Finding it very difficult adjusting to shared living

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    I'm 26 and have gone from working full time to becoming a full time mature NHS healthcare student, and have had to move 250 miles away into shared living and 1 week in I'm not coping well.

    I have my own on suite room but share a kitchen and toilet with one other guy, but he's always in, never seems to leave his room, so when I'm in I feel claustrophobic and uneasy about leaving my room to use the facilities especially as the kitchen is only big enough for one person to use.

    The situation has become very annoying
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    You're going to have to take the initiative and develop some coping strategies:

    Could you have an agreed schedule, for access to the kitchen for cooking meals? At least, sharing with just one other person, you're not dealing with the leftover washing up from 8 or 9 other people. And you're also not likely to experience the mystery of 'Who stole my milk?' There are some advantages after all.
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    Hi there Sam,

    I'm also 26 and heading to university as a mature student.


    On the scale of problems from 0 to war-torn children in Aleppo, it doesn't sound too drastic.

    Sharing a bathroom and a kitchen is a bit of a change of pace for those of us used to living in our own homes but it's no worse than renting a room in a house or even living with some family members!

    Your roommate has probably never thought about this for a single moment whilst you fret away in claustrophobia. Just have a chat with him and organise times for using the bathroom and the kitchen. Or even taking it in turns to cook, if that's your style.

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    (Original post by Sam00)
    I'm 26 and have gone from working full time to becoming a full time mature NHS healthcare student, and have had to move 250 miles away into shared living and 1 week in I'm not coping well.

    I have my own on suite room but share a kitchen and toilet with one other guy, but he's always in, never seems to leave his room, so when I'm in I feel claustrophobic and uneasy about leaving my room to use the facilities especially as the kitchen is only big enough for one person to use.

    The situation has become very annoying
    Hello ,

    It's a shame that you are feeling this way. You shouldn't feel this way and let him impact on your day to day ways of living as I can guarantee it isn't bothering him. He's just going about his life and that's that. You've just got to look at it as your space - cook when you want too, clean what's yours and just live your life as comfortable as possible - if not, talk to him and see where things go.

    Good luck
 
 
 
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