i want, i dont want them to tell anyone at all?!!?! theres no risk of me killing myself or anything so like they CANT tell my parents or family right?

    secondly, can i go straight to antidepressants my depression is quite severe but i know theyll be reluctant, my parents on antidepressants too and theres been a real real big impact for him so i know it will work so what do i even say to the doctor?! i know it will seem weird to say this but i think it will actually make me better, so how do ilike get antidepressants lol?!?!?!?!

    thanks
    If you go to your doctor they will only tell people if you give them permission or you are at immediate risk. Just being depressed does not count for this, it's severe suicidal thoughts or previous attempts and things and even then it will probably not be your parents they tell.

    What treatment you get will depend on your condition and what you want. I believe that because of your age a normal GP can't prescribe you ADs. They would need to refer you to a specialist. There are more risks with ADs for younger people and some are inappropriate for your age. You are also (again due to your age) likely to be refered to a service called CAMHS for treatment. This is a service (part of the NHS) that deals with children's mental health. I would actually suggest you take this option over any "adult" treatments or services. Everything is all under one roof, likely nearer to you that other services, they will have a better idea of what it's like to be at college and dealing with parents etc, you are still under control of who they tell just as much with an adult service.

    I suggest you talk to your doctor and to your college student support. Neither should tell your parents and you can clarify this with them if you are concerned.

    If you have further questions feel free to ask me (here or by pm). I suffered depression at around your age and saw a doctor when I was 17. I know it is very difficult at times and it can be especially hard at this age due to various complications.
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    Doctors often advise telling parents/guardians about psychiatric medications because it's really helpful to have someone else know that they're being prescribed to you. Most of the time AD's cause side effects and can often make the patient feel worse at the beginning - it's good to have someone close knowing you've started taking them because they can look out for any changes in your behaviour.
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    Doctors often advise telling parents/guardians about psychiatric medications because it's really helpful to have someone else know that they're being prescribed to you. Most of the time AD's cause side effects and can often make the patient feel worse at the beginning - it's good to have someone close knowing you've started taking them because they can look out for any changes in your behaviour.
    This is a very good point and your family should be understanding since they have been through simmilar. You don't have to shout it oout to the whole world, but having one or two people who know can be a big help. If you are up to it I would suggest you let somebody in your family know and somebody from your school know. This basically means if you're having a rough time they can cut you some slack. When I started ADs I felt very ill for a couple of days and it was really helpful being able to leave class no questions asked and get some air. You don't even need to tell them details- just that you're starting new meds, or ill at the moment or whatever.

    And as above said, ADs can have some nasty side effects so it's good to have somebody know you're on them incase anything happens. It also means if you were to get injured they can tell the hospital or paramedics what you are taking so they can alter your care accordingly.

    You don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to and it's up to you who you tell, but it can really help for somebody to know. Hope things start improving for you.
 
 
 
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