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All time low

I feel like I'm hitting an all time low in my life

I'm struggling with a lot of family issues, for example my mother won't leave me alone about my weight, she doesn't praise me if I lose any but if I don't she yells at me. She says she won't talk to me if I haven't lost a stone by September! I really do try but I have problems with my metabolism and I'm naturally just curvy

My uncle has recently moved in with us due to his divorce and his young daughter often comes to stay and life has really changed with his moving in, my mum has changed how she runs the house a lot and I have real trouble with upsets to the system sometimes

A while ago I found out my father had bipolar disorder and even though it was hereditary my mum had never told me (I don't live with my dad). I tried to book a doctors appointment as I showed a lot of the symptons but my nan refused to cover for me, she said there was nothing wrong with me and when I told her about all the trouble I had she just kept repeating "You're not like your father"

To make things worst my two of the three people I really need to get me through this are on holiday and the other one, I may never speak to again for complicated reasons and I miss them more than I can say, and I don't think it's fixable

Please help

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

I'm struggling with a lot of family issues, for example my mother won't leave me alone about my weight, she doesn't praise me if I lose any but if I don't she yells at me. She says she won't talk to me if I haven't lost a stone by September! I really do try but I have problems with my metabolism and I'm naturally just curvy

Hmm. Tell me, are you losing weight because you want to, or are you losing weight because she wants you to want to?

Anonymous

My uncle has recently moved in with us due to his divorce and his young daughter often comes to stay and life has really changed with his moving in, my mum has changed how she runs the house a lot and I have real trouble with upsets to the system sometimes

Have you spoken to them (both of them) about this? If so, what was their reaction?

Anonymous

A while ago I found out my father had bipolar disorder and even though it was hereditary my mum had never told me (I don't live with my dad). I tried to book a doctors appointment as I showed a lot of the symptons but my nan refused to cover for me, she said there was nothing wrong with me and when I told her about all the trouble I had she just kept repeating "You're not like your father"

Is your nan your mum's mum or your dad's mum? Typical mother-in-law syndrome, she might simply not like him. Go and book a doctor's appointment if you have to, get time off work/school by telling them you have a doctor's appointment, no one can deny you it. Bipolar disorder can be serious, and if you're depressed at all it's not nice. Trust me, I know. Go and get help if you think you need it.

Anonymous

To make things worst my two of the three people I really need to get me through this are on holiday and the other one, I may never speak to again for complicated reasons and I miss them more than I can say, and I don't think it's fixable

Can you text them or email them? The third person I'm afraid I can't really advise you on since I don't know what's happened, but the first two are only gone for a week or so, surely? I sympathise; all my friends keep buggering off on holiday and seemingly never coming back too, and I'm not having a great time myself. But they do come back in the end. You'll have a **** week or so and then afterwards you'll be able to forget it with your friends. That's not pure mindless optimism, that's the truth; hang onto that.

Feel free to PM me (in confidence) if you want to rant further or discuss depression / bipolar disorder with someone who has suffered from the former for a few years now. :smile:

Alternatively reply in this thread, but if you do, quote me, so that I remember to check back tomorrow and can find it. :smile:

I know it all seems impossible, but try stepping out of yourself for a second. What advice would you give to your hypothetical friend who was in this situation? Break it down into individual problems instead of thinking it's all linked and you can often sort it out much more easily than you thought. The bipolar disorder is probably at the root of most of your problems; that said, a word with your mum and uncle wouldn't go amiss.

Reply 2

sahsum

13

some good advice form the poster above! hopefully your friends are back soon and will be there for you. Definately get a doctors appointment, and spend some time out of the house each day when you mother starts annoying you.

