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Can a relationship survive a gap year...

well my boyfriend is going straight to university where as I am going to take a year out. I'll be away for around 9/10 months in total.

Has anyone managed to make their relationship work in a situation like this? :frown:

Reply 1

dinkymints

12

yes, although I was only away for 3.5months, but then after i was back a month he went away for a month...

it can be done, i'm sure people have much stronger cases than mine but if you want some advice/reassurance, what are your main concerns exactly?

Reply 2

sahsum

13

there's so many threads like this and the answer is the same everytime! = if you love each other enough it won't matter if your apart and feeling shldnt change! its likely that you'll be really busy away and so will he with uni! just make sure u keep in touch, maybe plan for him to come and see u in one of his holidays if possible? 1st year uni is often abit of a doss anyway soit shldnt put him out too much!

Reply 3

choco6

OP

1

well, I won't be able to see him for like 9 or 10 months...people are saying that it's unrealistic to expect that he will wait for me for so long. My friends were saying what if he falls for someone else and that it is very likely that he will, considering I will be away for so long.
I don't think he can come over to see me because I will be in very remote places. I was thinking that maybe I could try to be home around Christmas, but I'm not sure if people do stuff like that.

Reply 4

danni_bella

17

I remember when I went on my GAP year to China then to Canada. My boss at work (used to work at Priceline :biggrin:

Oh the days) was like 'well CYA!' coz at that age, a year is a looooong time...

But hey, each to their own :smile:

Reply 5

Nudlz

dont listen as long as your both willing to try you stand a good chance of making it :smile:

Reply 6

choco6

OP

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danni_bella

I remember when I went on my GAP year to China then to Canada. My boss at work (used to work at Priceline :biggrin:

Oh the days) was like 'well CYA!' coz at that age, a year is a looooong time...

But hey, each to their own :smile:

did you go home in the middle of your year out ?

Reply 7

ForeverIsMyName

15

It can. It probably shouldn't.. going into university in a relationship isn't that great an idea, unless it's very much established. Chances are you'll split up in the first year.

(Statistically, obviously).

Reply 8

choco6

OP

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Robin_Hood90

dont listen as long as your both willing to try you stand a good chance of making it :smile:

well did anyone here manage to or does anyone know someone who did?

Reply 9

Angelil

19

PM Sarky, her boyfriend's just gone away for that amount of time. It'll be good for you both to be able to support one another :smile:

Reply 10

choco6

OP

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Angelil

PM Sarky, her boyfriend's just gone away for that amount of time. It'll be good for you both to be able to support one another :smile:

they didn't break it off?

Reply 11

Nudlz

choco6

well did anyone here manage to or does anyone know someone who did?

thats the last time i try and give you some faith :mad:

Reply 12

danni_bella

17

choco6

did you go home in the middle of your year out ?

Nah, straight to Canada. I was meant to be in China for 6 months but only stayed 5, the culture was so different! It was heaps awesome though, I taught English there then flew to Canada after some sight seeing.

For me, the place I went to in Canada was like home because I had lived there before :biggrin:

My dad used to travel a lot for his work you see, and we were there for three years when I was young (12-15) before moving back to Australia.

Thanks for asking x x Best of luck OP, whatever you put you mind to it - hope you achieve your goals x

Reply 13

socialist cook

8

My boyfriend and I are still together following 9 months we had away from each other when I was on my Year Abroad in Spain.

Trust I would say has been the main reason for our success the other being the fact that at the heart of it we still love each other.

Reply 14

choco6

OP

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socialist cook

My boyfriend and I are still together following 9 months we had away from each other when I was on my Year Abroad in Spain.

Trust I would say has been the main reason for our success the other being the fact that at the heart of it we still love each other.

you must have seen each other during that time though.

Reply 15

socialist cook

8

choco6

you must have seen each other during that time though.

We did but only a few times, for instance he came over in October 2006 to see me and I hadn't seen him since July 2006 due to him working and the fact that we live at opposite ends of the country anyway! (He's in County Durham and I'm in Devon.)

Reply 16

choco6

OP

1

hmm another thing is that I'm worried he might fall for someone else during this time

Reply 17

capitalP

Highly highly unlikely....and then when you get to uni, its even more unlikely.

dont treat a relationship to be a safety blanket from the big wide world...go out there and grab it. Life is precious.

Reply 18

choco6

OP

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capitalP

Highly highly unlikely....and then when you get to uni, its even more unlikely.

yes I know it's unlikely, that is why I'm wondering if anyone else managed to stay together.

Reply 19

capitalP

Well speaking as a 25 year old who has been through uni..I dont know one couple who stayed together from school --> uni. I do however know one couple who got together in first term of year 1 and are still together. A few other got together in fresher week and split up right after uni....one I know got together the last day of uni and are still together now ( awww).

IMO people do it for comfort, as a crutch and then it becomes habit.

Then again I find myself single most of the time..so I am biased :smile:

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