Reply 3

little-clumsy-me

10

Anonymous

I feel like I'm hitting an all time low in my life

I'm struggling with a lot of family issues, for example my mother won't leave me alone about my weight, she doesn't praise me if I lose any but if I don't she yells at me. She says she won't talk to me if I haven't lost a stone by September! I really do try but I have problems with my metabolism and I'm naturally just curvy

My uncle has recently moved in with us due to his divorce and his young daughter often comes to stay and life has really changed with his moving in, my mum has changed how she runs the house a lot and I have real trouble with upsets to the system sometimes

A while ago I found out my father had bipolar disorder and even though it was hereditary my mum had never told me (I don't live with my dad). I tried to book a doctors appointment as I showed a lot of the symptons but my nan refused to cover for me, she said there was nothing wrong with me and when I told her about all the trouble I had she just kept repeating "You're not like your father"

To make things worst my two of the three people I really need to get me through this are on holiday and the other one, I may never speak to again for complicated reasons and I miss them more than I can say, and I don't think it's fixable

Please help

hey, i no what you are going through a couple of years ago my parents said my arm problem was nothing, turned out to be very very serious in the end almost costing my life. what i would do is maybe contact a dr yourself and organise an appointment without lettin anyone know
itsbetter to do that then to not let it get checked and for itjust to get worse
and you don't need to lose weight if u dnt feel you need to
dnt change for someone else
you are who you are

Reply 4

Rutter knows best!

12

contact the doctor. **** what anyone thinks.

jus book an appointment and go, you don't need anyones approval.

and be honest with them don't try to sound stronga nd in control of the situation cos then he can't treat the problem.(jus something i did).

i carved "no love lost" in inch high righting across my chest. that was a pretty low and desperate time for me.

i been to the doctors and its reassuring to know that the wheels are being put into motion to make things better.

your mum sounds a bit insensitive about your weight.

remember everything you say to your doc is confidential.

Reply 5

herbal bug

12

Anonymous

I feel like I'm hitting an all time low in my life

I'm struggling with a lot of family issues, for example my mother won't leave me alone about my weight, she doesn't praise me if I lose any but if I don't she yells at me. She says she won't talk to me if I haven't lost a stone by September! I really do try but I have problems with my metabolism and I'm naturally just curvy

Again like the above posters. only loose the weight for you, no one else. If it doesnt hurt then, you'll only hurt and that's not good. Reemember that you're stunning, whoever you may be and you are special so no one has the right to tell you when/or that you should even loose weight.

Anonymous

A while ago I found out my father had bipolar disorder and even though it was hereditary my mum had never told me (I don't live with my dad). I tried to book a doctors appointment as I showed a lot of the symptons but my nan refused to cover for me, she said there was nothing wrong with me and when I told her about all the trouble I had she just kept repeating "You're not like your father

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I'd say go to the doctors just in case. any form of depression including the one mentioned can show through different outlets and hurts everyone around. It's best for espically you and everyone else to see a doctor..just incase.

anonymous

To make things worst my two of the three people I really need to get me through this are on holiday and the other one, I may never speak to again for complicated reasons and I miss them more than I can say, and I don't think it's fixable

I know it seems hard not being able to contact them but do try, as they are your close friends and even a text or an email may do it.

Just remember you're special and you dont ever need to change for anyone else. if you go to the doctor, they have no obligation to tell your parents. patient/doctor confidentiality.
if you need to. feel free to PM or add me to msn or something. I wont judge you on your user name or who you are. I'm here to help.

If not I wish you all the best and remember, you are you and just remember we are here for you :smile:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

Thank you everyone

Is your nan your mum's mum or your dad's mum? Typical mother-in-law syndrome, she might simply not like him.

It is my mum's mum but she does like him, it's just that his illness gave my mum a lot of difficulties and ended the marriage

I can contact two out of the three friends by text, though I think part of me just doesn't want to ruin their holiday

I will try to book a doctors appointment soon

Reply 7

Nudlz

these friends that you dont see or might not see again you could write to them if there long distance's away. its always nice to have writing from a familar hand

i hope everything gets better soon, keep your chin up

:smile:

Reply 8

herbal bug

12

Anonymous

Thank you everyone
I can contact two out of the three friends by text, though I think part of me just doesn't want to ruin their holiday

you wont ruin their holidays. you're their friends so they won't mind i'm sure :smile:

Reply 9

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

It is my mum's mum but she does like him, it's just that his illness gave my mum a lot of difficulties and ended the marriage

Then it's understandable that your nan doesn't want you and your mum to be broken up by the same affliction. But it's for that reason it's all the more important that you go and see the doctor, just in case you are bipolar. :smile:

Anonymous

I can contact two out of the three friends by text, though I think part of me just doesn't want to ruin their holiday

Then don't. Ask how they are and how it's all going. Hear some good news. If you're anything like me, hearing from your friends will cheer you up no end anyway. :smile:

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